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How do i trust my long distance Fiance
We´ave been together for almost 3 years now and been engaged since Jan 2007.We love each other and are planning to get married as soon as i get my "green card" to join him in the US.
Because we are living in different parts of the world, sometimes i get insecure . How do i trust him?
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waiting to hear from you soon.
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I advise, long distance relationship does not work. If you have doubts with trust,then you really do not have a future with this person. If you intuition is feeling something is not right that is probably what it is. I you have been engage since 2007 and not married yet. I'm sorry this man is just saying what he want you to here. This man is not going to marry you. If you in another country, he is definitely with somebody else. This may not be the answer you want, here is reality. Ask yourself do you honestly believe this man in another country is in love with you, if so, please rethink your situation with this man. If you are using to get into the another country for the wrong reason: GOD does not like ugly. Above all find someone that is local because are going to get hurt.
Thank you so much for your reply to my question. You really made me remember how loved, respected and trusted he is in all other aspects of life!
I do agree with your with theory, i.e, my insecurity having nothing to with him. (It´s about me).
I feel insecure because, I´ave been cheated on before and I fear that history might repeat itself. Well, if the worst should happen, there won´t be much to do than give it my my best to get over it/him.
Truely, I would rather give it all I´ave got, (NOW) than sabotage it by resigning to my unjustified thoughts.
Is he a trustworthy man in other areas of his life? Do other people respect him, trust him, depend on him? That should be a good first clue...
You also have to work on your insecurities; that is something no one else can do for you. What are you insecure about? Why? What would you do if the worst happened anyway?
Ultimately, trust is something you CHOOSE to give or not give. If you choose to trust (after careful and prayerful discernment and evaluation), give it all you've got, and do not sabotage it by giving in to anxiety and doubt.