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Question:I have broken the trust of my husband, and we are getting divorced tomorrow. I didn't cheat on him, but did make some bad decisions. I want to reconcile, but I don't even know where to start.

I ran into a gambling problem over the course of about 3 months. I hurt him pretty bad emotionally, financially, as well as his pride. We had a good relationship before all of this. We both had our own space, but knew who was at home and took a lot of pride in our marriage. He says that he only wants to be friends, but I feel that we still have a connection because he still has pictures of us together up in the bedroom after he arranged the whole house. I don't want to push him away, but I have told him that I do want to eventually be back together. He says that he doubts that, but that nothing is impossible. I know I really messed up and I want to have another chance this time to do things right. I don't know who to turn to or where for help. I know you can't make someone love you, but I think he actually still does. I know I would not have pictures up of someone and me together in my room if I were not still in love with them.

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