First30Days2011-03-15T10:39:13Zhttp://www.first30days.com/First 30 Daysinfo@first30days.comLong Term Health Effectshttp://www.first30days.com/quitting-smoking/articles/long-term-health-effects.html2011-03-15T10:39:13ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>When people smoke, they invite a multitude of potential health problems on themselves and others around them. Check out <a href="http://www.1sthealthinsurancequotes.com/long-term-health-effects-smoking.html">this article</a> to learn more. Thanks to Alicia Henderson for sending this in.</p> A Meditation for the New Moon and Solar Eclipsehttp://www.first30days.com/meditating/articles/a-meditation-for-the-new-moon-and-solar-eclipse.html2009-07-22T07:20:46ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Tonight and tomorrow all day are very powerful astrological and energetic times for manifesting. It's the second New Moon in Cancer and a Solar Eclipse.</p>
<p>The New Moon is in effect tonight 11:36 p.m. through tomorrow midnight, and the Solar Eclipse is a total eclipse at 6:30 a.m. Eastern Time.</p>
<p>We would like to share with you a simple new-moon/solar-eclipse Manifesting Meditation which you can do alone or with others.</p>
<p>First, sit silently for a few minutes centering within yourself. Put your hands on your belly or your heart and take a few deep breaths into these areas to bring more awareness into your body and quiet your mind. When you feel ready, write down up to 10 things you would like to see happen in your life. It could be anything, but at the same time be realistic about your wishes. Use affirmative language and be very clear about what you want.</p>
<p>After you have finished, you can read your wishes aloud to make them more clear for yourself. As you read try to feel all those things as very possible and tangible, while releasing the details of how to get there, leaving it up to the special magnetism of this astrological time to draw it to you. You will begin to receive clues as to which actions to take in order to materialze your visions in the days and months to come.</p> Having a Job These Dayshttp://www.first30days.com/making-change-easier/articles/having-a-job-these-days.html2009-03-24T13:45:59ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>So you see a good friend lose her job and you want to help. You take her out to lunch and keep the conversation light and peppy. Then at the end of the meal you pass her the names and numbers of some contacts who might be able to help her. You say, “I’ve emailed your name to them and they’re anxious to hear from you.” And you both leave happy, right?<br />
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Well, maybe not.<br />
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You've done something for her that probably won’t really help out that much, because most of the people you know are in middle management and below. And there are hiring freezes on right now.<br />
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Have no fear. You can do so much more that you don’t even realize. <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/03/21/your-money/21money.html?8mon=&_r=1&emc=yma1&pagewanted=print">Ron Lieber</a> of <em>The New York Times</em> suggests seven categories of ideas for helping friends caught in the economic downturn. We guarantee you will enjoy doing this so much more than compiling a list of “contacts.”</p> A Yen for Zenhttp://www.first30days.com/getting-organized/articles/a-yen-for-zen.html2009-03-23T07:32:47ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>We know people who love to clean. “You get into it,” they say. “It’s like Zen for cleaning.” We know people who <em>should</em> love to clean, because they live surrounded by clutter. They have a yen for the Zen, but not enough to do anything about it.<br />
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A question: How many books are there now that will help you with your clutter, help you realize that your clutter, as long as it’s there, is merely an outward manifestation of an overburdened mind? (Or something like that. Maybe it’s the other way around.) Anyway, no matter.</p>
<p>Proposition One: Most of us have clutter at home.</p>
<p>Proposition Two: Most of us want it magically to disappear or organize itself.</p>
<p>Therefore, there are books to give us courage. But do they work?<br />
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Well, here’s <a href="http://www.newsweek.com/id/190378">a lively opinion</a> from someone who doesn’t quite fall for the shtick these books promote. We all have a yen for Zen, but some of us have doubts. At least, once in awhile.</p> Giving Up Possessionshttp://www.first30days.com/reducing-debt/articles/giving-up-possessions.html2009-03-20T08:59:10ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>We don’t like to think about giving up our prized possessions. But these days some people are doing just that. And doing so helps them pay their bills.<br />
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Even though we’ve collected our “prizes” for our enjoyment and hope we can sell them for a good price when we’re ready to, today’s economic realities are making some decisions for us. But maybe that’s why we have these things in the first place. Their value brings buyers quick.<br />
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If you’re thinking these same thoughts about some of your possessions, <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/03/18/selling.prized.possessions.irpt/">read this story</a>. You’ll be able to empathize with the folks quoted.</p> There Is a Purposehttp://www.first30days.com/grieving/articles/there-is-a-purpose.html2009-03-19T08:38:04ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Our hearts go out to the family of Natasha Richardson, a magnificent actress from a line of actors/actresses. She died yesterday after sustaining injuries in a skiing accident Monday. She was 45.<br />
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Her mother is Vanessa Redgrave, the actress, and her father was Tony Richardson, the director. Natasha Richardson was married to Liam Neeson, also an actor. They have two children. <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2009/SHOWBIZ/Movies/03/18/obit.richardson/index.html">Details here</a>.</p> Stress Reliever? I Think We Knew Thishttp://www.first30days.com/living-healthier/articles/stress-reliever-i-think-we-knew-this.html2009-03-18T08:36:06ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>AIG, Bank failures, 401(k) realities, the news in general. There’s stress everywhere. So whatcha gonna do?<br />
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Well, how about smooching, making out, canoodling, kissing? Seems that there’s more to it than just preludes and dynamic tension. Cortisol declines in men and women. Oxytocin increases in men, decreases in women. Interesting. And the same things happen, although less intensely, when a couple holds hands.</p>
<p>Ah, togetherness. It beats Facebook anyday.<br />
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Conduct your own research. Feel better.</p> Living with News Reports on Bank Losseshttp://www.first30days.com/having-more-money/articles/living-with-news-reports-on-bank-losses.html2009-03-17T10:15:32ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>When we read our newspapers, we usually react or respond quickly to the lead information in stories then move on to the next one. We do the same thing with web news. Here’s a story that can make our hearts sink and a lump come to our throats. But, if we scroll down, that is, “read below the fold” so to speak, we may be able to put <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29619163/">a report like this one</a> in context.<br />
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Context is what we all need these days, isn’t it? What’s the big picture? How do we interpret this data we’re getting? Admittedly we know these news reports detail what happened in the recent past, but we sometimes treat the information like it’s up-to-date as of yesterday or something. We can’t help it, but then we feel bad.<br />
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If you go to today’s link, scroll down to the section, “People may not understand the context,” and you’ll begin to feel better. We all need that, right? Because we’re not in charge of the entire financial situation, just our little corner of it, which probably means this: bank or mattress? As far as we’re concerned a little context helps create a little peace.</p> Off the Radarhttp://www.first30days.com/frugal-living/articles/off-the-radar.html2009-03-16T10:36:01ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>When we “follow” the news, we tend only to see through the news gatherers' eyes. That means we’ve heard a lot about home foreclosures and the weak housing market. But here’s a development we weren’t expecting. <br />
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News organizations are looking a little more deeply now and seeing in trouble a passel of renters who are getting blindsided with little notice, because their landlords are walking away from property management. In a nutshell, while still occupied by tenants, large apartment complexes are being abandoned by the owners.<br />
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We will say, though, that by the end of <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/29697413/">this report,</a> there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Let’s hope all the receivers for these properties will be as conscientious as Trigild, Inc. seems to be.</p> Obama's First 30 Dayshttp://www.first30days.com/making-change-easier/articles/obamas-first-30-days.html2009-03-12T09:11:59ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>As you may expect, we notice when someone of like mind to us uses a month as a measuring post. But when they describe that month in terms of 30 days, we’re positively thrilled to the tips of our collective toes. We understand their language from the start.<br />
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On that note, here’s a post from a friend of spirit, so to speak, <a href="http://www.theliberaloc.com/2009/02/21/obamas-first-30-days/">The LiberalOC.com</a>. You’ll see a list culled from a couple of sources, Rachel Maddow—whom we adore—as the first one.<br />
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These days it’s interesting to read a list presented without judgment or wonky analysis. If you want details, you may follow the links for <a href="http://www.theliberaloc.com/2009/02/21/obamas-first-30-days/">a story about any of the 17 items</a>.</p> The Source of Tears?http://www.first30days.com/smart-investing/articles/the-source-of-tears.html2009-03-11T08:36:45ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Every day we read and hear the latest developments and discoveries about the economic health of our global village. Here’s a very interesting article we found in <a href="http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/education/article5821706.ece">The Sunday Times Online</a>. You can read it and add the information to your pool of thoughts about the current economic woes.<br />
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According to the article, the trail of economic tears we’re currently traveling may lead inexorably back to Harvard where MBAs were conferred on many of the corporate execs and VIPs of the big banks and firms that recently went down.</p>
<p>We'll quote Jack Benny here. "Well!"</p> When It's Time to Waste a Little Bit of Timehttp://www.first30days.com/being-happier/articles/when-its-time-to-waste-a-little-bit-of-time.html2009-03-10T17:50:40ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>There’s much to worry about with the current economy, isn’t there? So we don’t advocate taking our minds off our collective problems completely. But personally we all do have a variety of interests, achievements, joys, successes as well as problems on our minds.<br />
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Every once in awhile we need to deal with our smaller problems just to give us room to have a little more joy in life. Here’s the critical, albeit light, question: What do you do when you need a little downtime and you’re tired of Facebook? (Or You Tube, MySpace, Digg, Twitter and so on.)<br />
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Well here are <a href="http://www.switched.com/2009/02/27/21-places-to-go-when-youre-sick-of-facebook/">21 places you can go</a> when you need to take a virtual breather and can’t really leave your computer for long enough to commit to a healthy walk or dinner with a friend.</p> Auction Theater for 2,000http://www.first30days.com/smart-investing/articles/auction-theater-for-2000.html2009-03-09T07:48:31ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>It’s a strange housing situation we now find ourselves in. The banks aren’t lending and the general public doesn’t really know what to think about the economy, except to be concerned.<br />
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Here’s a story that will stir your feelings. Foreclosures make us feel one way. Auctions make us feel another. And how do we feel about the people who go to these auctions? Are they all opportunists? That’s a difficult question to answer. <a href="http://www.cnn.com/2009/US/03/08/foreclosure.sale/index.html">This story</a> may not answer that question conclusively, but it puts a human face on buyers at these auctions.<br />
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This particular auction happened Sunday and drew 2,000. So what do you think?</p> Relating to Job Loss, Who Worries about What?http://www.first30days.com/losing-your-job/articles/relating-to-job-loss-who-worries-about-what.html2009-03-06T07:34:29ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Edward Jones, the financial-services firm, commissioned a general survey of many different groups of people to find out their job-loss fears in the current economic climate. The results are pretty interesting because the survey covers gender splits, age differences and ethnicity among other factors.<br />
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Unemployment tops the list for both females and males. Ah, togetherness. After that, there are differences. And, as usual, the spice is in the difference. Enjoy the read from <a href="http://pacific.bizjournals.com/pacific/stories/2009/02/23/daily6.html"><em>Pacific Business News</em></a>. See if you fit the survey results.</p> Young Cooks at the Forefronthttp://www.first30days.com/pursuing-your-dreams/articles/young-cooks-at-the-forefront.html2009-03-05T09:53:31ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Have you ever imagined what it’s like to cook for state dinners at The White House? It must be exciting, right? Frightening? Yes, at least, a little bit. What if you are 9 or 10? Huh!?<br />
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It seems that a program called Young Chefs Academy introduces children to cooking as if they were to prepare a dinner for 75. And, to help with the curriculum and the execution of the program, the operators of the Academy have enlisted the aid of former White House Executive Pastry Chef Roland Mesnier. He’s the chef with the longest tenure at The White House, 26 years for five presidents.<br />
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These children get it. One 6-year-old took great care to make her chicken dish visually appealing. Impressive.<br />
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<a href="http://www.cnn.com/2009/LIVING/homestyle/03/05/young.chefs/index.html">What a dream</a>. Sounds fun to us and delicious. Can we be kids again?</p> Everywhere It's NPRhttp://www.first30days.com/mastering-the-ipod/articles/everywhere-its-npr.html2009-03-04T18:32:32ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>We love our iPods. We also love NPR.</p>
<p>In the car, in the kitchen, in the office. We can drive our co-workers and family members crazy with NPR. It's always with us. After all, it was such a comfort in the Walkman age when some tragedy would occur and we could listen to the broadcasts.</p>
<p>But, those were just the days of <em>local</em> public-radio access. Besides we don't have a Walkman anymore.</p>
<p>So what is the old adage? Ask and ye shall receive? Well, we did and we have…received, that is. The Public Radio Tuner!!</p>
<p>Jake Shapiro of PRX, or the Public Radio Exchange, has helped develop the Public Radio Tuner for the iPhone and the iPod Touch. That's a product that makes us ecstatic. Perhaps you, too?</p>
<p>All the main public-radio networks had a hand in the development support for this cool app. Imagine what any industry could accomplish if friendly competitors would work together.</p>
<p><a href="http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=101386651">Read all about it.</a></p> The Effects of Politicshttp://www.first30days.com/finding-romance/articles/the-effects-of-politics.html2009-03-03T09:52:29ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>In the old days, elections were mysterious and remained so even after television made them <em>seem</em> public. Still, regular folks never saw the back-room deals and pit bulls certainly didn’t enter the political discussion. (Maybe they were there all along and we just didn’t know it. But, lipstick? Heck no. None o’ that.)<br />
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Fast-forward to today. John McCain’s daughter has posted <a href="http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2009-03-02/looking-for-mr-far-right/">a blog on The Daily Beast</a> about—apologies to Monty Python—the “lingering afterburn” of her election experience. She’s quite clear about her state of mind and frankly we find it stunningly interesting.<br />
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Who’d have guessed <em>this</em> would happen AND that we’d know about it? Yes we can live without the knowledge. However, at least it’s not dull. Way to go, Meghan. Tell the world. We hope it helps dissipate the problem of goofy guys trying to get next to ya. But, we also hope this is a one-time revelation.</p> Mega-Storm Wake Uphttp://www.first30days.com/moving-to-a-new-city/articles/mega-storm-wake-up.html2009-03-02T08:14:41ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>If you’re stuck in the northeast, can’t get away, and feel those minutes ticking by slowly, why not add fuel to fire, heartache to misery, detail to detail? Here’s <a href="http://www.weather.com/newscenter/topstories/todayinweather.html?from=hp_news">a link</a> to weather.com’s story that tracks minute-by-minute developments from this morning's winter storm.<br />
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You can read the overall report, then see maps for different major cities/”corridors.” You can read the news briefs that get posted every 15 minutes or so and see videos of troublespots. Then you can decide to stay in or go out.<br />
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It’s a great day to be a remote contractor, that’s for sure. So after you make a cup of hot chocolate and test that Snuggie you bought a couple of weeks ago, you can still get your work done.</p> America's Worst Intersectionshttp://www.first30days.com/going-green/articles/americas-worst-intersections.html2009-02-26T13:17:59ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Here’s a list that can only grow over the decades. The 100 worst traffic intersections. These are NOT roadways we’re talking here! They’re intersections! Many roadways in this country have multiple bad intersections. And they’re here on this list.<br />
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“We’ll be moving to Montana soon….”<br />
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Can you imagine? Pedestrian traffic is preferable to sitting in these jams. Use this as a warning sign. Stay home. Work from home. Become a celebrity columnist. Write about the virtues of making life in your local community better. Then stay there. Don’t go out. Invite people over. Live the salon life. Whew!<br />
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<a href="http://www.forbes.com/2009/02/24/traffic-intersections-worst-lifestyle-autos_intersections_full-list.html">Here’s the list.</a> There’s also a link on the page to the full story.</p> Wha' Happened?http://www.first30days.com/making-change-easier/articles/wha-happened.html2009-02-25T08:16:52ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Last night the President gave his first big speech as President. So what are we to make of it? Good question since some cable networks ran audience-reaction distractions onscreen during the speech. Who knew what to think while he was talking?<br />
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Of course, the question is rhetorical, mais ou sont les neiges d’antan? In other words, we must ask, where is the unfiltered access to information of yesteryear? Why can’t we watch news events without a crawl or a rating system like audience-reaction gauges that update moment by moment while The Prez speaks?<br />
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We have no answers, just questions. If you were distracted, too, or missed some of the speech and commentary last night, here’s <a href="http://www.voanews.com/english/2009-02-25-voa9.cfm">a fair report</a> to get you started. It’s from the Voice of America.</p> Oscar Afterbuzzhttp://www.first30days.com/pursuing-your-dreams/articles/oscar-afterbuzz.html2009-02-23T09:05:39ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>There were no surprises at the Oscars last night. At least, we didn’t think so. And we’re happy Kate got hers just so we don’t have hear anymore how she’s always a nominee and never a winner. (Always a bridesmaid and never….) Finally. Now we can just regard her as an actress, rather than "someone deserving of an Oscar."<br />
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Kudos to Penelope Cruz, of course. But the main point of interest about last night’s somewhat classy, scaled down presentation seems to be Hugh Jackman’s performance.<br />
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Check out this report and go straight for the comments if you want the true discussion. <snark on=""></snark></p>
<p><a href="http://hollywoodinsider.ew.com/2009/02/oscars-baz.html?iid=top25-Oscars%3A+Baz+Luhrmann+on+Hugh+Jackman's+hosting+performance">Read here.</a><br />
