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I'm going to try and keep this short, and thanks for reading this :).
So I have been with my boyfriend for a couple of years now. I currently am facing two problems. One, whilst having sex, I get really bored. We have changed positions, speeds etc., but I just find it really, really boring. I also don't find myself caring if it's my boyfriend I'm having sex with or not. Not to say I'm going to go find someone else to have sex with, but I'm just not enjoying it like I thought I would.
Second, my boyfriend has within the past couple months become addicted to poker. It's as if he doesn't here a word I or anyone else says anymore - everything is about the game. That's all he talks about, does, thinks about, cares about. I have told him how I feel about it and he took it to extremes saying I don't care about what he's interested in and I only care about what I want, which is not true. The only time he cares about anything else is if he's taking a break from poker and I'm conveniently there, he wants sex. If I don't have sex with him then he says "Oh you don't think I'm attractive or what did I do to make you angry?" etc., etc.
I've had some emotional things going on where I would really like his help or his ears to listen to me and I have told him about this. He doesn't understand why I'm upset or anything and just won't listen for more than five minutes so I've just quit talking to him about it.
I just don't know what to do anymore - we've been through a lot together (everyone says that I know), and I know I still really like him and want to be with him. Is it selfish of me to want to be one of his if not number one priority? I just don't know how I feel being placed second hand to poker and sex... I know this isn't all one sided and I'm not perfect either but I'd like someone elses take on this.