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Lori Buckley

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Licensed clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist.

Ian Kerner

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Sex expert, certified counselor and author

Tristan Taormino

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Sex educator, author and Village Voice columnist
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Who Cares If It Turns Out Right?

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Unless you're building a skyscraper or fixing a brain, there's room for error in your work. Sometimes, not forcing greatness/perfection leads to bigger and better ideas. So let go of whether a project is "right," and just let it be what it'll be.
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After all this physical stimulation, it’s time to stimulate your brain. If the idea of making changes to your sex life feels intimidating, then face that fear by seeking knowledge. Here are five books that are sure to put the spice back into your love life:

The Joy of Sex, by Alex Comfort. This best-selling book for over three decades has become the standard for general sex education.

Sex for Dummies, by Dr. Ruth K. Westheimer. This is a quick and easy guide edited by famous sex educator Dr. Ruth.

When Your Sex Drives Don’t Match: Discover Your Libido Types to Create a Mutually Satisfying Sex Life, by Sandra Pertot, Ph.D. With one out of every three partnerships experiencing mismatched libidos, this book will help you to identify your own libido type and how to make it work with your partner.

Down and Dirty Sex Secrets: The New and Naughty Guide to Being Great in Bed, by Tristan Taormino. Taormino provides straightforward sex talk that covers everything from the basics to the taboo.

Sex for One: The Joy of Selfloving, by Betty Dodson, Ph.D. This is Dodson’s definitive tome on masturbation and its importance and beauty.

No matter what the media might portray, men and women are not born knowing how to have sex. Anytime you feel a lull in your sex life or feel the need to do something different, go back to these resources for a refresher.

Posted: 11/22/08
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