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<snark off=""></snark>And, yes, we loved Wall-E, too.</p> How Not to End a Callhttp://www.first30days.com/being-happier/articles/how-not-to-end-a-call.html2009-02-20T14:05:11ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>OK. We know a bunch of people who’ve done this and you do, too, we’ll bet. They’ve dropped their cell phones in the toilet. Gaaaa! Phooey! (Or, they say something like that.)<br />
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Today we’re offering up <a href="http://www.switched.com/2007/08/15/how-to-save-a-wet-cell-phone/">a link</a> to great advice for this eventuality. It seems like more than an urban legend-for-success, so we wanted to pass it along. Plus, the text is easy to read. It’s short and is accompanied by a video with mediocre acting and gnarly design. So, perfect. Right?<br />
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Sure is. Don’t forget to read the comments below for advice on similar problems as well as a message from one guy who writes what the video shows. Hey, thanks guy! That helps.</p> We Like a Little FREE-domhttp://www.first30days.com/being-happier/articles/we-like-a-little-free-dom.html2009-02-19T08:39:30ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Behaviors change over time. Just six months ago, we were all about luxury, buying little things to make us feel cushioned from the harshness of the real world. And, why did we do this? Because we deserved it. At least, we thought we did.<br />
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Let’s tell the truth now, though. Don’t we still think we deserve little luxuries? Lattes, maybe milk shakes, a sauna here, a massage there. Sure we do. But we can’t afford it now.<br />
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So how do we pamper ourselves in the age of meltdowns and bailouts? With free stuff, that’s how. Read <a href="http://www.walletpop.com/blog/2009/02/19/frenzy-for-cheap-stuff-is-the-iconic-image-of-this-recession/">this article</a> and see if you recognize yourself. We sure recognize ourselves.</p> Thud!http://www.first30days.com/smart-investing/articles/thud.html2009-02-18T07:57:31ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Here we go. Let’s poke a little fun at the current economic mess we’re in. (Not much—just a little OK?—while hoping for better days ahead.)<br />
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We like <a href="http://www.investmentnews.com/apps/pbcs.dll/article?AID=/20090215/REG/302159998/1003">this investment editorial</a>, because it acknowledges that government experts are stymied. (We love that word. It reminds us of The Little Rascals.) And there’s that term, “toxic-paper,” too: Useful it is. So everyone’s stumped. Sooner or later someone will figure out the mess if s/he’s an expert in “market structure and theory.”<br />
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It sounds like we need someone who can see all the way down to the bottom of the mess. Anyone out there with x-ray vision?</p> The$e Car$ Are Ju$t for Funhttp://www.first30days.com/buying-a-new-car/articles/these-cars-are-just-for-fun.html2009-02-17T08:14:33ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Have you ever wondered where car names come from and what makes a good one? Here’s <a href="http://autos.aol.com/article/general/v2/_a/best-car-names/20081230133009990001">a list of 10</a> that is just plain fun to read. A lot of the cars are also just plain fun to see.<br />
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Who remembers the Dodge Swinger, though? We’re surprised it made the list at all. But its name did offer a certain promise back in the late 1960s, of course.<br />
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Have fun today.</p> Bipartisanship 101http://www.first30days.com/making-change-easier/articles/bipartisanship-101.html2009-02-16T09:32:37ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Here’s a lesson in bipartisanship whether you agree or not. <a href="http://news.aol.com/main/obama-presidency/article/mccain-obama-stimulus/344175">McCain speaks</a> on <em>Meet the Press</em>. Perhaps, though, he shouldn’t be the one to criticize Obama. Whatever McCain says, it’s still barely over three months from the election. His message can’t help but carry a subtext. So, maybe another Republican should do the criticizing while McCain keeps his own counsel for awhile.<br />
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His statements may be to the point. It’s hard to agree without qualifying them. After all, McCain’s campaign rhetoric itself got a little more testy than he promised it would. Everyone makes promises. Let’s just see how it all plays out.</p> The Lighter Newshttp://www.first30days.com/understanding-hdtv/articles/the-lighter-news.html2009-02-13T07:48:59ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>In the midst of the financial meltdown and attempts to structure a recovery, here’s an important news item. We get a reprieve on switching over to DTV. Now THAT’S important!<br />
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<a href="http://www.google.com/hostednews/afp/article/ALeqM5gncM__9eCAaX9DcsR-J3a8YRYIcQ">Read about it here</a>. Yesterday President Obama signed a bill delaying the analog-to-digital switchover until June. (Yeah, it reminds us of the guy in class who gets an extra weekend to write his paper, the one that’s been due for a month, because he just isn’t ready.)<br />
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A lotta people didn’t like that guy.<br />
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But, we don't mind him or the delay. We’re ready for the switch when it comes. We did our homework and our shopping months ago. Why wait?<br />
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But, just in case you aren’t ready and didn’t know about yesterday’s bill, the switch is postponed until June 12. You don’t have to toss the rabbit ears just yet. And your old crank TV will still work.<br />
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(Yeah, we know you still have a black-and-white TV in the basement. Har har. Why don’t you go on down there and watch the tubes warm up? That ought to be good for 15 minutes of entertainment. Wait a minute. That sounds sort of charming. May we join ya?)</p> Politics, Anxiety, Disappointmenthttp://www.first30days.com/losing-your-job/articles/politics-anxiety-disappointment.html2009-02-12T08:04:35ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>We’ve been watching the sideshows in Congress on the stimulus package. It’s hard for everyone and her sister not to have an opinion on this issue. Today one of our favorite columnists, <a href="http://www.courier-journal.com/article/20090212/COLUMNISTS09/902120354/1016/OPINION">Betty Winston Baye</a>, writes hers.<br />
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“Come on, people.”<br />
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She’s right. After all, we got ourselves a story here full of politics, anxiety, and disappointment. And most of it is because of bad behavior and jockeying for position in 2010. Political shenanigans again? You betcha.<br />
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It’s a centrist’s dilemma. Keep “comforting the comfortable” as Paul Krugman says. It’s weakening the help we need now.<br />
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Well, fools rush in as they used to say. Obama, Baye writes, is no fool. And neither are you, Betty. You’re right. The American people will quickly figure out who are the fools.<br />
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Way to Go, Betty.</p> See Stars Dancing with Wozniakhttp://www.first30days.com/switching-to-a-mac/articles/see-stars-dancing-with-wozniak.html2009-02-11T19:51:28ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>OMFreakingG. We mean REAL stars if you’re dancing with him and he steps on your foot.<br />
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You’ve heard the phrase “to the manor born”? Uh, remember, the Woz is more to the GARAGE born than the ballroom. After all, that’s where those Apples came from, right?<br />
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Yikes! We’re almost afraid to watch this little bit of terpsichorean magic.<br />
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Here’s the, uh, skinny: His competitors include an Olympic gymnast, rapper Li’l Kim—Li’l Kim!?!?!?—Denise Richards, and Belinda Carlisle. (At least, Belinda’s picture was believable on those water skies, true or not.) All light on their feet no doubt.<br />
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So, how’s the Woz gonna do it? Seriously! Where’s the center of gravity on this guy? On the couch? We hope it’s not his partner’s foot.<br />
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Ouch!<br />
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<a href="http://news.cnet.com/8301-10797_3-10159282-235.html">Read at your own risk</a>.</p> Music Makes Us Happyhttp://www.first30days.com/being-happier/articles/music-makes-us-happy.html2009-02-10T10:46:11ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>All in all, the Grammys on Sunday were a mess. Excruciating in spots as usual. People can't ad lib anymore. They don’t laugh at themselves much. And some of the outfits…ack! ‘nuff said.<br />
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Still a couple of performances were worth the price of admission—free, that is, to home viewers.<br />
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We were pleasantly surprised at Robert Plant’s articulate first-acceptance speech. But, what we really loved was the chemistry in his performance with Alison Krauss. They deserved their awards. Their sizzle together came from their understated performance and straight-ahead rhythms. The younger acts can learn a thing or two. <a href="http://www.grammy.com/Recording_Academy/News/Default.aspx?newsID=3229">Here’s a report </a>for reference.</p> Spiritual Uplifthttp://www.first30days.com/living-more-spiritually/articles/spiritual-uplift.html2009-02-09T07:56:34ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Every so often we like to see what uplifting sites are available on the web for those moments in the day when we need a short break for spiritual centering.<br />
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The other day we stumbled on the <a href="http://www.spirituallivingnetwork.com/">Spiritual Living Network</a>. It’s a pleasant site with forums, chat, and among other things, articles. We’ll keep it as a resource to return to as we need to. It’s comforting to see sites that emphasize the oneness among the multitude of paths we take as spiritual human beings.</p> Keeping, uh, Down with the Joneses?http://www.first30days.com/selling-a-home/articles/keeping-uh-down-with-the-joneses.html2009-02-06T09:54:23ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Okay, we admit. Selling your house is a dicey prospect these days, maybe even no prospect at all. Plus, all talk of this little problem borders on the mundane, doesn't it? But we’re still talking about it almost like “how ya doin’? How’s the weather? Sold your house yet?”<br />
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Of course the answers are “all right,” “rotten,” and “no.” And that “no” continues to be the answer, right? Yep.<br />
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To make yourself feel better, check out how the rich folks and celebrities are coping with the problem of house sales. Here’s a great little blog, <a href="http://www.zillowblog.com/category/celebrity-real-estate/">the Zillow Blog</a>, that will update you on all such matters. What’s great about the blog is it tracks these stories from their birth as rumors through their mid-life as real stories.<br />
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Looks like we, the little people, aren’t alone in our prospects of house sales. So, have fun and take note of the rumors. They make the better stories this close to the weekend.</p> Effects of a Bad Combinationhttp://www.first30days.com/quitting-smoking/articles/effects-of-a-bad-combination.html2009-02-05T05:06:15ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Researchers at the University of Alabama at Birmingham have found that the combination of alcohol and cigarette smoke increases the chance in humans of liver disease. They say the increase is significant.</p>
<p>So, read <a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/137861.php">this report </a>and be mindful of its findings.</p> An Open-and-Shut Case?http://www.first30days.com/surviving-a-natural-disaster/articles/an-open-and-shut-case.html2009-02-04T07:52:18ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Doctors must have a sense of humor to envision new ways of retrieving organs. This one’s a real dilly. U. S. surgeons have removed a kidney through a vagina.<br />
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Well, whatever…. Just <a href="http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7867837.stm">click</a>.</p> iPod iNfo eSsentialshttp://www.first30days.com/mastering-the-ipod/articles/ipod-info-essentials.html2009-02-03T08:29:46ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>You may be able to tell by the title of this item that we love our iPods. And that love makes us want all the latest news. So, here’s a <a href="http://ipod.macrumors.com/">nifty little web site</a> that carries the latest updates in the world of iPod. Sometimes the items are just rumors, but people always love good rumors, don’t they?<br />
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Check it.</p> Feeling Like Yesterday's News?http://www.first30days.com/your-empty-nest/articles/feeling-like-yesterdays-news.html2009-02-02T07:26:19ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>We know how you feel. …all those years you put in beginning with reading the same bedtime stories over and over until you thought all their allure was gone. …all those carpool lines and the soccer games and the trips to the malls and chaperoning field trips and so on.<br />
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And still your little bundles of joy flew the coop, didn’t they? Yep, they did. But, that’s what you raise them to do.<br />
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Now, how do you find <em>your</em> way? The <a href="http://parents.berkeley.edu/advice/parents/emptynest.html">Berkeley Parents Network </a>helps. This web site offers advice, messaging, and reviews of resources. There’s a lot to dig into, so between the First30Days and the BPN, you can read until your little birdies fly back home.<br />
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And you know they will….</p> Get Better Not Bitterhttp://www.first30days.com/reducing-debt/articles/get-better-not-bitter.html2009-01-30T07:59:23ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Wanna get out of debt fast? Well, you can’t do it. It takes time.</p>
<p>Lost your job and still wanna get out of debt? Now, that takes some thought and a strong will, doesn’t it? Yes, it probably does. But, <a href="http://www.debtreductionformula.com/blog/">look here</a>. We found a blog by a guy who’s in that difficult place.<br />
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He has will.<br />
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He has a perspective: Get better, not bitter.<br />
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He doesn’t know how long it will take to get himself out of debt. However, he’s inviting us to watch. It could be fun. Could be gruesome. He could be successful. And, we’re rooting for him.<br />
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He asks, “will you make changes?” Good question. Stick with him on his journey if you’re intrigued.</p> This Meter's for Stepshttp://www.first30days.com/getting-in-shape/articles/this-meters-for-steps.html2009-01-29T07:28:45ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Anyone who's ever known a friend who worked for a company with a personal-health initiative will know what we mean. Pedometer's will change your whole idea of exercise.</p>
<p>The surprise in wearing these devices is they make you instantly aware of every step you take. And all those steps add up to exercise. Suddenly you don't want to sit at your desk anymore. You want to get moving to beat your number from yesterday.</p>
<p>So, go out and <a href="http://www.whtm.com/news/stories/0109/587862.html">get a pedometer</a>. Then you'll be doing laps everywhere. You'll be walking in all kinds of weather. Just don't think people won't notice. Remember to wave when you pass by for the fifth time.</p> Salty Languagehttp://www.first30days.com/living-healthier/articles/salty-language.html2009-01-28T08:14:09ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>We’ve known it for quite awhile. There’s too much sodium in our national diet. Snack foods and fast foods are full of it. Now, according to the <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/28/dining/28salt.html?_r=1&ref=health">Gray Lady</a>, Dr. Thomas Frieden, the commissioner of New York City’s Department of Health and Mental Hygiene, is suggesting that food-company execs cut the level of salt by 25% in the biggest culprits among food items and to do so within five years.<br />
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Now, that’s good news. And if the food companies can’t (or won’t) get it done, he may introduce another option like legislation.<br />
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He just may succeed. After all, he’s the fella behind the calorie counts on menus.<br />
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By the way, don’t you think the illustration with the story says it all? When it rains,….</p> Run Lizard Runhttp://www.first30days.com/going-green/articles/run-lizard-run.html2009-01-27T07:46:19ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>It seems we just can’t depend on anything to stay put these days. Our keys get up and walk away. Our neighbors move without saying goodbye to us. But, we don't have this problem.</p>
<p>Now—evolutionarily speaking—lizards in Arkansas may have to evolve some longer legs to save themselves from pesky fire ants.<br />
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One thing’s for certain. The world keeps turning in many senses of the word. <a href="http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2009/01/photogalleries/evolution-darwin/index.html">Change comes</a> to all creatures on the planet. So, maybe our financial woes really aren’t all that important in the very long run.</p> Richard Parsons to Become Chairman at Citigrouphttp://www.first30days.com/making-change-easier/articles/richard-parsons-to-become-chairman-at-citigroup.html2009-01-22T07:12:31ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Change seems to be coming at us from all directions this week. Citigroup, Inc. <a href="http://apnews.myway.com/article/20090121/D95RQ5QG1.html">announced</a> Wednesday that Richard Parsons will take over as chairman. He was also an advisor on President Obama's transition team. Citigroup's shares rose 31% on Wednesday.</p>
<p>We call Richard Parsons a friend of the family. You may enjoy Ariane's great March 2008 interview with him. In <a href="http://www.first30days.com/making-change-easier/audio/change-nation-richard-parsons-31808.html">this episode</a> of Change Nation, Parsons talks about life after running a major media company, AOL Time Warner, and how he deals with change. His interview is worth bookmarking.</p>
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<p>Here’s a site, <a href="http://www.goodnewsdaily.com/">Good News Daily</a>, that collects all the good news its people can find and posts it daily on the web. At first, we wondered a bit why we’d want to come here. After all, there are no salacious stories, no reports of stars wrecking their lives, or celebrities getting divorced publicly. But, that’s kinda the point, isn’t it?<br />
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Well, it didn’t take long for us to warm up to the concept. Think about it. Isn’t it odd to go somewhere for good news? We thought so but started to feel “good” about it. Good News Daily posts a Thought of the Day, a Hero of the Day, and a Good News Story of the Day. The site regularly watches these news sources: environment, entertainment, tech/science, business, sports, and—our favorite—philanthropy/altruism. Where can you ever expect to find such a source for good news?<br />
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And, guess what kind of weather the site reports? That’s right. Good weather. Today’s was for Honolulu, Hawaii. Sound peachy to us.</p> One Order of Confidence, Please!http://www.first30days.com/being-happier/articles/one-order-of-confidence-please.html2009-01-08T15:47:22ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p><a href="http://www.cravingconfidence.com/">Craving Confidence</a> is the blog brainchild of Patricia Stark, one of those strong people who seems to have done it all and is now going to tell us what she’s learned! Not only did she work in the media in a plethora of roles, she now heads <a href="http://www.mediaimagecoach.com/home.cfm">Media Image Coach</a>, which aims to help business professionals get over that dreaded act of speaking in public.<br />
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Even if you’re not part of the bustling corporate world, Stark has a lot to offer through her blog and accompanying videos—don’t we all crave confidence day to day?!? Having confidence in our professional and personal lives will affect our success with being happier. Think about it: if you’re scared of a variety of situations, from meeting new people to organizing your home, or even “simple” behaviors like leaving a voicemail, you will be building up some serious stress and anxiety.<br />
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If you don’t think you have time for tackling such big issues, think again. Stark makes <a href="http://www.youtube.com/profile?user=cravingconfidence&view=videos">easy-to-digest videos</a> in “Confidence Quickbite” versions, which run for just over a minute. Her blog posts stay on point and are written in a casual yet informative way, like her New Year’s entry that begins, “Forget resolutions. Forget about fad diets,” and instead urges us to dig deep into the past and think about childhood dreams that sadly got lost in adult responsibilities—how can they help us face a new year full of possibilities?<br />
