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mariosakabe

Question:shall i be with 19 yrs old bad boy who want to have a baby with me? I have 2 teens and 2 little boys myself.

I finally got divorced from a man who never worked during 8 years marriage. I had 2 boys with him (8, 4). I was married before and had 2 teens. They grew up with their dad. I fall in love with 19 years old who self medicate with drugs and has criminal records (not violent).

Not even my parents treated me like a kid since I was 3. When he treat me like a baby, I enjoy that. But this relationship has been causing many problems to my life and kids. Should I just dump him? I don' want to live in the society's rule. How can I give affection to my inner child? Thank you!

Asked by mariosakabe on 10/10/09 2 Answers»
twobrowneyes

Answer:

Hello, 1st off-we must learn to Love ourself before we can fully love another. Please Love whom you are along with your children and have fun with them, grow with them, teach them and set pure and good examples and that can only come from you, their Mother. You do not need this guy or any more children at this time. You are Blessed with what you have already, be grateful, say "No Thank You to him" and "Yes" to yourself. Read self help books from your public library, read, read, read. Go to church with your children and all goodness will be born from that. Best of Luck.

Answered by: twobrowneyes on 3/9/10
LisaAnne

Answer:

Let go of the guy. Who says you even need a guy right now? Why don't you try being a kid with your kids once in awile and have some fun? Sounds like you need to get a little more spiritual. I promise romance will come later.

Answered by: LisaAnne on 12/28/09
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