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Question:I've been friends with Ian & Loretta for many years. We meet every Tuesdays and Saturdays to chat and catch up. Lately, I've been resisting these get togethers. Sometimes I just want to go home and relax there without having to interact with other peop

Asked by jfoster on 9/17/08 3 Answers»
tlanman

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If you have been seeing your two lovemates, maybe, or friends for a long time, then you must enjoy their company. When lorraine and me were younger, we went out most every night before children for some seven years. Sometimes we went out with one or two friends. Most times we were part of some social oder called a group of friends. Lorraine, after our first child, pretty much ceased and desist on the going out thing. She said she was not gong to put her child in child care five days a week and then bring a baby sitter over at night so that we could simply go out and play. To this day, twenty seven years later, I believe strongly that her discision was not to fare to me. That decision has constantly run and sepparate out marriage and wedding vows. Tel your friend point black that you do indeed love them more than you ever have before, yet, say to them that you long for some personal time more and more. Say all of this top them gently. They will NOT like what they are hearing at first. However, they may have been wanting to tell you the same thingfor a while now. i know that this will test your friendships with one another.We always hung with a group of folks that were seven to ten years younger except for two who were our age. We live in a colledge town. The neat part is that the rest were still complete free spirits. Set uip what you must just imagin some ground rules saying that in no way do you wish to lose their friendship, but you are at a crest inwhich you want to dong some exploring. Tell them that you still want to see them once a week and I just bet they will agree quickly. I wouldn't bet my bottom dollar, but I would bt my forth one down.

Good Luck,

May Peace and Tranwuility be with you and may God bless you from this point foward.

Tony Fleamann form Tiger Country

You are not ou of touch with them yet

Answered by: tlanman on 9/22/08
Karadc

Answer:

Meeting twice a week is quite a lot, maybe there just isn't much to talk about after only a few days? Don't feel guilty for wanting to come home and relax...and spacing out your visits will probably make you look forward to them more!

Answered by: Karadc on 9/19/08
runnindownadream

Answer:

maybe you've just fallen out of touch with Ian and Loretta. Perhaps you could cut back to once a week and have quality over quantity.

Answered by: runnindownadream on 9/17/08
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