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Hop on over to <a href="http://www.cravingconfidence.com/">Craving Confidence</a> and take a look around. If you have a confidence topic you’d like addressed, you can email Stark about it. Share with us here what you think! What are the situations in everyday life that test your ability to be confident? Going on a job interview for a job I really want is high up there for me! What about you?<br />
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<em>—Alicia Kachmar</em></p> Swayze's Last Dancehttp://www.first30days.com/your-health-diagnosis/articles/swayzes-last-dance.html2009-01-08T12:46:34ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>If you're a child of the 80's like myself, you probably grew up with a soft spot for Patrick Swayze and if you're a dude, maybe even a man crush. It's OK, you can admit it. We were all blown away by how he taught Baby all of those hot moves in "Dirty Dancing," and collectively cried our eyes out during the pottery scene in "Ghost." And, by the way, if you've never seen the Saturday Night Live sketch where <a href="http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xu9mx_patrick-swayze-chippendale_dating">Swayze and Chris Farley battle it out for a spot as a Chippendales dancer</a>, I'm not hesitant to say that you haven't yet lived.<br />
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Swayze's status as a generational Mr. Congeniality brings the sad news of his diagnosis of pancreatic cancer even closer to home, especially since it's likely that he only has between two and five years left to live. But, just like Johnny Castle didn't let those stuffed shirts at the country club tell him how to dance, Swayze isn't letting cancer stop him from moving forward. <br />
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"Two years seems likely if you're going to believe statistics. I want to last until they find a cure, which means I'd better get a fire under it," he told Barbara Walters. Instead of resigning to convalescence, Swazye opted to tackle a starring role in a tough cop drama for A&E called "The Beast," which debuts next week and has already gotten great reviews.<br />
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He may not have a whole lifetime left, but Patrick Swayze is showing us that in the face of a devastating diagnosis, the best thing we can do is shine.<br />
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<em>—Joy Hepp</em></p> Guy Speakhttp://www.first30days.com/improving-relationships/articles/guy-speak.html2009-01-08T12:39:10ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Aren’t you tired of sounding like a broken record, asking the same question 10 times in a relationship and never getting a straight answer? <br />
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Well, maybe it’s you.<br />
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Your communication style, that is. If you’re trying to talk to your boyfriend or your husband and you don’t feel like you’re getting through, you might want to change your tactic a bit. Here are four of the more popular relationship questions and how you can rephrase them to get your message across. <br />
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DON’T ASK: Can you not slobber on me when you kiss me?<br />
INSTEAD, SAY: I've been dreaming about you kissing me right there/like this. Want to reenact my dream?<br />
WHY? <a href="http://www.first30days.com/experts/ian-kerner/changeography">Sex expert Ian Kerner, Ph.D.</a>, says that talking about sex and romance should be sexy, creative, fun and naughty, not instructional or critical. <br />
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DON'T ASK: Why would you back out of a party if you promised we'd go?<br />
INSTEAD, SAY: I thought we were planning on doing this, like we talked about. <br />
WHY? Saying "I" makes your communication clear, says author <a href="http://www.first30days.com/experts/dr-jackie-black/interview">Jackie Black, Ph.D.</a>, as guys have a tendency to be distracted.<br />
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DON’T ASK: Would it kill you to take me out some place nice for a change?<br />
INSTEAD, SAY: I really love our weekly burger and beers night and I think it would be fun to add something a little different to the mix, too. How about we try that new wine bar on 39th street?<br />
WHY? Acknowledging first what you like softens a request for something different, says relationship expert <a href="http://www.first30days.com/experts/wendy-atterberry/changeography">Wendy Atterberry from The Frisky</a>. Also, being careful to use the word "and" instead of "but" lets men know you don't want to completely change what he's doing, you just want to add to what he's doing.<br />
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DON’T ASK: You're not still dating other people, are you?<br />
INSTEAD SAY: I'm really happy with how things are going between us and I'm ready to make things more exclusive. How would you feel about that?<br />
WHY? Not only is the second question non-accusatory, it assertively and succinctly expresses how you're feeling and creates an opening for honest communication about your relationship, Atterberry explains.<br />
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Have you changed your communicatio style to accomodate your partner? How has it worked?</p> Getting Money for Your Businesshttp://www.first30days.com/starting-a-new-business/articles/getting-money-for-your-business.html2009-01-07T14:39:20ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>There are lots of great reasons to<a href="http://www.first30days.com/starting-a-new-business"> start your own business</a> now. Maybe you’re ready to turn your passion into your profession, or you’ve always wanted to be an entrepreneur. In addition, changes in the marketplace—even negative ones—create new types of opportunities that creative businesspeople can seize.</p>
<p>There’s just one small problem: The credit crunch is making it harder than ever for entrepreneurs to get funding, especially if they’re just starting out. Women may also face extra hurdles that men don’t, according to Suzanne Muusers, principal/business coach at Prosperity Coaching of Scottsdale, Ariz. “Women don’t have the role models that men have had in their lives. Many are totally inexperienced at asking for money, so they may feel awkward and lack confidence.”</p>
<p>Two things are key to mitigating these challenges—being prepared and knowing where to look for moola. Below are some places to start your search, from <a href="http://www.nicolewilliams.com/getahead/how-to-get-funding-when-money-is-tight">Nicole Williams</a>:</p>
<p><strong>Your bank.</strong> Muusers currently sees successfully female entrepreneurs creating relationships with smaller banks. “Once they have established a year or two of deposit history, they are approaching the banker for an expansion loan. The key here is to work the relationship and be visible so that when the time comes, the banker will be more amenable to the proposal.”</p>
<p><strong>Friends and family.</strong> Borrowing from people you know has many advantages—they’re more approachable than a bank, they may be willing to lend to you even if you don’t have a strong credit history, and the terms of the loan may be better. However, it is important to formalize those terms to protect your relationship. Virgin Money, which recently took over CircleLending, is one place to obtain tools for structuring your loan. (Richard Branson of Virgin-mega-success fame launched his empire with a loan from his aunt!)</p>
<p><strong>The Small Business Administration (SBA).</strong> The <a target="_blank" href="http://www.sba.gov/">SBA</a> is not a lending institution itself. But local branches typically maintain relationships with the banking community and can help point you toward potentially amenable lenders. <a target="_blank" href="http://www.score.org/">SCORE</a> is a nonprofit organization that partners with the SBA to offer entrepreneurs tools, training, and additional resources.</p>
<p><strong>Angel funding.</strong> Angel investors are affluent individuals, or sometimes small groups, who are willing to invest their personal resources in a start-up. Most will do this only in exchange for a chunk of your company’s equity, and many also charge a monthly “management” fee. Finding angel investors can take some detective work, but one good online resource is government-affiliated <a target="_blank" href="http://www.activecapital.org/">Active Capital</a>.</p>
<p><strong>Peer-to-peer lending.</strong> For small loan amounts, try <a target="_blank" href="http://us.zopa.com/">Zopa.com</a>. They’ll match individuals searching for a loan of any purpose with others looking to make an investment. Facebook’s LendingClub is also worth exploring.</p>
<p><strong>Your existing lines of credit.</strong> Taking an advance on credit cards still remains a popular source of funding for entrepreneurs because it’s so easy. However, borrowers should exercise caution here—you’ll be paying high interest rates, plus your personal credit rating could be endangered if your business hits a rough patch. And in a weak economy, maintaining a strong credit rating is vital for securing future funds.</p>
<p>As for being prepared, looking and acting like a real business before you approach potential lenders is often critical. If at all possible, you should obtain a business phone number, address, and applicable licenses in advance. Muusers also suggests that would-be entrepreneurs invest some time in finance and business management courses (such as those offered through SCORE) to prepare for the credit marketplace. “Be the expert at what you do,” she says. “Success will follow.” <em>-Helen Young</em></p>
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<p>When I went back to my hometown for the holidays, I spent a lot of time typing away at the local coffee shop. My companions included a man in his 40s who came to play online poker every day, and a whole lot of kids from my former high school who were armed with graphing calculators and visited by serious-looking tutors. <br />
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It was winter break and these kids were studying? I couldn't help thinking back on how even though I had to repeat algebra and take geometry in summer school, I would have died before I spent a precious day of winter break sitting around drinking lattes with a geeky math tutor. (Yes, the kids from my alma mater drink lattes.)<br />
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As I observed this next generation from behind my laptop, I couldn't help feel the urge to approach these youngsters, like a ghost of winter break future, and tell them that they were on the right track and just might find their dream job some day. But I didn't, because I'm still scarred from watching "Mean Girls," which coincidentally, featured Lindsay Lohan joining a club for "mathletes." It turns out I would have been offering them some valid advice. <br />
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Today the <a href="http://online.wsj.com/article/SB123119236117055127.html">Wall Street Journal</a> published a list of the best jobs in America based on the criteria of environment, income, employment outlook, physical demands and stress. Guess which job came in first place? The mathematician, which was followed by actuary, statistician and biologist – all of which, I'm assuming, require some kind of fancy calculator. <em>-Joy Hepp</em></p> A Pet's Passinghttp://www.first30days.com/adopting-a-pet/articles/a-pets-passing.html2009-01-07T08:42:05ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p> As they prepare to exit the White House, the Bush family will be without one key member: their 18 year-old cat, India. The black American shorthair died on Sunday.<br />
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And while people that don’t own or particularly care for animals won’t understand it, for many people pets are a part of the family. After all, who expresses unconditional love like a pet? Sure, it's obviously not the same as losing a person, but it's still a loss that needs to be properly grieved (and acknowledged by others). When my girlfriend’s dog died a few years ago, I was able to find a pet-specific condolence card at the store (proof to me that people take the loss seriously). Another friend who lost his pet in a freak accident was so depressed that he cancelled all of his social engagements in order to deal with his grief.<br />
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As for me, I am so saddened by the loss of any pet that I can't even bring myself to read or watch Marley & Me (<strong>SPOILER ALERT</strong>: the dog dies in the end).<br />
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Have you experienced the loss of a pet? Share your stories below. <em>–Linda DiProperzio</em></p> When Your Paycheck is Never Enoughhttp://www.first30days.com/having-more-money/articles/when-your-paycheck-is-never-enough.html2009-01-07T08:36:48ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>I was having a conversation with a friend the other day who makes twice what I make. In the course of our conversation he says to me that he's stressed out financially. I ask him why and he tells me that he feels broke all the time. He just can't seem to get ahead.<br />
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Working in banking, I hear the same excuses a lot. The most common, and the one my friend tried the other night, was that I "just don't understand his situation." Yeah, ok. I make $30,000 less than he does, but I just don't understand what it's like to never feel like I can get ahead. <br />
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All snarkiness aside, the reality is that my friend needs to stop thinking of his paycheck as never being enough and adjust his expectations. So, here's what I told him.<br />
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1. Stop Living Beyond Your Means. </strong><br />
We hear this a lot in personal finance, but it's true. You can't make $60,000 a year and live like you make $100,000. My friend has two cars and a 5-bedroom house...and he's single. There's no need for all of that. Pick one car and sell the other, then sell the house and buy a smaller one. Sheesh, no wonder he doesn't feel like he can get ahead.<br />
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<strong>2. Stop Keeping Up With the Joneses.</strong><br />
We've all done this to some degree, some more than others. But, we compare ourselves to other people. Stop it! Even if you get to the top of that mountain, there will be others that are taller. When your expectations are not in line with where YOU are, then you'll be disappointed and overextend yourself trying to make up for it.<br />
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For more ideas on how to stop thinking your paycheck is just never enough, visit <a href="http://moneyning.com/money-beliefs/5-surefire-ways-to-stop-thinking-your-paycheck-is-never-enough/">MoneyNing.com</a>. I shared it with my friend and he’s got some major soul searching to do.<br />
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Anybody else find themselves in this situation? Tell us what you're doing! <em>- Kristy Young</em></p> Freaky Foodhttp://www.first30days.com/living-healthier/articles/freaky-food.html2009-01-06T12:09:45ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>I was recently reading an article in <a href="http://www.self.com/health/2009/01/unhealthy-chicken"><em>SELF</em> magazine</a> about recent health scares resulting from contaminated food. The article highlighted the experience of Jenelle Dorner, 32, a woman who has suffered the extreme results of bacteria-laden chicken 14 years ago. Today, the Bloomington, IN woman has developed a condition called gastroparesis, where the food she eats is not able to get to her intestines to be digested. She can only eat her "food" through an IV.<br />
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Obviously, Dorner's case is an extreme one, but it makes me feel so icky about the foods we put into our bodies. How can eating become a harmful activity? It doesn't seem like something so delicious could bring with it so much doubt. <br />
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But can we worry too much? I looked at some of the comments that followed the <em>SELF</em> magazine article, and several readers felt that we are going into a frenzy with food fears. One reader wrote: "Food hysteria has gotten out of control. We can't be scared of EVERYTHING."<br />
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I don't think we should be scared. But I do think this article points to an issue that we cannot ignore. Remember the <a href="http://www.first30days.com/living-healthier/articles/tomatoes-contaminated-by-salmonella.html">salmonella-infested tomatoes</a> and <a href="http://www.first30days.com/living-healthier/articles/tomatoes-released-on-bail.html">jalapenos</a> of this past summer?<br />
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And what about the speculation that actor John Travolta's son's death was possibly related to a condition caused by <a href="http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20249865,00.html">chemical exposure</a>? No, it's not food-related, but it does make you think about what we are putting into our environment—food included—and how it affects our health. <br />
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I'm curious: Do recent outbreaks of food borne illnesses make you worry about what you are eating?<br />
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<em>—Caroline Shannon</em></p> Use Your Head...The Other Onehttp://www.first30days.com/dating-online/articles/use-your-headthe-other-one.html2009-01-06T11:27:37ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Recently, a blog on <a href="http://blogs.creativeloafing.com/bangtown/2009/01/05/online-dating-a-cautionary-tale/">Creative Loafing</a> caught my attention. The author, Mustang Sally, had a friend who had decided to give <a href="http://www.first30days.com/dating-online/articles/love-at-first-site-discovering-online-dating.html">online dating</a> a try. Hey, who hasn’t? Especially in today’s tough times, <a href="http://www.first30days.com/dating-online/articles/resession-romance.html ">online dating sites are experiencing a boom</a>. <br />
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Anyhow, rather than try the big-name online dating sites or even small, <a href="http://www.first30days.com/dating-online/articles/the-online-dating-pool.html">niche dating sites</a>, Sally’s friend opted to give <a href="http://craigslist.org">Craigslist</a> a try because it’s free. Long story short, boy meets girl online, talks with her via email for a bit, and upon their first date, brings her back to his apartment for a one-night stand. The next day when he comes home from work, the guy walks into a busted apartment that’s been cleaned out. Fortunately, he had renter’s insurance. <br />
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This tale was eerily similar to a story from one of my guy friends. He met a girl at a party and brought her back to his apartment for a one-night stand. At some point in the night, she left a window open in another room, and the following Monday my friend came home to the same scenario. <br />
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Oh, boys. <br />
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These stories illustrate the importance of using common sense whether you’re online dating or dating in the real world. If the mood strikes when you’re with someone you just met, for the love of your computer and flat-screen TV, don’t bring them back to your apartment! Go to a cheap motel, because really, does anyone use a cheap, dirty motel for anything but sex? <br />
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What lessons have you (or your friends) learned from dating in the real world or online?<br />
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<em>—Laura Lee Bloor</em></p> Nipples on Facebookhttp://www.first30days.com/using-facebook/articles/nipples-on-facebook.html2009-01-06T10:46:34ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p><a href="http://www.first30days.com/using-facebook">Facebook</a> recently deemed nipples obscene, including images of women breastfeeding (seriously, people, when will that end? It's natural.) <br />
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In response, a young artist named <a href="http://www.ireport.com/docs/DOC-175387">Phil Hansen</a> decided to test the limits of "decency"—and perhaps time-suckage—with an art project. He photographed his nipples and then proceeded to post a profile picture constructed entirely of said nipples to his Facebook page.</p>
<p>Awesome on two counts. Number one, it takes a real man to showcase the most useless part of the male anatomy in such a delightful and cheeky way. Second, it's a great commentary on the fact that women's exposed areas of flesh are constantly construed as obscene while men can walk around sans shirts as they see fit. While I can understand Facebook wanting to keep especially young users from posting provocative photos to the site, a flat-out ban on nipples seems a little heavy-handed.</p>
<p>What do you think?<em>-Kristen Ball</em></p> New Year, New Homehttp://www.first30days.com/moving-to-a-new-city/articles/new-year-new-home.html2009-01-06T10:44:44ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>New Year’s is one of those holidays that can be anti-climactic because of all the hype surrounding that one magical moment when the clock strikes midnight. There is so much pressure to celebrate it in some fantastic, even over-the-top way, and additionally, there is that whole resolution issue that weighs on some of our minds.<br />
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In addition to thinking about the start of 2009, I also had something else bearing down on my mind this year—<a href="http://www.first30days.com/moving-to-a-new-city/articles/making-the-move-to-a-new-city.html">moving to a new city</a>! Well, sort of. During the last couple of days of 2008, I packed up all my belongings in Brooklyn and with the help of my energetic and amazing parents, moved back to “the city,” Manhattan! Although the trip is a mere three miles across the river, the streets of the Big Apple are worlds away from those I knew in residential Brooklyn. Talk about a change of pace and change in lifestyle.<br />
