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Caitlincc

Question:The other day I was extremely sexually frustrated and my boyfriend of 3 and a half years walked in on me taking care of myself, he got very angry and wouldn't talk to me for two days. What do I do?

And after he gets over being angry about what i did, we got ready to make love and I decide to tell him what I want him to do and he starts asking me if I think he is bad in bed because I want to change our "routine". What do I do about this? I can't win with him.

Asked by Caitlincc on 12/20/11 1 Answer»
marah2448

Answer:

You need to tell him that you are not sexually satisfied. Please try to have an open mind. He may come defensive because now it’s his manhood. It’s better to say something and see what he is willing to do to please you more? If he does not take initiative to show improvement; you have to decide (think about this you are not married, so it is not much of challenge). You have the choice to leave or stay and be deprived.
Being in a relationship and no intimacy or sex is an unhealthy relationship or marriage and is dum to fail.
I am married (still newly weds) and it is sexless. It’s not that easy to bail vs. just having a boyfriend. Because of lack of sex in my marriage I am losing a connection and began to feel just like a friendship
Boys become men; remember most men still have the boy mentality that why women is more mature about different situation in life. You are going to have handle the situation (include God in your decision) You have right frame of mind that why you decide to seek out advise are thought on your situation. Wish you the best on your decision.

Answered by: marah2448 on 1/17/12
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