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Old Enough to Know Better

Old Enough to Know Better

Tsk. Tsk. Tsk. Your teenage sons and daughters would be ashamed of you.

It seems that 30- and 40-year-olds think they’re too good for condoms and other safe sex methods these days. In a recent survey from the United Kingdom, only 38% of men and 29% of women ages 35 to 44 used protection for sex the first time with a new partner. In comparison, 68% of teens reported using condoms the first time they had sex with someone new.  

The lack of protection among adults is contributing to an upsurge in sexually transmitted diseases and infections in that age group. And a fresh outbreak of herpes is no way to improve your sex life. In response, researchers are now urging a new educational campaign on the importance of safe sex practices among all age groups.

What is going on here? How or when did anyone get the message that it was OK to have unprotected sex when you’re not in a monogamous relationship?  

Posted: 11/20/08

How, how, HOW?!

Lord, I have no idea how people still have not gotten that message. I don't like to sit on my high horse, but come on people!

I guess the older folks can be attributed to the fact that they were not raised with condom messages flying at them left and right, but it still seems unimaginable.

Wrap it up, puh-leeze!


It makes sense, as Kristen said, that people in long-term relationships would not really know how, but people in their 30s and 40s lived through the AIDS crisis in the 1980s and should know better. I definitely think this is a case of "do what I say, not what I do."


It's amazing what we forget as we get older. I read once that much older women (in their 50s and 60s) were getting STDs in growing numbers because they were having unprotected sex.
It's thought that they had been in long-term relationships that ended in divorce, and had never used protection with their husbands, so didn't really know how.

Maybe there needs to be adult sex ed classes. Hey—we could bridge the generation gap and bring them into the classroom to learn from the young ones who are doing it right!

  • By kristen
  • on 11/20/08 9:10 AM EST