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Because of the big move coinciding with the new year, I have that “start anew” feeling more so than any other year and I’m determined to ambitiously and graciously look forward to the changes ahead. Consequently, I’ve been doing a lot of reading about resolutions and how to go about pursuing them (of course, don't forget to check out our <a href="http://www.first30days.com/account/feature_pdf_signup_login">First30Days Ultimate Guide to New Year's Resolutions</a>), which led me to a <em><a href="http://online.wsj.com/article/SB123033735965236411.html">Wall Street Journal</a></em> article that asked famous people for their resolution lists.<br />
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The <em>WSJ</em> is not exactly my go-to place for advice, but I like how this particular article started off by reflecting on Charles Dickens and his portrayal of the determination of the human spirit in a cold, sometimes bleak city. I couldn’t help but think of myself, lugging boxes in the snow with my chaffed hands, feeling overwhelmed and discombobulated. Although it’s mostly a round-up of resolutions, Nicholas Dawidoff, who penned the article, really struck me with this succinct but striking sentence: “Dicken’s best characters suggest that the story of life is in the striving, the ongoing effort to begin again and become, even for a moment, our very best selves.”<br />
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The stroke of midnight may be one moment and New Year’s just another day, but both are part of this “ongoing effort” and I for one hope to enjoy, appreciate, and strive for all the moments that lie ahead.<br />
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<em>—Alicia Kachmar</em></p> Take Your Baby to Work Dayhttp://www.first30days.com/working-after-baby/articles/take-your-baby-to-work-day.html2009-01-06T10:20:13ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>So, you're starting to think that your allotted three months of maternity leave just isn't going to cut it. Here's a solution; why not <a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2009/01/04/jobs/04babies.html">bring your baby with you</a>? It's not just hippie granola factories and progressive daycare centers that are willing to work with new moms. <a href="http://www.babiesatwork.org/index.html">Babiesatwork.org</a> lists organizations like the Arizona Department of Health Services, Schools Financial Credit Union in Sacramento, and the Seattle Chamber of Commerce as places of work that have policies for parents who want to bring their infants along. The website also offers templates for babies at work programs and advises that employers have a clear-cut set of rules and regulations before they start putting diaper ointment in the supply closet.<br />
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I can personally attest to the fact that this is not an old concept, nor a dangerous one. Back in the early 80's my mom used to take my little infant self along with her to the law office where she worked as a legal secretary. My early introduction to word processors and juicy legal cases is surely what turned me into such a fabulous writer today (I'm only partly kidding.)<br />
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If bringing your newborn to work with you sounds like a good idea, do your research and come up with a plan to present to your organization. Tell your bosses that when your little one grows up to be a brilliant writer, lawyer, or architect that they'll be sure to remember where the magic started. <em>-Joy Hepp</em></p> A Better Money Moodhttp://www.first30days.com/having-more-money/articles/a-better-money-mood.html2009-01-05T12:59:30ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>We've all been so depressed about our money situations that we often forget to be thankful for the things we do have. Here's how you get a better money mood!<br />
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Today's been one of those days. You know the kind of day where you just know that everything would be ten times better if only you had more money. Got a flat tire? No big deal! Had to take a sick pet the vet? Like a drop in the bucket! Yup, that's been my day. And I have to say, I was totally in a mood with my money situation because the truth is, I'm no where near where I want to be financially.<br />
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But, as I was trolling the Net to soothe my aggravated nerves, I came across a blog that made me stop and think a little bit. Mr. <a href="http://toughmoneylove.com/2008/12/23/building-better-mood-about-money/">ToughMoneyLove </a>has a great blog where he's known to say the things we need to hear, no matter how much we don't want to hear them. One of his recent posts addressed the issue of being in a better money mood.<br />
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Mr. ToughMoneyLove talks about the inherent relationship between money and psychology. In that realm, we can find better attitudes towards our money by being grateful for the things we do have instead of focusing on the things we don't. To do so, Mr. ToughMoneyLove says to take about two minutes to think of a few things that enrich your life and, without which, you would be poorer. For Mr. ToughMoneyLove it was the fact that he and his family were able to gather at their vacation home overlooking a lake.<br />
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So, forget the <a href="http://www.first30days.com/smart-investing">stock market</a>, bailouts, inflation, and all the <a href="http://www.first30days.com/reducing-debt">debts </a>you owe for just a few minutes. Consider the positive things you have in your life, be it provided by money or relationships, and just reflect on them. <br />
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As I sat there reading the article and feeling disgruntled about my life, I began to think about what I have. For me it's the fact that I'm independent and don't have to depend on someone else for my well-being. I can work and pay my own bills, thank you very much! With some reflection I began to realize that it's not my money situation that makes the difference, but how I choose to handle these minor emergencies. I can choose to be miserable and let it affect my entire mood or, I can choose to let it go and move on. I'm choosing to move on.<br />
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What about you guys? What's your current money mood and what in your life are you most grateful for? <em>- Kristy Young</em></p> Grieving the Loss of a Childhttp://www.first30days.com/grieving/articles/grieving-the-loss-of-a-child.html2009-01-05T12:36:17ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Nothing is worse than a parent outliving one of their children. Unfortunately, that’s exactly what John Travolta and Kelly Preston are facing after the sudden death of their 16 year-old son, Jett.<br />
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According to Travolta’s lawyer, Jett suffered a seizure Friday morning at his family’s vacation home at the Old Bahama Bay Hotel on Grand Bahama Island. The teen apparently had a history of seizures. His parents had confirmed in the past that he suffered from Kawasaki Syndrome, which can lead to heart disease as well as asthma. They denied rumors that Jett was autistic.<br />
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“He’s my first, and he’s my heart. And he’s a very special boy,” Travolta said in an interview several years ago. “He’s Daddy’s boy. And we spend a lot of time together even though I’m pretty busy. He loves the outdoors and he loves to travel.”<br />
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Losing a child is a heartbreak many people don’t recover from, but I had read somewhere that losing a firstborn is particularly difficult. Maybe it’s because of the time you spent with him/her as the only child that makes that bond run a bit deeper. Whatever the reason, I have no idea what this family is going through right now—and I pray I never do.<br />
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Share your stories or thoughts below. <em>–Linda DiProperzio</em></p> Got a Question for Wayne Dyer?http://www.first30days.com/making-change-easier/articles/got-a-question-for-wayne-dyer.html2009-01-05T09:10:00ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Next week, Ariane will be interviewing <a href="http://www.first30days.com/experts/dr-wayne-dyer/interview">Wayne Dyer</a> about his new movie, "Ambition to Meaning," for a new episode of <a href="http://www.first30days.com/change-nation.html">Change Nation</a>, the First30Days video podcast. <br />
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We'd like to give all our loyal First30Days members a chance to submit a question for the interview. If you have anything you'd like to ask, go ahead and submit your questions in the comments section below. Maybe you'd like to ask about his latest movie, or his last book, <em>Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life</em>, or maybe you'd like to ask about getting through change in your life. Whatever it is—submit it below!<br />
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The interview will be running on January 16th on First30Days.com, so stay tuned.</p> Dollar Cost Or Lump Sum?http://www.first30days.com/smart-investing/articles/dollar-cost-or-lump-sum.html2009-01-02T12:01:32ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>So 2008 wasn't the best year for investing. I get it. However, economists and market-watchers are all optimistic for 2009. With that in mind, let's take a look at <a href="http://www.abcsofinvesting.net/dollar-cost-averaging-dca/">some investment strategies</a> and when the best time to use them would be.<br />
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<strong>Dollar Cost Averaging</strong><br />
This refers to making regular investment purchases are regular intervals. In doing so, it averages out the cost of the investment by buying shares at different prices over time. This particular method is good in a falling market (bear market) because as prices go down, your money will buy more shares. This strategy also reduces the risk of making a large sum investment only to watch the market fall directly after. <br />
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Lump Sum Purchase</strong><br />
This strategy refers to taking a chunk of cash and dropping it into a particular investment. Some will save their contributions until they have a larger sum while others may use a bonus from work. In either case, the sum of money is put into a specific investment vehicle upfront rather than over time. This strategy works well in a rising market (bull market) because as a certain stock or fund is doing particularly well, your money takes full advantage of rising prices.<br />
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Obviously it's hard to time how things will turn out in the market, so trying to time it is pretty much a waste of your time. But, something else these two strategies can help you discover is the type of investor you are. For those who are more conservative, a dollar cost averaging strategy may be better despite the market simply because you have control over the amount of money going into the market. For the risk-takers out there, a lump sum purchase may be better because you want to take full advantage<br />
rising prices when they happen.<br />
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In either case, be sure you talk to you investment adviser and discuss which option works best for you. Have you considered these option in your 2009 investment strategies? Which do you find most beneficial and why?<br />
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<em>—Kristy Young</em></p> I Believe I Can Quithttp://www.first30days.com/quitting-smoking/articles/i-believe-i-can-quit.html2009-01-02T12:01:18ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>If quitting smoking has made its way to the top of your New Years resolutions, you're in good company. As many as 3 million Americans will make quitting smoking a top priority this year (according to <a href="http://www.usmagazine.com/news/stars-2009-new-years-resolutions"><em>US Weekly</em></a>, one among the masses is Cameron Diaz, who also wants to start wearing a bra.)<br />
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There are plenty of tips out there on sites like <a href="http://www.quitsmoking.com">quitsmoking.com</a> and cancer.org, but one of the most important things to remember is that, as R. Kelly pointed in his prolific 1996 ballad "I Believe I Can Fly," visualization is key. In case you don't remember, he crooned, "If I can see it, then I can do it. If I just believe it, there's nothing to it." He was talking about flying, but you get the picture.<br />
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Imagining yourself as a non-smoker is one of the most powerful tools you can use on your way to quitting. Sit back, relax, breathe deep and try some of these affirmations suggested by <a href="http://www.quitsmoking.com/tips.htm">quitsmoking.com</a>:<br />
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"I enjoy breathing easily and deeply." <br />
"I am free from any desire to smoke." <br />
"My hands and teeth are clean and smoke free." <br />
"I enjoy being around non-smokers."<br />
"I am relaxed and calm." <br />
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And Cammie, if you're reading this, here's one for you: "Push-up bras and minty fresh breath will lead to a Golden Globe win." <br />
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<em>—Joy Hepp</em></p> Fit Trends for the New Yearhttp://www.first30days.com/getting-in-shape/articles/fit-trends-for-the-new-year.html2009-01-02T10:58:15ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>It's easy for anyone to see (or hear) that one of the top New Year's resolutions is to <a href="http://www.first30days.com/getting-in-shape/articles/shaping-up-nicely.html">get in shape</a>. Whether it is through <a href="http://www.first30days.com/losing-weight/articles/losing-weight-for-good.html">weight loss</a> or stepping up one's fitness game, people always start out with the best intentions.<br />
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Whether you choose to invest in <a href="http://first30days.com/getting-in-shape/articles/virtual-workout.html">Nintendo's Wii Fit</a>—who would have thought video games could get you fit and trim?—or simply opt to bike to work, some of the best trends of 2009 are sure to get you in to-die-for shape.<br />
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Here are some other fitness trends to expect for 2009. Tell me what you think:<br />
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* <a href="http://kdka.com/health/fitness.trends.2009.2.898249.html">Fusion classes</a>. It's a mix of yoga and pilates (yoga-lates or pil-oga?) that helps you tone and stretch. The good thing is it's designed to give you more of a workout in less time.<br />
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* <a href="http://www.webmd.com/fitness-exercise/news/20081212/hot-fitness-trends-2009">Kettlebell workouts</a>. The American Council on Exercise says these popular Russian dumbells will be all the rage in '09. It might feel a bit like flinging a bowling ball around a room for 30 minutes, but advocates say it's an incredible fat-burning workout.<br />
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* <a href="http://www.redbookmag.com/health-wellness/advice/hottest-health-trends">Genetic health</a>. Some health experts are beginning to rely on nutrogenomics, a fancy term for a diet plan that relies on your DNA to determine a diet plan fit for you. While I think family history can play a part in determining certain health conditions, I am feeling like this plan might be a little too complicated. <br />
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In addition to the Wii Fit—gosh, I love that thing—I am happy to see certain trends, like state laws that require the elimination of trans fats or for <a href="http://www.first30days.com/living-healthier/articles/the-1360-calorie-salad.html">restaurants to list calories</a>. More changes like this are ones I can look forward to for the New Year.<br />
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Are any of these popular trends on your get-fit list for the New Year?<br />
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—Caroline Shannon</em></p> Create Your Own Stimulushttp://www.first30days.com/having-more-money/articles/create-your-own-stimulus.html2009-01-02T10:09:34ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>I've become a big fan of the personal finance blog, Frugal Dad. In fact, I like it so much that my editors and I have all shared some great tips and posts from the site. Not surprisingly, I have another to share.<br />
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He recently posted a great article <a href="http://frugaldad.com/2008/12/28/no-stimulus-check-no-problem-create-your-own/">on bailing ourselves out</a>. Obviously we can't depend on our government to do it, so instead of sitting around complaining about it, let's make some changes on our own.<br />
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Most people ask the question: "How do you save when your salary is barely enough to cover expenses?" It's a fair question, so here's a fair answer. The reality is that you probably haven't cut absolutely everything you can, or done absolutely everything you can to increase your income. Both require some very hard sacrifices, but it can be done.<br />
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So let's break it down. The last stimulus check was $600 per person. Over a year's time that's $50 per month, or $25 per pay check. That's not a lot. But, let's go one step further and show that as $12.50 per week. As Frugal Dad points out, most of us waste $12.50 a week in coffee or junk food. We can cut those out in order to save. <br />
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Now, to bail ourselves out we're going to have to make sacrifices. No one said it would be easy. Do you need cable? Probably not. If you haven't cut it, there's your $50 a month already. Depending on your income, you may only need a couple hours of overtime a week to make the $50. Can you work a couple hours more a week? If not, can you pick up a small part-time job to help bring money in? You probably can. Whether or not you want to is another story.<br />
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How do you guys feel about creating your own stimulus check? Feel free to share your ideas and experiences with the other readers!<br />
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<em>—Kristy Young</em></p> The Heart to Forgivehttp://www.first30days.com/improving-relationships/articles/the-heart-to-forgive.html2009-01-02T10:05:14ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>People say that they would never do it, and yet infidelity happens. What would you do if your partner cheated on you after decades of marriage? Could you find it in your heart to forgive? How long and difficult would the road to recovery be? What makes someone commit the ultimate betrayal?<br />
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These are the questions that author Mimi Gabriel addresses in her fictionalized memoir <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0595442862/ref=s9sims_c1_14_img1-rfc_p_si1?pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=center-1&pf_rd_r=0TACEV90E0PJ76FYHQ55&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_p=463383351&pf_rd_i=507846"><em>The Heart to Forgive: Reclaiming our Relationship After Infidelity</em></a>. It aims to help others struggling to overcome infidelity through real-life stories told from the author's perspective as well as her husband, Les Gabriel.<br />
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While Mimi and Les were able to move past the infidelity her husband brought to their 27-year marriage, it’s important to ask yourself if you could do the same. Once you’ve decided on your position, discuss this with your significant other (ideally before you’re married—it can be part of a <a href="http://www.first30days.com/planning-a-wedding/articles/wedding-planning-your-way.html">wedding planning</a> discussion, along with other major deal-breakers, such as <a href="http://www.first30days.com/channels/family">having kids</a> and <a href="http://www.first30days.com/channels/finances">managing finances</a>.) Even if you’ve already married, talking about the possibility of cheating and its effects can <a href="http://www.first30days.com/improving-relationships/articles/finding-relationship-help.html">improve your relationship</a>. Remember not to freak out if your partner’s response isn’t what you expected. Hear him/her out, put on your empathy hat, and see if you can’t see his/her point of view. <br />
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What’s your position on infidelity? Have you discussed it with your spouse or significant other? What was the outcome?<br />
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<em>—Laura Lee Bloor</em></p> The Prostate Possehttp://www.first30days.com/managing-prostate-cancer/articles/the-prostate-posse.html2009-01-02T09:27:05ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>If you've opted to take Lupron shots as part treatment for your prostate cancer, chances are you've been feeling a lot less like your King of the Jungle self and more like the mouse of the house. Here's how <a href="http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/11/18/real-men-get-prostate-cancer/?scp=5&sq=prostate%20cancer&st=cse"><em>New York Times</em> columnist Dana Jennings</a> describes his treatment:<br />
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"Essentially, my Lupron shots are inducing biochemical (but reversible) castration. Besides the hot flashes and shrinking testicles, another potential side effect is that a man's breasts grow larger and more sensitive."<br />
