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no change.....
Change is not a word my spouse understands, I think if do not change then we do not grow as people. He thinks i want to control everything he does, who he hangs out with,{ granted we are talking about a 50 plus years old man}.I want him to want to spend time with me. The bars are more important. Very sad time right now.I am not sure where to turn.
Shared by elrod1 on 6/20/08
I agree with acatt35. Prove that you are not controlling and do your own thing. If you truly love him, be a wife..be there for him but find things that you like to do and make you happy. I really think that marriage has ebbs and flows and if it's a healthy one it rides it out.
Alot of don't want change,for fear of the unknown.It sounds like a possible mid life crisis,an acceptance with his peers and with like losing control.Believe me I fully understand,where you are coming from,it's very frustrating!However,nothing stops me,from continuing to move on and do my own thing,I don't depend on him to make me HAPPY!(My spouse)see how I adressed him?Is a very negative person now with numberous joint replacements, only 45 years,now with what seems to be a RX,problem.He has said in past,that I am a control freak,however I haven't seen much leadership skills.