One person can't be everything

One person can't be everything. I can't do it, so I try not to expect it from others. I've learned to appreciate that the different people in my life fulfill different "needs" I have.

I have friends I get "arty" with, friends I get "redneck" with, friends I am "sporty" with, friends I call when I need a hug. I wouldn't call a fishing buddy for an opinion on my new haircut. My arty friends would not enjoy going to a hockey game with me. This is OK.

For example, my guy will never be the person who plans and organizes a night out. If I want to go out and do something, I research it, buy the tickets or make the reservation, and put it on his calendar. But I've got girlfriends who do the same for me & I love it when someone else takes the reigns sometimes. I accept that my guy does not do this and I let it go.

On the other hand, my guy is really good at orchestrating a nice cozy evening at home complete with candles, wine, DVD's a lots of cuddles. I'm a bit of a tomboy so I would feel silly setting that up but I sure enjoy it when he does it for me.

For my part, I've found that I'm good at unbiased and confidential listening. Friends confide in me knowing I will not judge or repeat what they've told me. But they also know the can not engage me in trash-talking anyone. Call someone else for that.

Sure we can be multiple things for each other. I like to keep expectations simple so I'm always satisfied and quite often pleasantly surprised. "All-or-nothing" thinking is a sure way to be disappointed. And alone.