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If your experience is making you feel deflated, here's a list of some pretty manly men who beat prostate cancer and came out the other side of treatment just as masculine as ever.<br />
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Robert Goulet—Laugh all you want about his early career in musicals, but the American Moustache Institute named its "Robert Goulet Mustached American of the Year" award after him in 2008.<br />
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Arnold Palmer—Not only is this man one of the greatest golfers in history, but he popularized what is quite possibly the world's most refreshing beverage. The Arnold Palmer is half lemonade, half iced tea and 100% delicious.<br />
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"Stormin'" Norman Schwarzkopf—The general in charge of Operation Desert Shield said of prostate cancer to <em>Time Magazine</em>: "For me, it was like war," he says. "First thing you do is learn about the enemy."<br />
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Nelson Mandela—The former South African President opted for radiation therapy. He beat the cancer and recently celebrated his 90th birthday.<br />
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Other famous prostate cancer survivors include Rudolph Giuliani, Harry Belafonte and John Kerry.<br />
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Feel free to pick one of them and develop a bromance as you go through treatment. Read about their life story for inspiration and imagine them high-fiving you as you fight your way through.<br />
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<em>—Joy Hepp</em></p> Go Ahead, Have a Drink!http://www.first30days.com/living-healthier/articles/go-ahead-have-a-drink.html2008-12-31T15:24:32ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>There are a number of reasons to watch alcohol consumption when ringing in the New Year. Not only can excess alcohol wreak havoc on your health, but it is also the number one cause behind an increase in car accidents during the holiday. So use caution when partying like it's 1999…er…2009. <br />
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There are still several ways to enjoy a New Year's libation and keep things under control. As a matter of fact, I am even convinced there's a way to have a drink or two and maintain a healthy way of living.<br />
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Here are a few ways to make a glass of wine or mixed drink a healthy choice:<br />
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* Try a ginger infused liquor drink. A bit of Bacardi Peach or Peach Schnapps mixed with ginger is not only a toasty drink, but the spicy additive will also <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/28306310/">help fight the common cold</a>.<br />
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* A glass of red wine. Take a few sips of merlot or cabernet, and you will get a healthy dose of antioxidants. That's because red wines are packed with disease-fighting polyphenols, resveratrol and flavanoids. That deep purple color is known to fight heart disease, certain types of cancer and slow the progression of certain neurological disorders, like Parkinson's disease.<br />
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* Sip on beer. Even your favorite brew can keep you healthy. Just like its wine brother, a hoppy India Pale Ale, like North Coast Brewing Red Seal Ale or Sierra Nevada Pale Ale, boasts polyphenols, <a href="http://health.msn.com/nutrition/articlepage.aspx?cp-documentid=100197361">fighting off viruses and high cholesterol</a>.<br />
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Let's not forget, however, that a drink is only as healthy as its drinker. Keep things under control—and healthy—by sipping slowly and skipping the drinking games. Men should keep their alcohol limit to no more than two drinks and women should drink no more than one. A single drink constitutes 5 ounces of wine, 12 oz. of beer and 1.5 ounces of distilled spirits.<br />
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My number one reason for moderating things this New Year's Eve? That nasty hangover that follows the next morning. Something about being sick to my stomach and dealing with a 24-hour migraine just is not the least bit appealing to me. That's why I pace myself and follow up a drink with a big glass of water—I've learned my lessons. For those of you who haven't learned your lessons, check out our tips for <a href="http://www.first30days.com/your-health-diagnosis/articles/have-a-holly-jolly-hangover.html">getting over hangovers</a>. <br />
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—Caroline Shannon</em></p> Church Bells for New Year's?http://www.first30days.com/living-more-spiritually/articles/church-bells-for-new-years.html2008-12-31T15:17:57ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Making any kind of promise to yourself involves self-discipline, even if it’s your doctor recommending a low-fat diet or your financial planner outlining a savings initiative for you. When it comes down to it, it’s up to you to make the change! But more often than not, we are aware of the “right” behaviors, and yet, we end up falling short of our goals anyway. How come?<br />
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That’s a loaded question, but a recent article in <em>Psychological Bulletin</em> finds that religious beliefs may further your self-control pursuits. For someone who was raised in the Catholic school system, this of course sounds dead on! But then again, with the threat of hell looming and the daily ritual of going to Mass, it wasn’t always difficult to find the motivation to have self-discipline! What if you don’t have that constant reminder in a group setting?<br />
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However you pray, meditate or get in touch with your spiritual side, you are demonstrating self-control by being focused. Those who do this in a spiritual setting—a mosque, church, synagogue, temple—may have more luck with keeping this focus. But what if you want to <a href="http://www.first30days.com/living-more-spiritually/articles/everyday-spirituality.html">live more spiritually</a>, but not necessarily adhere to the guidelines of a specific religion? That’s a-OK! Try recreating parts of these settings in your own home, by allocating time for spirituality and finding a supportive community of people that is looking for the same.<br />
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When it comes to resolutions and promises, like being a better person, volunteering or aiming for a healthier lifestyle, maybe you are making them to yourself and not necessarily God, but they are important nonetheless. Do you align your resolutions with your spiritual goals? [<a href="http://www.nytimes.com/2008/12/30/science/30tier.html?_r=1&em"><em>The New York Times</em></a>]<br />
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<em>—Alicia Kachmar</em></p> Easy Ways to Financial Ruinhttp://www.first30days.com/saving-for-college/articles/easy-ways-to-financial-ruin.html2008-12-31T09:18:11ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Admittedly, most people go to college to get ahead, but if that's not in your cards, here's some ways to financially set yourself back for years!<br />
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Ok, so my opening is a bit tongue-in-cheek here. Of course we're not advocating that you actually do any of these things, but college years are pretty formative on your financial life, so I thought it would be a good idea to share just how easy it is to set yourself back if you're not careful. <br />
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This particularly fabulous list comes from <a href="http://pimpyourfinances.com/2008/12/12-easy-ways-to-sabotage-your-financial-life-in-college/">Pimp Your Finances</a> which specializes in personal finance for young adults. It's a definite "what not to do" primer! And, if you're well past your college years, it's still great (non) advice:<br />
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Take out more loans than you need.</strong><br />
If these loan places are willing to give you the money, then you should take it, right? Wrong! Those loans will still be there when you graduate and you're struggling in the real world with real bills and very little real money. Borrow only what you need!<br />
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Throw a credit card party.</strong><br />
Just sign on all the dotted lines so you get free money. Then, you use it to party! Woohoo. Yeah, just picture your parents' faces when you drop that little bill on them over winter break. Maybe you want to back away from the credit card applications now.<br />
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<strong>Don't waste your time with a Roth IRA.</strong><br />
I mean, seriously, you're not even old enough to drink so why worry about retirement? It makes no difference to start early and the money is better spent on enjoying your college experiences, however much trouble they tend to get you in. Be sure to say hello to that sweet, old Wal-Mart greeter who thought the EXACT same thing when they were in college. Think they go to work to hand college kids a basket because they want to?<br />
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These are just a few steps to whet your appetites! Be sure to visit <a href="http://www.pimpyourfinances.com/2008/12/12-easy-ways-to-sabotage-your-financial-life-in-college/">Pimp Your Finances</a> for the rest of the 'don't-dos.' You may not even consider some of these as damaging to your financial future, but the truth is, it all matters. Make smart decisions and you'll come out light years ahead. Alright now it's your turn. Give us to "do's" when it comes to college finances!<br />
<em>- Kristy Young</em></p> Jumping the Sharkhttp://www.first30days.com/finding-your-dream-job/articles/jumping-the-shark.html2008-12-31T09:09:58ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Happy Days was one of the greatest programs ever on television. The show's countless fans wanted to be friends with "The Fonz", have a swell boyfriend like Richie or have a cool hang-out like Arnold's Drive-In. Everything was going great and the show seemed like it had the potential to go on forever until one fateful episode in 1977 when an oddly concocted script called for Arthur Fonzarelli to jump over a shark on his motorcycle. Fans said the series was never the same after that ridiculous premise, and it was all down hill afterwards.<br />
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The episode was so notorious that the phrase <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Happy_Days#.22Jumping_the_Shark.22">"jumping the shark"</a> is now used any time a great thing reaches its peak or turning point in a completely ridiculous fashion. I think that anything in life can have a shark jumping moment – not just situation comedies. This is especially true on the job. <br />
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Some examples include the time your boss asked you to pick up his laundry on the way back from your coffee run, or the presentation you gave on your new plan to include brown sugar in the office coffee stations. I had my first jumping the shark moment when I was waitressing and I had to sing "Happy Birthday" to a former boss.<br />
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If you think your shark has already been jumped, embrace your instincts. Instead of letting your job drag on for another five ridiculous seasons, take this as an opportunity to <a href="http://www.first30days.com/finding-your-dream-job">pursue your dream job</a>.<em> -Joy Hepp</em></p> Parenting 101http://www.first30days.com/being-a-new-mom/articles/parenting-101.html2008-12-31T02:00:24ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Want less parenting stress? Subscribe to a monthly newsletter. That’s what researchers at Newcastle University in the UK are suggesting after discovering that reading a few parenting tips can help <a href="http://www.first30days.com/being-a-new-dad">new moms and dads </a>cope better with the anxiety of dealing with a newborn and infant.<br />
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In general, mothers that received the monthly newsletter in the study reported fewer "hassles," and were less likely to complain about a crying baby or messy feedings. They were also less likely than mothers in the comparison group to have unrealistic expectations about their babies' behavior. Researchers also pointed out that these newsletters could offer an inexpensive way to reach a large number of parents in need of help.<br />
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And what new parent doesn’t need help? As a first-time mom, I am willing to take any and every bit of advice offered to me. It’s one of the reasons I recently joined <a href="http://ww.first30days.com/using-facebook">Facebook</a>—so that I can connect with friends and family that have kids. It’s like having a mini support system at your disposal 24/7.<br />
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What do you do to deal with the stresses of new parenthood? Share your tips below. <em>- Linda DiProperzio</em></p> Skinny Ice Cream?http://www.first30days.com/losing-weight/articles/skinny-ice-cream.html2008-12-30T08:41:33ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>In a perfect world, the words "ice cream" and "no calories" would be paired together for all of our favorite sweet treats. Ben and Jerry's Chunky Monkey would make us smarter instead of adding to our waistlines, and a Snickers bar would have the same nutritional benefits as a banana.<br />
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Alas, we live in reality where eating our snacks of choice comes with a price, and it's typically one that goes straight to the hips.<br />
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At least some food companies are trying to create healthier indulgences. Ice cream chain Baskin-Robbins is getting in on the low-cal game. The company <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/28422860/">announced on Monday</a> that it's releasing BRight Choices, an ice cream line that will have 50% less fat and 20% fewer calories than its regular Premium Churned ice cream. Perhaps, the company is trying to counteract the negative publicity they received in <a href="http://www.first30days.com/living-healthier/articles/the-ultimate-calorie-bomb.html">September for their "death shake," a 2,300-calorie, half pound of sugar bomb that only the bravest would enjoy.</a><br />
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I wonder if the lightened-up versions of our most loved treats are really the answer to solving weight loss woes. Sure, they are the healthier options, but is it possible for calorie-free chocolate cake to quell the craving you've been having for a slice of fully-loaded double chocolate cake?<br />
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I think not.<br />
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I am a firm believer that the key to successful dieting is an approach that focuses on portion control rather than elimination of our favorite foods. I would much rather eat a small cup of full-fat ice cream than a cone of a less-than favorable one. I am not saying that the low-cal versions are not a nice alternative, but instead we must learn how to indulge in our favorite foods and practice moderation. I am confident it is one of the great keys behind keeping excess pounds at bay.<br />
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Would you rather go all in when indulging in a sweet treat or would a lighter (and maybe less tasty) version of a snack be your delicacy of choice?<br />
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<em>—Caroline Shannon</em></p> Cure Cold Woes Now!http://www.first30days.com/living-healthier/articles/cure-cold-woes-now.html2008-12-30T08:16:18ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>My head is achy. My stomach is feeling queasy. And if I snort or sniff one more time, I might rip my nose off entirely.<br />
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Not only does the common cold make you feel miserable, but it also gives you a downright whiny attitude. And there's no cure for it—the cold, that is. The attitude, I guess, I can work on. <br />
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Ask anyone for their prescription to treat the sniffles and they can rattle off a multitude of treatments. Tea with honey, extra-soft tissues and chicken soup are just a few of the most mentionable "cures."<br />
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But what happens when something like a simple cold leads to even worse health complications, like bronchitis, an ear infection or a sinus infection? Well, let's make sure that doesn't happen. Luckily, <a href="http://www.goodhousekeeping.com/health/diseases/fight-common-cold"><em>Good Housekeeping</em></a> did some research on this and packaged their best tips in an article. Here are the highlights: <br />
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<strong>* Prevent a sinus infection.</strong> Start by finding a good nasal decongestant to get rid off mucus—ech!—buildup. And if you can't stand the thought of spraying something up your nose, then invest in a decongestant pill. Talk to your doctor before trying any over-the-counter medicaiton to treat a cold. A nice warm washcloth on your face can help, too, and, hey, that hot chicken soup isn't a bad idea either.<br />
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* Thwart bronchitis.</strong> This is where you need to eliminate any further irritants that may be lingering in your home or workspace. That means you need to avoid smoking and/or secondhand smoke, household cleaners, and even keeping warm by a fire—the particles can affect your airways.<br />
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</em><strong>* Soothe a pending ear infection.</strong> Try to avoid ear popping by taking deep breaths or holding your nose. Smoking is another no-no, and a solid decongestant can also help to keep ear canals open and lessen the possibility of an infection.<br />
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When I am sick I try to steer clear of meds because they always make me feel more light-headed and woozy than I would prefer. Soup and hot tea with lemon or honey are still my tried-and-true methods. And that hot wash cloth sounds like a good idea, too.<br />
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Please, share your wisdom with us! How do you prevent a cold from turning into something worse?<br />
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—Caroline Shannon</em></p> Divorce TVhttp://www.first30days.com/getting-divorced/articles/divorce-tv.html2008-12-30T08:13:25ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>No one will deny that <a href="http://www.first30days.com/getting-divorced/articles/getting-through-your-divorce.html">getting divorced</a> is a dramatic, major life change. The highs and lows that accompany this experience are numerous and unpredictable. What better way to handle them than by baring them all on reality television?<br />
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<a href="http://www.realitywanted.com/aboutus">RealityWanted</a>, a casting agency for reality television shows, is looking for men and women who have recently divorced and are ready to start their new lives. If you’re looking to spice up your new look, get help getting back into the dating pool or just need help getting your life back together, <a href="http://www.realitywanted.com/call/3746-recently-divorced-and-want-help-celebrating-now-casting">why not apply</a>? The advertisement runs until January 12, 2009, and applicants from anywhere in the United States are welcome.<br />
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Normally if one of my friends just got divorced and was considering doing this, I would say, “Are you crazy?! No!” Getting a divorce is such an intense emotional and personal experience that I think it warrants privacy, self-reflection, and contemplation. It’s a time when you are incredibly vulnerable and trying to rediscover who you are. How can you do that with cameras following you at every turn? <br />
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However, I realize if life is throwing one giant change at you, why not do something totally random and unexpected to deal with it? Perhaps tackling two crazy big changes at the same time could lead to double the personal knowledge and growth.<br />
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What’s your take on dealing with a major life change in front of the camera? If you’re recently divorced, will you be responding to the casting call? Why or why not?<br />
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<em>—Laura Lee Bloor</em></p> Resolutions Worth Keepinghttp://www.first30days.com/improving-relationships/articles/resolutions-worth-keeping.html2008-12-29T10:50:11ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
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<p>There’s nothing wrong with vowing to <a href="http://www.first30days.com/channels/diet-and-fitness">lose weight</a> or <a href="http://www.first30days.com/quitting-smoking">quit smoking</a>, but as far as most New Year’s resolutions go, they’re a bit tired and uninspired, don’t you think? For your health and happiness, by all means put down the cigarettes and pick up some hand-weights, but in the interest of personal growth and feeling more connected to the world around you, I suggest you adopt these six resolutions in the new year, too.</p>
<p><strong>1. Learn something new</strong> <br />
Learning something new, whether it’s a sport, a recipe, a language, a game, or a hobby, not only exercises our brains, it relieves stress and gives us new avenues through which we can connect to other people. Even re-learning something you once knew has the same benefits. This year I picked up a Hula Hoop for the first time in over a decade and learned some new tricks in a weekly class I took over the summer. I had so much fun, I bought a hoop for my BFF, convinced at least four other friends to take hoop classes, and even got my 62-year-old father to hoop his heart out when he visited. Hooping hasn’t solved the world’s problems, but making sure that hoop doesn’t stop spinning can help you when it comes time to focus on bigger things.</p>
