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The world of sex may be foreign to you. You may have heard some sexual terms, but you were never sure what they meant and you were certainly too embarrassed to ask your friends to explain. Here are some bedroom techniques that you may not have tried, but are sure to spice things up in the sack:

Kama Sutra: This ancient Indian text can be used as a guidebook for spicing up your sex life through the exploration of multiple sexual positions and the enhancement your spirituality.

Erotic Literature (i.e. erotica): These are books written with an artistic purpose, usually involving sexual plots or with the aim of teaching sexual techniques.

Pornography: Porn often lacks the artistic integrity of erotica, but can be used as a valuable visual learning tool. If you don’t want to buy pornographic videos, think about making your own—with your partner’s consent, of course.

Ménage à Trois
: A French term literally meaning “a household of three,” this typically means sex involving three people. It can include a couple or three people who are not in a relationship.

Erotic Massage: Similar to a regular massage, erotic massage includes stimulation of genitals and other parts of one’s body for sexual pleasure.

Tantra: This is an immersive sexual practice where a couple views sex as a means of connecting spiritually and physically.

BDSM: Short for bondage, domination, sadism and masochism, or any combination of those acts. It encompasses any physical act leading up to or during sex that inflicts pain—with your partner’s consent.

Sex Toys: Any apparatus that is used to aid in masturbation or to enhance your sexual experience with your partner. These range from dildos and vibrators to prostate massagers.

Posted: 11/22/08
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