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Keep an open mind. Sometimes strangers will tell you something valid that your partner or best friends are afraid to tell you for fear of hurting your feelings & jeopardizing the relationship. As Hillary Clinton put it in an interview with Tavis Smiley, "

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The film "The Godfather" had the line, "Keep your friends close, and your enemies closer." Sometimes even an enemy, or a stranger, will point out a way you can improve your relationships that sounds mean, but can be practical and come in handy. "You meant it for harm, but the Lord meant it for good," as Joseph tells his brothers in the Bible when they did and said mean things to him.
I had a friend who was dating a man who had a bad reputation. She eventually found out, and asked everyone at our office, "Why didn't you guys tell me?" Nobody wanted to be the bearer of bad news. Ever hear of the term, "Shoot the messenger?" You may be right, but they'll hate you forever for it! "Silence is golden, but my eyes still see," was another song verse (from the 1960's). I've had to learn several lessons the hard way, trying to be loving and helpful w/family and friends, and falling flat on my face. I'm grateful to those who were willing to explain to me what my social mistake was. Not everyone really wants to hear the truth or a suggestion offered out of caring. Sometimes it's shocking or hurtful when you first hear it; but later on, you may thank the person, even if they're not a friend, for telling you a way you can get along w/people better, or avoid offending them.

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twobrowneyes

Hello, I found this interesting and Thank You for sharing! When a good friend can point out your faults to help you-this is truley a Blessing as well as constructive critism for you to benefit, to grow, to learn. However, on the other hand, I have found people pointing a finger at someone blame, blame, blame when it is actually the person whom is pointing the finger who holds the blame and shame, not the other. I have looked at the spec in your eye but not in my own~ is what I am saying. It can be a little touchie for it all depends on who your "Teacher" is. Love and lIght...

Only37Constant

Hillary Clinto told Tavis Smiley that people should take criticism seriously; just don't take it personally. That part of my first comment was cut off, so Ms. Clinton's words sound out of context. Could you fix that, please? Thanks!