<p><strong>2. Date outside your “type”</strong> <br />
If you’ve been unlucky in love, maybe it’s time to readjust your idea of who’s right for you. If you got sick every time you ate an apple, you’d try other fruits until you found one that agreed with you, right? Likewise, if you keep getting burned by musicians, go out with a carpenter, a lawyer, a music producer. Often, our idea of Mr. or Ms. Right is based on superficial attributes that have little to do with who people really are. Go out with someone you’d ordinarily rule out, due to his job or his looks, and you might find a surprise kindred spirit.</p>
<p><strong>3. Support the arts</strong> <br />
Not only do the arts keep us from becoming complacent and stagnant, they allow us to see the world and the human condition differently and to understand—or at least question and consider—universal truths about ourselves and others. Get yourself to a museum, watch a dance performance, visit a local art exhibit, see a play or a film. Your dollars help make it possible for artists to continue doing what they do, and you may gain a new perspective in the process.</p>
<p><strong>4. End toxic relationships</strong> <br />
Life is too short to spend time and energy on relationships that only drain you. If you’ve got someone in your life who, whether through incessant negativity or criticisms, makes you feel bad more often than he or she makes you feel good, it’s time to walk away. Do a quick rip-off-the-band-aid break-up or a slow phase-out, gradually returning calls less and less until the toxic person gets the message and moves on. You’ll be better in the new year for it. <em>-Wendy Atterberry</em></p>
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<p><em>Want more great ideas for the new year? Head on over to <a href="http://www.thefrisky.com/post/246-resolutions-worth-keeping/">The Frisky.</a></em></p>
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Are you addicted to debt? Not sure? Well, there are some warning signs that could give you an idea, if you choose to pay attention to them. I recently wrote a popular post at <a href="http://masteryourcard.com/blog/2008/12/26/10-signs-youre-addicted-to-debt/">Master Your Card</a> about these warning signs, and let me tell you, there are a lot of people relating to <a href="http://www.first30days.com/reducing-debt">debt addiction</a> at the moment.<br />
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Sadly enough, this addiction isn't a product of the economy. It's been going on for awhile now. Debt has been increasing steadily over the last decade while the savings numbers have remained in the negative for the same period. It's time we take notice of our debt addictions and get rid of them! Here are just a few signs to get you started.<br />
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1. Unsure of your financial state.</strong><br />
Not taking the time to look into where you stand financially could mean you're in denial about your situation. Like most addictions, admitting there's a problem is the first step. Getting yourself organized would be the second.<br />
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2. Terrible savings habits.</strong><br />
This is for those of you who want to argue the 3-6 months saved expenses, or who simply refuse to save. There’s usually an underlying reason for this, though you may not be aware of it. <br />
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<strong>3. Living paycheck to paycheck.</strong><br />
By itself, this one doesn't carry a lot of weight. Sometimes it's just a matter of people being financially uneducated. But, in league with the other warning signs, it's a pretty big clue that you could be addicted to debt.<br />
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4. Spending just to spend.</strong><br />
This goes beyond just emotional shopping (which in the list of warning signs is considered ‘shop-a-holic‘). This is the debt junkie getting their fix. People who spend just to spend do so because it's what they've always done and they feel nervous or anxious when they don't. Money burns a hole in their pocket.<br />
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For more signs that you could be addicted to debt, be sure to visit Master Your Card. And let us know what you think here—are you or someone you know debt addicted? <em>- Kristy Young</em></p> So Long, Fluffyhttp://www.first30days.com/adopting-a-pet/articles/so-long-fluffy.html2008-12-29T09:40:54ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>File under sad but true: As the economy falters, some people are choosing to say good-bye to their pets.<br />
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I come from a family that is crazy about animals (dogs especially). So it was truly heartbreaking for me to read a recent story on how more and more people are choosing to give up their pets because of the bad economy.<br />
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In fact, the population growth at animal shelters in many states—including Connecticut, Nebraska, Texas, Utah—is so high many are turning away people looking to give up their pets. Even worse: the shelters are euthanizing animals at a faster rate.<br />
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And with the average annual cost of owning a dog at about $1,400, and the average annual cost of a cat at about $1,000, it’s not surprising there has also been a decline in the number of people looking to <a href="http://www.first30days.com/adopting-a-pet">adopt pets</a>.<br />
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For those people looking to bring a pet into their home, I think this story shows how important it is to adopt from a local shelter. There are so many cute and cuddly animals looking for a loving home! And unless you want a show dog, why spend the money going to a breeder?<br />
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Share your story of adopting a pet with us below. Or let us know what you think about the wave of people giving up their pets.</p> Working Off the Turkeyhttp://www.first30days.com/getting-in-shape/articles/working-off-the-turkey.html2008-12-26T08:40:40ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>The holidays are almost over. Hanukkah is wrapping up, Christmas is kaput and New Year's is just around the corner. But for so many of us the hard work is just getting started because the worst gift of the holidays is that snazzy spare tire you bought yourself. It fits oh-so-nicely around your midsection. Woo-hoo.<br />
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Instead of giving you a hard time and cracking down on y'all like a drill sergeant, I think we need to implement a softer approach, like one that says, "Hey, we're going to shape up, but have our (small dish) of ice cream, too."<br />
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I am not a health expert, but I am a firm believer that one of the best approaches we can take to shaping up is a slow one. Just like the timeless saying that slow and steady wins the race, stepping up to the fitness plate also takes moving at a consistent pace. This means not too fast and not too sluggish. Goldilocks would love us, right?<br />
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I've made many mistakes in the past when it comes to <a href="http://www.first30days.com/getting-in-shape/articles/shaping-up-nicely.html">getting in shape</a>, especially, since I'm someone who has an all-or-nothing approach in many aspects of my life. I have jumped into an exercise program and pushed myself too hard, resulting in injuries or sickness. On the other hand, I have given myself too much time, approaching getting in shape with an "Oh, I'll start tomorrow" frame of mind.<br />
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Here is my proposal. Let's commit to working off those extra holiday cookies by engaging in exercise that is suited for our levels. That means if exercise has never been your forte, take things slowly and choose a 30-minute brisk walk instead of a tough weight-lifting session. If you have simply fallen off the wagon for a few days (or weeks), slide back into fitness by pledging to complete just half of your typical workout routine.<br />
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As for those leftovers, turn them into something healthy by taking some turkey and putting it between two slices of whole wheat bread. Or save one of your favorite sweet treats for another time of year by popping it into the freezer. When summer rolls around, you'll be glad you have that gingerbread cookie.<br />
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I want to know: What is your post-holiday shape up plan? <br />
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<em>—Caroline Shannon</em></p> New Year, New Beginnings http://www.first30days.com/getting-organized/articles/new-year-new-beginnings.html2008-12-26T08:29:00ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>There are some traditions, religious and otherwise, that I can get behind because they make me actively pursue change. Lent is one of them, a “leftover” from my Catholic upbringing that encourages the giving up of something and being conscious of what you have. Although I don’t practice the religion anymore, I DO end up sticking to my Lent promises for the 40 requisite days and beyond. New Year’s is another time marked with making promises, committing to change and reflecting on the past with a look ahead at the future. In other words, it’s resolution time!<br />
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My best friend and I used to make “Venn Diagram Goals,” drawing a <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Venn_Diagram">Venn Diagram</a> on poster board with each of our goals or resolutions in each circle, and those that overlapped in the middle. It was a daily visual reminder of what to work towards and we would add to it if something popped into our heads. It was also more fun to make it a joint effort, just as having a running partner or knitting buddy can give you that extra boost.<br />
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Most resolutions have some element of <a href="http://www.first30days.com/getting-organized/articles/organizing-ideas-for-a-simple-clutter-free-life.html">getting organized</a> to them, whether you want to create a fitness regimen, attempt to clean out the basement, spend more time with friends or start a monthly money-saving plan. Last year, <a href="http://unclutterer.com/2008/12/23/2008-new-years-resolution-wrap-up/">Erin at Unclutterer.com</a> decided to tackle her “laundry stress,” declaring the washing and folding process as her least favorite chore, and therefore, a source of stress. She made a plan of attack, went forward with it and succeeded at eliminating it as a major stressor.<br />
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What do you have in mind for New Year’s resolutions come 2009? Any success stories from past years? If so, how did you do it?<br />
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<em>—Alicia Kachmar</em></p> Good Financial News for '09http://www.first30days.com/having-more-money/articles/good-financial-news-for-09.html2008-12-25T22:42:56ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Never before have Americans wanted so desperately for a year to end. But with 2008 came a tide of rotten luck that included gas hikes, grocery spikes, and failing banks. I think I can speak for a good majority of people when I say, take a hike 2008...HELLO 2009!<br />
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<a href="http://kiplinger.com/businessresource/forecast/archive/a_dozen_good_things_in_2009_081224.html">Kiplinger.com</a> has made a list of 12 things to look forward to in 2009 <>, and I'm inclined to agree with all of them. <br />
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1. 2009 will be great for buying and refinancing.</strong><br />
Mortgages are at a 40-year low. This is especially good for first-time homebuyers and those who don't have to sell before buying. But, because it's such a good time to buy, those in a position to sell may see better returns in '09.<br />
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2. We're kicking debt to the curb.</strong><br />
The banks weren't the only ones wreaking havoc with money that wasn't theirs. Americans have had a nasty little debt problem for awhile, but if anything good came out of '08 it's that out of necessity and fear we've cut our debt and increased our savings rate by 2%. Experts agree the trend will continue well into ‘09.<br />
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<strong>3. Tax cuts are coming.</strong><br />
While most of us probably won't see raises and have lost 401(k) matches for the time being, we may still see an increase in our take home pay. This is because various tax cuts are being developed as part of a new stimulus package. At the forefront of these proposals is a suspension of Social Security taxes for low- to middle-income workers. Truth be told, if I'm never to see a dime of social security in my retirement, I'd rather keep it in my check, thank you.<br />
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As you can see, there's a lot going on and plenty to look forward to as we head into the new year. What are you looking forward to in the coming year? Do you think 2009 will be better than 2008, or more of the same? <em>- Kristy Young</em></p> Paying for College in a Recessionhttp://www.first30days.com/saving-for-college/articles/paying-for-college-in-a-recession.html2008-12-25T22:32:40ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Many schools have seen their student population dwindle as people have <a href="http://everythingfinanceblog.com/2008/12/paying-for-college-in-recession-is.html">lost their savings that were set aside for college.</a> But with a little planning and research, attending school doesn’t have to be a pipe dream.<br />
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According to a survey conducted by Sallie Mae and Gallup, 25% of families did not complete the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) last year. The FAFSA is your first and best resource to see how much you qualify for in federal aid. <br />
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Colleges and lenders alike agree that it's best to fill out the FAFSA as early as possible to get an idea of what you qualify for. Sallie Mae even has a <a href="http://www.collegeanswer.com">web site</a> with free tools and information on grants and scholarships available to students.<br />
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I'm finishing up my degree in Forensic Psychology—extremely different from finance, I know—and the Sallie Mae site has been a great starting place for finding funds to pay for school...I assure you, a credit union salary and freelance writing won't pay the tuition alone. So, if you want to go to school in 2009, but are afraid of the costs, start with the FAFSA. You can fill it out anytime after January 1st, but the earlier the better. Also be sure to check with your school's financial aid department for other resources and information.<br />
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Paying for college is still possible in an economic downturn. What resources have you found in your search for ways save for school? <em> - Kristy Young</em></p>
<p> </p> The Change Chainhttp://www.first30days.com/starting-a-new-job/articles/the-change-chain.html2008-12-24T12:33:56ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Did Santa leave you some extra cash in your stocking? If you've been toying around with the idea of dropping your nine to five and <a href="http://www.first30days.com/starting-a-new-business">starting your own business</a>, you might want to consider looking into purchasing your own franchise. The best part about this option is that you don't have to build a better mousetrap because somebody has already done it for you and even laid out the cheese. <br />
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Depending on your operating style, you can pick and choose from thousands of different businesses that range from providing step by step instructions, to practically handing over the keys and the neon sign. <br />
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If you're intrigued, the latest issue of <a href="http://www.entrepreneur.com/magazine/entrepreneur/2009/january/199094.html">Entrepreneur magazine</a> is a great place to start. They've got tips on how to choose a business as well as trends for the upcoming year. The editors have also put together a list of the top ten franchises for 2009 that includes some old time favorites as well as some new surprises:<br />
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10. Papa Johns<br />
9. Circle K<br />
8. The UPS Store<br />
7.Pizza Hut<br />
6. Ace Hardware<br />
5.Intercontinental Hotels Group<br />
4. Sonic Drive-in<br />
3. Liberty Tax Service<br />
2. McDonald's<br />
1. Subway<br />
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Those are only a few of the options out there. Basically, if you can dream it, you can franchise it. Would you consider using this option to start your own business? <em>-Joy Hepp</em></p> Nixing Negativity at Workhttp://www.first30days.com/starting-a-new-job/articles/nixing-negativity-at-work.html2008-12-24T08:25:58ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>That friend who just can’t stop complaining. That <a href="http://www.first30days.com/starting-a-new-business">co-worker</a> who always has to one-up you with her <a href="http://www.first30days.com/breaking-up">breakup stories</a> or that traumatic encounter at the bank. That client who takes out her perpetual bad mood on you. None of these people are contributing to your sanity or self-esteem. Though it’s not always possible to cut these people out of your life, there are a few things you can do to negate their negativity. Here’s how.</p>
<p><strong>Minimize your interaction.</strong> Life’s too short to spend it surrounded by grumpy people. If you find that dinners with a certain friend lead to diatribes about her bitchy boss, her loudmouthed neighbor, or her cheating ex-boyfriend, then it may be time to stop accepting (and extending) dinner invitations. Put on headphones or shut the door to discourage that co-worker from stopping by to share her latest dating drama. Send an e-mail to your client so you won’t have to deal with her Cruella De Vil act on the phone (or better yet, ask to be assigned to a different account). That will keep you at a safe distance, and they’ll eventually get the hint.</p>
<p><strong>Redirect the conversation.</strong> By now you’ve probably figured out what topics bring out the worst in your clients, co-workers, or friends. Stick to lighter subjects so you won’t set them off. Instead of making a humorous comment about your delayed flight or your wardrobe disaster (which will only encourage them to share their own frustrations), offer a compliment or share some good news. There are people who just like to be contrary (like when you rave about a new sushi place, they’ll complain of food poisoning). You can acknowledge their frustration with a sympathetic “It sounds terrible” or “That must have been hard,” but whatever you do, do not join in the bitch session. It will only leave you feeling miserable, too. Politely excuse yourself when you can.</p>
<p><strong>Pick upbeat people whenever possible. </strong>You can’t always choose whom you work with, but spending time with positive people during your off hours can help you deflect a Debbie Downer. Soak up their optimistic outlook and see how they deal with pessimistic people. You can keep that positive energy flowing by posting favorite photos or inspirational quotes in your cube or playing music you love. The next time that client calls to vent or your co-worker starts to complain, focus on those inspirational words or pull out that photo of your favorite place. Stay upbeat and you’ll set a positive example for those around you. Who knows? Maybe they’ll want to join in, too. <em>-Susan Johnston</em></p>
<p><em>For more career advice, visit <a href="http://www.nicolewilliams.com/get-ahead/nix-negativity">NicoleWilliams.com</a>. </em></p> Designer Geneshttp://www.first30days.com/being-pregnant/articles/designer-genes.html2008-12-24T08:01:39ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>The nine months of <a href="http://www.first30days.com/being-pregnant">pregnancy</a> is exciting—and also a constant state of worry (at least for me). You’re always wondering if everything is going to be OK, and even when it is, you have the rest of your child’s life to worry about his or her well-being (as my mother reminds me, even when your child is an adult, you still worry.) So I was intrigued when I saw the story on the British woman that will give birth this week to the first baby selected to be free of a gene which greatly increases the risk of breast cancer.<br />
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The 27-year-old woman decided to take the step because several of her husband’s close female relatives suffered from breast cancer. The baby grew from an embryo screened to make sure it did not contain the faulty BRCA 1 gene, which would have given it a 50 to 80% chance of developing breast cancer.<br />
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One group warned against the medical breakthrough, saying the selection takes science “further along the line which ultimately ends in designer babies.” I disagree: what parent wouldn’t seize the opportunity to come close to ensuring that their child will be spared a potentially-fatal disease? But using science to guarantee the sex of the baby—or their appearance—is taking things too far. What do you think?<em> –Linda DiProperzio</em></p> The Money-Mate Theoryhttp://www.first30days.com/having-more-money/articles/the-money-mate-theory.html2008-12-24T07:56:11ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Watch out fellas! How you spend or <a href="http://www.first30days.com/having-more-money">save</a> can tell a potential mate what kind of partner you are!<br />
