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Question:How do you broach the topic of what you prefer in the bedroom with a significant other?

If you're in a fairly new relationship, how do you tactfully go about the whole, "So, I wish you would do this," or "I wish you wouldn't do this" in terms of sex, without potentially insulting the other person? Seems like guys especially will take all of those statements as "You're doing something wrong."

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