Let's Talk About Sex

The person who sleeps next to you in bed is your most important tool to improving your sex life. Making your partner happy should be high on your priority list. After all, if you aren’t satisfying your partner, chances are you aren’t satisfied, either.

Find an appropriate time to ask your partner what he or she would like to see improved in the bedroom. Even if you’re in a long-term relationship and you think you know exactly what turns your partner on, sexual and romantic needs can—and do—change. Listen to everything your partner says and don’t balk at any of his or her requests, whether it’s a request for an increase in frequency or a change in technique. This isn’t a critique session. Don’t talk about what you’ve done wrong in the past, instead focus on what you can do in the future. Agree to meet these needs as much as you can, as long as the request is not morally or physically harmful.

If you and your partner are not on the same page with your sexual desires, don’t sweat it. Understand that we all have different needs, and committing to making yourself and your partner happy is key.