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Daniel Kruger of the University of Michigan says he found a correlation between <a href="http://finance.yahoo.com/banking-budgeting/article/106314/Why-Men-Spend">how men spend their money and what kind of mate they are</a>. According to a recent study, men who spend their money freely are only in it to win it, if you know what I mean. Plasma screens are the new peacock tails and men who spend the dough are more likely to have mates than life partners.<br />
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So, if you're looking for the keeper, look no further than your savers. These guys tend to shift from mates to an "investment in the relationship and potential offspring." According to Kruger, men compete with one another to show off their resource potential...it's like a "my stick is bigger than yours" match with money, and how they use that money is directly correlated with how they view their relationships.<br />
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Apparently, the same holds true for investment portfolios, too. The more risk you're willing to take, the less family-oriented you are...according to Kruger, that is. I'm not sure I buy into this school of thought, though. I think a man's decision to settle down or not has a lot more to it than just how he spends his money. One would hope that when he does settle down he'll be responsible with his money and look towards a brighter future, but just because he's got money to blow doesn't mean he's unfit for the long haul.<br />
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Let's get both sides of the coin on this one because now I'm curious as to what everyone thinks. Can a man's spending habits truly predict his suitability as a life partner, or is it one factor in many? <em>-Kristy Young</em></p> Festivus for the Rest of Ushttp://www.first30days.com/living-more-spiritually/articles/festivus-for-the-rest-of-us.html2008-12-23T12:02:49ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>You can thank Jerry Seinfeld and Larry David for manhands, double dipping, Newman and "The Contest." (If you don't understand those references, I'm not sure I can help you through the rest of this post.)<br />
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You can also thank them for Festivus, the holiday dreamed up by Frank Costanza on that infamous "Seinfeld" episode. But it's not just a funny sitcom holiday. Many people actually honor the day and guess what? It happens to be today! (OK, for people who still don't know what I'm talking about, <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c8g4Ztf7hIM">check out this YouTube video</a>.) So get out your poles and your list of grievances because it's time to honor Festivus for the rest of us!<br />
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I can hear you saying it now, "This isn't a real holiday. It's a joke." Not so, says devoted Festivus followers. ''Christmas is a holiday built around the birth of Christ,'' says Allen Salkin, author of <em>Festivus: the Holiday for the Rest of Us,</em> tells the <a href="http://www.miamiherald.com/news/miami-dade/story/823440.html"><em>Miami Herald</em></a>. ``But certainly there were no Christmas trees in Jerusalem. Kwanzaa was created in what, 1966? That's real. So I don't get what isn't real about families who chose to put up a pole and celebrate feats of strength and air grievances. It's quirky. But that's what we do with holidays—make them personal by adding quirky touches.'' <br />
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Though many may be confused by this "holiday" (held on December 23rd every year), the two things you need to know is that it's not religious and it doesn't exclude anyone. It may be a weird way to celebrate your spirituality, but hey, no one's judging!<br />
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If you're interested in celebrating tonight, here's a guide to the proper traditions.</p>
<p><strong> FESTIVUS POLE: </strong>As Frank says in the "Seinfeld" episode, it's great because you don't have to decorate it, and tinsel is distracting. Aluminum is best.<strong><br />
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AIRING OF GRIEVANCES: </strong> Gather your family and just unload why each of them has dissapointed you over the year. Everyone gets a turn to air grievances. <strong><br />
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FEATS OF STRENGTH: </strong> The holiday isn't over until the head of the house is pinned in a wrestling match. Or you could just agree that it's over. <br />
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Will you be celebrating Festivus tonight?<br />
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<em>—Elizabeth Mayo</em></p> Can You Overthink Your Health?http://www.first30days.com/living-healthier/articles/can-you-overthink-your-health.html2008-12-23T09:56:39ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>It's ironic when you find 10,000 spoons and all you need is a knife, or why it's a pain in the butt to meet the guy of your dreams…and then meet his beautiful wife. What about when you are the picture of health, you play by all of the rules, and you still end up with a rare bacterial illness?<br />
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That's what happened when a bunch of Illinois health department workers gathered for an office Christmas party and <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/28355874/">became sick from a contaminated ham</a>. Talk about irony.<br />
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This story has me thinking about whether or not we can overthink the less-than-healthy aspects of our lives. For example, since I follow the health and fitness world, I wake up each day thinking, "What is the healthiest thing I can eat for breakfast? I really want a bagel, but I know the greens drink and oatmeal is healthier." It continues like that through lunch, dinner and planning my daily exercise. I don't always make the right decision but sometimes I find myself just having way too much internal conversation on the subject of health.<br />
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Of course, living a healthy lifestyle can be a good thing, since it helps to prevent illness, build strength and extend your life. But when we consider people like the Illinois health workers—people who think every day about how to prevent illness and the spread of disease—it can make us reconsider. Not too much, but just enough to let us know that constant think, think, thinking about diet and exercise does not translate into perfect health.<br />
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I want to know: Does knowing that it's OK to ease up on your health make life easier? Do you agree that diligence to your health is necessary, but it's OK to slip up every now and then, too?<br />
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<em>—Caroline Shannon</em></p> Managing in Chaoshttp://www.first30days.com/making-change-easier/articles/managing-in-chaos.html2008-12-23T09:43:23ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p><a href="http://www.first30days.com/experts/gail-blanke/changeography">Gail Blanke</a>, a well-known author and motivational speaker (and one of our favorite <a href="http://www.first30days.com/making-change-easier/audio/change-nation-gail-blanke-081508.html">Change Nation guests)</a>, knows what you're going through. In a time of intense transition—rough economy, job loss, rising cost of living—it can be hard to just get through the day, let alone be a motivator to your friends, family and colleagues. <br />
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But it's these challenging times when you need to find the courage to step up, Blanke says. In a recent email to her fan base, Blanke reminds us that greatness is often formed when things are tough. "Sometimes it takes a crisis...in a country, in a company, in a life, for us to know how good we are, what we're made of...for us to find the courage, in spite of the noise and chaos, to lift up our heads and lead," she writes. "Well, we've got a crisis, so let's lead."<br />
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To help everyone along, Blanke provides these steps for leading effectively during change. <br />
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1. <strong>Let go of the past. </strong>"Let go of the old way. Let go of being right about how wrong it is, of how you or anybody else, should have done it differently. You can’t grow if you don’t let go. Go home and throw out fifty things! Move on."<br />
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2. <strong>Keep your eye (and the eyes of everyone on your team) on what good could look like, what’s possible, where the opportunity lies - in spite of the uncertainty of the moment.</strong> "People need motivation just as much as they need information in stressful times. Make sure they get it."<br />
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3. <strong>Take a look at the so-called barriers to your getting what you want, to bringing your vision to life.</strong> "Decide which are real and which are imagined. Change the things you can; accept the things you can’t."<br />
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4. <strong>Get back in touch with what makes you unique.</strong> "Complete the sentence: “I’m____and I’m the one who…” Re-define the essence of your particular brand. Ask the members of your team to do the same. Remember, if enough people love ya, the ones who don’t, don’t matter."<br />
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5. <strong>Edit what you listen to, watch on the news, tell yourself and other people. "</strong>Remember, we are what we think about. So don’t burden yourself and others with the worst possible thoughts. It’s a total waste of energy and drags you back—at the exact moment when you should be moving forward."<br />
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6. <strong>Celebrate how good you are, how far you’ve come, how much you’ve learned.</strong> "This is a “defining moment.” Embrace it. You’ve got everything you need to ultimately profit from it."<br />
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Though these tips are written with a business slant, they translate to just about anyone who wants to stand above the fray during these times of change and take a leading role. If you want more information on Gail or her new book, <em>Throw Out Fifty Things: Clear the Clutter, Find Your Life</em>, visit <a href="http://Lifedesigns.com">Lifedesigns.com</a>.<br />
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Do you feel like you've become a better leader after facing challenges in your life?<br />
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—Elizabeth Mayo</em></p> Virtual Workouthttp://www.first30days.com/getting-in-shape/articles/virtual-workout.html2008-12-23T08:14:05ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>It's 12:45am, and I just finished playing five games of <a href="http://www.nintendo.com/wii">Nintendo Wii (pronounced "we") bowling</a> with my dad. Lucky for me, my younger brother just got the game system for his birthday and I'm visiting for the holidays. Not so lucky, of course, for my good sleeping habits. <br />
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After a good hour of swinging that virtual bowling ball with all my might, I worked up a bit of a sweat and a mighty confidence boost, since any sport with a ball doesn't seem to work with my monkey-like arms. The combination is really quite ugly.<br />
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I thought, "Can video games, perhaps, be not-so-bad for your health after all?" Sure, we've heard the warnings that excessive video game play can lead to laziness and violent or anti-social behavior. But there are also stats that show that interactive games like Dance Dance Revolution, Wii Sports and even Rock Band can improve your motor skills and your health.<br />
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With the interactive options that are now available, it might be safe to say that some video games are up for a reevaluation. Check out Wii's selection alone, and you will find games like bowling, tennis, boxing and baseball that require you to mimic the actual motion required in those sports to play the game. Choose to invest in the season's hottest gift, <a href="http://www.nintendo.com/wiifit/launch/?ref=http://www.google.com/search?q=Nintendo+Wii+fit&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a">Wii Fit</a>, and you will find even more activities, including yoga, aerobics and strength training that are done on a board that connects to your Wii console. You can even check your body mass index and weight, so that you may track your progress as you spend more time using the game...I mean...workout program.<br />
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If that's not enough, the virtual sports experiences also help to hone skills that you may be able to take into the real world. After all, I'm a horrible bowler, but after a few tries on the Wii I realized that a quick flick of the wrist can get your ball moving in the right direction.<br />
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The cool thing I learned: An hour of bowling with the Wii can burn between 150 and 240 calories, depending on your weight. And the same goes for taking you're A-game to a real bowling alley, where a 145-pound gal will burn 197 calories.<br />
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Have you tried interactive video games, like the Wii? Does the interactive aspect of the games make fitness fun?<br />
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—Caroline Shannon</em></p> Something's Fishyhttp://www.first30days.com/being-pregnant/articles/somethings-fishy.html2008-12-22T23:12:45ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>During my first prenatal visit with my obstetrician, she went over a list of foods I should stay away from during my<a href="http://www.first30days.com/being-pregnant"> pregnancy</a>, which included certain deli meats, soft cheeses, raw fish (goodbye beloved sushi), and a number of cooked fish that are high in mercury.<br />
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Mercury is a neurotoxin especially dangerous to newborns and infants, which is why pregnant women are told to avoid them during those nine months (some fish high in mercury include shark, swordfish, king mackerel, and tilefish.) So I was a bit surprised by a recent Washington Post story on how the FDA is backtracking on its prior recommendations and will soon<br />
encourage expectant moms to start eating all types of fish. <br />
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In fact, the organization has reportedly been circulating a draft report within the government that argues the health benefits of eating fish outweigh the potential ill effects of mercury. <br />
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Some environmental agencies—along with certain members of Congress—are crying foul, saying that the FDA doesn’t have enough scientific evidence to back up its new claim, and the research they do have is “scientifically flawed.”<br />
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I don’t know about you, but I have had it with the FDA. Between their flip-flopping on BPA in baby bottles and their failure to disclose traces of melamine in certain US baby formulas (they only did so after the Associated Press requested the info for a story), it seems the organization really doesn’t care about the health of our nation’s kids. As parents, we rely on groups like the FDA to help us keep our children safe. If we can’t trust them, then where do we turn? What do you think about the FDA’s possible new stance on mercury? Sound off below.</p> Elephants for Christmashttp://www.first30days.com/losing-your-job/articles/elephants-for-christmas.html2008-12-22T13:15:18ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>How do you avoid the unemployed elephant in the room?<br />
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I don't know about you, but in my family one of the most time-honored holiday traditions is the annual ignoring of the giant elephant in the room. Like the African and Indian varieties, the holiday elephant can come in many forms – it can be plugging its trunk because Grandpa forgot to close the door to the bathroom, or, as in the year when I had gained nearly 20 pounds, wearing a pair of too-tight elephant pants.<br />
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This year, for my family and many more across the country, the elephant will likely have an addiction to the Craigslist employment section and will be developing arthritis from filling out job applications. Whether the subject of <a href="http://www.first30days.com/losing-your-job">job loss</a> will be completely ignored, brought up in hushed funeral tones, or joked about openly depends on your friends and family, but chances are if you've recently lost your job, you might be made to feel awkward at some point over the 12 days of Christmas. So, how do you keep the awkardness to a minimum and prevent the elephant from charging the dinner table?<br />
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First, keep your head up. Unfortunately, you're in the company of millions of talented Americans who are also without work, so you have nothing to be ashamed about. Second, keep in mind what the holidays are really about. CJ Arabia, a blogger who writes about unemployment for <a href="http://www.lemondrop.com/2008/12/18/Tis-the-Season-to-Be-Jobless/">Lemondrop.com</a> has this gem of advice:<br />
"Next Christmas no one will remember the scented candle or makeup bag that you didn't get them. No one is going to remember that you wore some old dress you've worn a million times to their holiday party or that you didn't bring a bottle of wine to dinner."<br />
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What they will remember, is how happy they were to see you. Make the holiday count. Don't worry about what you do or don't have. After all, when else will you be able to avoid the crazy hot mess that is the mall 24 hours before Christmas? <em>-Joy Hepp</em></p> Tis the Season to Conceive?http://www.first30days.com/being-pregnant/articles/tis-the-season-to-conceive.html2008-12-22T12:27:21ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>When you think about a windstorm, ice storm or other <a href="http://www.first30days.com/surviving-a-natural-disaster">natural disaster</a> that could befall a community, you probably don't think about pregnancy as a casualty. But that's precisely what happens when the power goes out and people have less ways to occupy their time.</p>
<p>In Louisville, Kentucky, they're attributing a windstorm back in September for the recent <a href="http://www.courier-journal.com/article/20081221/FEATURES/812210304/-1/rss">increase in Ob/Gyn</a> visits. And, according to demographer, Michael Price, "there have been several documented increases in conceptions in the last decade in large populations such as New York following major power failures."</p>
<p>When the weather outside is frightful and the fire is so delightful it's as good a reason as any to spend some time getting cozy with a loved one. Just make sure you're aware of what an extended power outage could lead to.</p>
<p>Do you know of anyone conceived during a storm or power outage?</p>
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<p>Celebrating the holidays in an economy like this can certainly dampen the spirit and clear out the pocketbook. Often times we feel bad that we can't give more, but we have to protect ourselves financially before trying to provide gifts to others. If you're really struggling this season, please don't feel bad about not being able to pass around the gifts. That's not what this time of year is about. Enjoy your holidays and spend time with those you love.<br />
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For those who are looking for some cheaper gifts to give that won't totally drain your wallet, <a href="http://bankrate.com/brm/news/pf/20081125-recession-holiday-gifts-a1.asp">Bankrate.com</a> has a list of 12 gift ideas for recessionary times. But, I'll warn you now...some are fairly cheesy!<br />
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<strong>Movies</strong><br />
Since most people are giving up their entertainment and cable to cut back on spending, the gift of movies will be much appreciated. Gift certificates, gift memberships to Netflix or Blockbuster, and just plain 'ol DVDs are great for the movie-lovers in your family!<br />
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Energy</strong><br />
Give the gift of gas...er, for their cars that is! Ok, so this gift is a little lame, but if someone is struggling with their bills and gas, this may help them out more than you know. If they're not struggling though, gas cards probably aren’t the best gift idea.<br />
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<strong>Wealth</strong><br />
With the stock market going all wonky on us, it's made some stocks pretty cheap to own. Use this to your advantage to give blue-chip stocks as gifts. Who knows, by the time the economy comes around, you could have just made someone very rich....on second thought, maybe you should include a contract that states you get half the money if they do become rich! I’m kidding...sort of.<br />
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For more recession proof ideas, check out Bankrate.com then tell us what you think! What are some of the gifts you’re giving this year? Are you spending less this year over last year, or about the same? <em>- Kristy Young</em></p> Have a Holly, Jolly Hangoverhttp://www.first30days.com/your-health-diagnosis/articles/have-a-holly-jolly-hangover.html2008-12-19T12:46:09ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Now I know being hungover isn't technically a disease or a medical condition, but since we're smack in the middle of hangover season—think office parties, spiked eggnog and that killer champagne on New Year's Eve—I thought I'd give the hangover a little attention. After all, even if you're not a member of the 99 Bottles of Beer club at your local pub, you've likely woken up at least once in your lifetime feeling like you've got a vice on your head and a hamster running on a wheel in your stomach. And chances are that happened around this time of year.<br />
