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Question:Sexless Marriage! What do we do?!?

We have been married for a year. We chose to wait until marriage to have sex, but now we find that we do not have sexual chemistry. we have had sex less that 20 times in the year together. we have a great friendship but when sex comes up our relationship gets tense. We love each other very much and do not want to separate. How can we turn up the heat? What do we do?!?

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