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Down in Mexico, my hangover country of choice, menudo is more than just the name of Ricky Martin's former boy band. It's also a soup made from tripe that's supposed to be one heckuva hangover cure. Personally, the thought of eating cow stomach lining has never much appealed to my senses, so I prefer to get my cure in the form of baby Gatorade, also known as Pedialyte. That feeling of having a small barge crashing through your frontal lobe is usually caused by dehydration, and Pedialyte has more electrolytes than most other sports drinks.<br />
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Through our amazingly scientific research (Google searching), we have found that the only true hangover cures are water, sleep and prevention (don't get drunk). But the comments section on a recent post for the<em> New York Times </em>blog, <a href="http://proof.blogs.nytimes.com/2008/12/18/cures-for-the-inevitable/">Proof:Alcohol and the American Life</a>, offers some very innovative suggestions. One poster suggests the impossible feat of somehow setting your alarm to go off an hour before you're supposed to really wake up so that you can take an aspirin and drink a glass of water. Another writer offers up a recipe of beer, raw egg and Tabasco sauce.<br />
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Do you have any surefire cures you'd like to share to help us get through this holiday season?<br />
<em>—Joy Hepp</em></p> Writing Abroadhttp://www.first30days.com/moving-to-a-new-city/articles/writing-abroad.html2008-12-19T12:26:07ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Seth Kugel pens the peppy and adventurous Weekend in New York column for <em>The New York Times</em>, but last Sunday’s installment, sadly, was his last. After fifteen years living in New York City and 130 columns later, Kugel is <a href="http://www.first30days.com/moving-to-a-new-city/articles/making-the-move-to-a-new-city.html">moving to a new city</a>, and in fact has already made the trek to his new place of residence—Brazil!<br />
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Kugel always writes with a sincere and excited voice, clearly a lover of New York who didn’t have to force out a weekly column that took him to the far reaches of the city. Of all the newspaper columns I regularly read, Weekend in New York was always the one I dreamed of writing myself, since I try to emulate his explorer’s spirit as much as I can.<br />
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What did <a href="http://travel.nytimes.com/2008/12/14/travel/14Weekend.html?ref=travel">he dish up for his final colum</a>n? Very appropriately, he decided to hit up those places and/or events that he just never made it to, including a taping of Late Show with David Letterman, jogging around Central Park and dining out at a well-known steakhouse<br />
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Moving to a new city doesn’t imply a permanent stay, and you can always visit your “old” city. Kugel is already looking forward to staying on top of New York City culture and ends on a positive and funny note: “When I do come back, though, it won’t be for some rushed Friday-through-Sunday jaunt, because come on: Who in their right mind comes to New York for just a weekend?”<br />
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If you’re preparing for a move, have you made a list of those “must-do” items you never got around to doing?<br />
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<em>—Alicia Kachmar</em></p> Celebrating Hanukkah in the Streetshttp://www.first30days.com/living-more-spiritually/articles/celebrating-hanukkah-in-the-streets.html2008-12-19T11:07:16ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>It's common to see Christmas trees, department store Santas and window displays of snowflakes, elves and gifts galore...but rarely is room made for the menorah, the major symbol of Hanukkah, the festival of lights celebrated by people of the Jewish faith.</p>
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Hanukkah isn't the biggest holiday on the Jewish calendar but like Christmas, it's a fun family celebration that reminds people of the many blessings they have received throughout the year. Typically, families light menorahs and put them in the window in order to share the light with passers-by...but in recent decades, many individuals and communities are gathering in menorah parades to share the spirit of the season with as many people as possible. You can <a href="http://www.slate.com/id/2206777/">learn more about how menorah parades started here.</a><br />
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This is a really exciting tradition to learn about. In a country that largely self-identifies as Christian, it's great to be reminded that we come from all kinds of faiths and that we have the freedom to share the stories of our heritage and <a href="http://www.first30days.com/living-more-spiritually">take pride in our beliefs</a>. Have you ever seen or taken part in a menorah parade? Share your stories with us!</p>
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<p>While it’s true we women can’t resist a beefcake, we don’t necessarily want our men smelling like one. <br />
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Burger King seems to think otherwise. <br />
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The fast-food giant has released <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/28284679/">Flame by BK,</a> a “scent of seduction with a hint of flame-broiled meat,” according its web site. The body spray comes in 5-ml bottles and is available for sale at $3.99 in Ricky's stores in New York City. It's also available on <a href="http://www.firemeetsdesire.com/">Firemeetsdesire.com</a>, and if you want to be thoroughly entertained today, I suggest you visit that site.<br />
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Just think guys, the same flames that create those juicy, mouthwatering burgers could stoke the fires of passion for you. Marinate yourselves in Flame, and women will be drooling all over you. You won’t have to <a href="http://www.first30days.com/finding-romance/articles/sparking-up-a-new-romance.html">find romance</a>: Romance will find you. If you notice a gagging motion from the women around you, it’s only them trying to suppress their burning desire for you. <br />
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Has Flame piqued your interest? Is it stocking-stuffer worthy?<br />
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<em>—Laura Lee Bloor</em></p> Green Giftinghttp://www.first30days.com/going-green/articles/green-gifting.html2008-12-19T09:23:59ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Let me guess. You've just returned from another disappointing trip to the mall, where everything in every store seems just like what you bought last year. <br />
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I feel your pain. It's hard to come up with creative gifts for friends and family. Whether it's you that's trying to <a href="http://www.first30days.com/going-green">live a greener lifestyle</a> or your college-age son who insists on everything being organic, local and recycled, there are more choices than ever for giving this holiday season. Not only will you be able to remain committed to the change you (or your loved one) has chosen, you'll probably spend a little less and do a little more good along the way. Some ideas via the <a href="http://www.edf.org/article.cfm?contentID=5616">Environmental Defense Fund</a>:</p>
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<li>Make a donation to a green charity.</li>
<li>Give a parks pass, museum or arts-based membership or a membership to your local zoo or botanic garden.</li>
<li>Try stocking stuffers like LED bulbs or organic chocolates.</li>
<li>Buy organic toys and clothing for kids. (Bonus points if you recycle old toys for little ones!)</li>
<li>Give recycled or vintage jewelry.</li>
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There are lots ofother things to do, including wrapping gifts in old magazines or newspaper and cooking a great local/organic meal together. All these things not only help the environment, they'll help your budget, too! This year, my family gave each other handmade or recycled gifts. We also began a new tradition of writing down our favorite holiday memories and putting them in an online scrapbook with photos. Tell us if you're planning a green holiday this year. <em>-Kristen Ball</em></p> Play the Hand You're Dealthttp://www.first30days.com/your-health-diagnosis/articles/play-the-hand-youre-dealt.html2008-12-18T16:12:20ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>One of my favorite movie quotes is simple but not without deep meaning: “Yeah, well, sometimes nothin’ can be a real cool hand.” It comes from Paul Newman’s character in “Cool Hand Luke,” the “natural-born world shaker” who bluffs his way into winning a high-stress poker game. He delivers that line with his signature grin and nonchalance. It just goes to show that in poker, as in life, sometimes you have to make something out of nothing.<br />
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When I was diagnosed with a serious chronic disease in 2005, I found myself perpetually house-bound and sick for months that turned into years. It was a stark contrast to the New York lifestyle I had known and loved, one full of wonderful jobs (sometimes five or six at a time), socializing with many friends and eagerly exploring my city. Depressed about my health and helplessness at the age of 23, I tried to find happiness in what I did have, even when that meant a scant hour or two a day where I wasn’t in a ton of pain or discomfort. It was a tall order, to say the least, never knowing if I’d get better…ever.<br />
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Once I reached a point where I could tolerate my physical ailments, I realized how much I missed my friends and despite never feeling up to having company, let alone going out, I needed them. I could never get used to what felt like hospital visits (trips my friends made to see me because I was sick) so I decided to start a crafting event out of my apartment where I would bake desserts and my girlfriends would come over with their knitting or craft projects. I could sit down the entire time and because everyone occupied themselves and conversation naturally flowed, it took the pressure off of me as hostess.<br />
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Much healthier these days, my “Crafts and Crumbs” has grown into a dynamic group of women, all friends or friends of friends, and just yesterday, it made the pages of <em><a href="http://www.timeout.com/newyork/articles/i-new-york/70043/saturday-3pm-at-crafts-and-crumbs">TimeOut New York</a></em>! Two ladies from the magazine paid us a visit a few weeks ago, falling right into place at my homey apartment as I did my domestic goddess thing. Every time I hold a Crafts and Crumbs, I remember those sick days where I could barely stand up long enough to take the cookies in and out of the oven, when I put on more makeup than ever so that my starkly anemic face didn’t show through, and how I taught myself to breathe through pain all the while still smiling and talking. It was a difficult, and sometimes a forced attempt to enjoy myself, but deep down I knew it lifted my devastated spirits and contributed to my desire to keep on fighting.<br />
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<em>—Alicia Kachmar</em><br />
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* Photo from timeout.com/newyork</p> Feeling Sorry for the Richhttp://www.first30days.com/smart-investing/articles/feeling-sorry-for-the-rich.html2008-12-18T12:46:55ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>Living in New York city puts you face-to-face with the economic crisis on both ends of the spectrum. The guys who bought you and your girlfriends drinks all summer at rooftop bars are suddenly absent from the scene, or depending on you for a little kindness. Taxi drivers, manicurists and delivery men are mourning the loss of tips and customers. Everyone's got it bad.</p>
<p>Even those who have own a beautiful apartment uptown, a vacation home in Florida, a studio downtown, are dripping in diamonds and household help. <a href="http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2008-12-17/the-bag-lady-papers/1/">Alexandra Penny tells the Daily Beast</a> how she's lost it all...and frankly, it made me a little bit sick to my stomach.</p>
<p>Full disclosure: I also grew up pretty comfortably. I have a master's degree and live fairly well (though by no means as well as Ms. Penny.) I haven't had to scrape by like some people do, but I do have to <a href="http://www.first30days.com/frugal-living">manage my money and budget</a>, especially in this city. <br />
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So that said, there is a part of me that feels sorry for Ms. Penny when she laments the loss of her life savings in the <a href="http://www.iht.com/articles/2008/12/18/business/madoff.php">Madoff scandal</a>. For those who aren't from around these parts, the net of the net is that the financier ran off with $50 billion in a giant Ponzi scheme, leaving many like Ms. Penny completely wiped out. <br />
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She seems to have worked really hard for the money she invested, some of it earned at less than glamorous jobs she toiled at as a single mom trying to raise a child in a harsh city. Still, I felt my contempt rising as she talked about having to let her maid go and sell off her second home and art studio. <br />
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There are so many people affected by our country's financial crisis who are in real dire straits. Who don't have the choices Ms. Penny has. They have lost their jobs, homes and cars. They have no jewels or art to sell, no properties that can bring in cash. They work at low-level or mid-level jobs and many didn't have any savings or only a tiny nest egg.<br />
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What do you think? Should we feel bad for everyone who loses in investment schemes? Am I judging too harshly or assuming too much about Ms. Penny from her article? We'd love to hear your thoughts! <em>-Kristen Ball</em></p>
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<p>The economy is in freefall and the stock market is anything but booming. But if there's one thing our country is never at a loss for, it's the latest get-skinny-in-no-time-flat diet plan. <br />
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The year 2008 was chock full of them, and <em>Health</em> magazine recently released their <a href="http://slideshows.health.com/slide_shows/10374/slides/11507">Top 10 Diet and Weight Loss Stories of 2008</a>. <br />
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When I was reading the article, however, I couldn't help but wonder which ones didn't make the list. Which diets were so out-of-this-world that the <em>Health</em> editors simply said, "Pish, posh" and marked them as a no-no?<br />
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I decided to delve into the world of fad diets—a scary world, indeed—and dish about some of the weight loss plans that didn't make the cut. Keep in mind that I am not a health expert—just a health-oriented gal who likes to give her two cents.<br />
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*<strong> The Bead Diet</strong>: This newfangled diet involves the purchase of a <a href="http://www.ilovethiscolor.com/dietbracelets/">beaded bracelet </a>or you can get creative and make your own. Each bead equals 100 calories, so if you want to eat 1,600 calories a day, then you slide 16 beads onto one of the strings on the bracelet. As you eat, you slide your beads onto the second, bare string of the bracelet. The concept may serve as a helpful reminder, but to me it just comes right back to counting calories. While the process sounds simple enough—just slide a bead—you still need to know how many calories are in your food, and that requires a lot of work. <br />
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*<strong> Toning shoes</strong>: If you aren't familiar with shoes-that-help-you-get-fit fad, then check out <a href="http://www.thefitflop.com">FitFlops</a>. The manufacturers claim a special sole technology helps to make legs long, lean and more toned. I say it's a bunch of hoopla. I have a pair of FitFlops and I have not noticed any difference other than the fact that they are extra comfy and I do more walking in them. Maybe that's why people report such results—they are moving more!<br />
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* <strong>The Soul Diet</strong>: Based on principles of the Torah (the Jewish book of prayer), <a href="http://www.souldiet.com/">The Soul Diet</a> works to help you "eliminate the clutter," leading to weight loss and optimum health. While it's a notable idea, it's a diet that is far beyond the average dieting Joe's weight loss wishes. Linking health and soulful activity is interesting, and you don't have to be Jewish to learn the book's concepts, but when it comes to dieting we might need something a little less complex.<br />
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Next to these "interesting" 2008 diets, I am also opposed to any diet that requires you to eliminate whole food groups (think carbohydrates) or withhold from eating food for a number of days. While some of these diets have proven to be effective, like juice cleansing or veganism, I don't think they are suited for the average dieter. Best to consult a doctor or dietitian if you are looking to try one of those weight loss plans. <br />
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What's the wackiest diet you've ever tried?<br />
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<em>—Caroline Shannon</em></p> Love Not Actuallyhttp://www.first30days.com/improving-relationships/articles/love-not-actually.html2008-12-18T11:26:53ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>You might want to hold off on grabbing your beau and renting “Knocked Up” or “When Harry Met Sally.” Turns out, these rom-coms could actually be a death sentence to your perception of what constitutes a healthy, realistic relationship.<br />
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A <a href="http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/scotland/edinburgh_and_east/7784366.stm">study from the United Kingdom</a> found that romantic comedy fans were less likely to engage in open communication with their partners, which is a cornerstone for <a href="http://www.first30days.com/improving-relationships/articles/finding-relationship-help.html ">improving relationships</a>. Chick flick devotees were more likely to believe that if their partners were “meant for them,” their partners would know what was wrong without having to say anything to them. Romantic comedy fans were also more likely to believe in predestined love and destiny in general.<br />
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As one researcher, Kimberly Johnson, says, “Films do capture the excitement of new relationships, but they also wrongly suggest that trust and committed love exist from the moment people meet, whereas these are qualities that normally take years to develop.”<br />
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The researchers are continuing to study the effects of pop culture on relationships and are asking for <a href="http://remark.sls.hw.ac.uk/cgi-bin/rws3.pl?FORM=Media_study">participants to fill out an online questionnaire</a>.<br />
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Perhaps it’s because I’m not a big fan of chick flicks in general (although I admit that I love watching “Love Actually” during the holidays) that I’m not surprised by the findings. I’ve always considered most of them to be too sugar-coated and sappy. But if we accept that movies like "The Matrix" and "Lord of the Rings" are fantasy, why do we try to convince ourselves that these romantic comedies are just like real life?<br />
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Well, romantic comedy fans, what are your thoughts on the study? <br />
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<em>—Laura Lee Bloor </em></p> Buyer Bewarehttp://www.first30days.com/adopting-a-pet/articles/buyer-beware.html2008-12-17T14:02:23ZFirst 30 Daysinfo@first30days.com
<p>My family is a little crazy when it comes to our dogs. Actually, a little crazy is a bit of an understatement—we are absolutely obsessed with them to the point that my husband thinks we (mainly my mother and I) should be committed.<br />
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For us, Rocco and Cosmo (both Malteses) are members of the family. We have birthday parties for them, buy them Christmas presents, and dress them in costumes at Halloween. They even wore little doggie tuxes for my wedding a couple of years ago.<br />
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But as much joy as they’ve brought to our lives, caring for them is also a lot of work—not to mention incredibly expensive. This thought brings me to my current pet peeve (pun intended): giving animals as holiday gifts. While putting a cute puppy under the tree is a good idea in theory, it’s not something you want to spring on another person, regardless of how much you think they might love the surprise. “There are definitely risks associated with giving an animal as a present, including traumatizing an innocent animal that must be 'returned' or unintentionally placing the animal in a neglectful home,” says pet trainer Joan Mayer.<br />
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And the current economy makes this practice even trickier. In fact, <a href="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/27665004/">MSNBC recently ran a story</a> on how some pet owners are cutting back on vet visits as a way to save money. While I understand the need to save money, this tactic is just plain stupid. According to the article, infectious diseases, parasitism and degenerative diseases such as heart problems, kidney disease and arthritis in pets can go untreated or unnoticed when people skip well-pet visits.<br />
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What do you think about giving a pet as a present? Share your thoughts below. <em>–Linda DiProperzio</em></p>