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Guy Speak

Guy Speak

Aren’t you tired of sounding like a broken record, asking the same question 10 times in a relationship and never getting a straight answer?

Well, maybe it’s you.

Your communication style, that is. If you’re trying to talk to your boyfriend or your husband and you don’t feel like you’re getting through, you might want to change your tactic a bit. Here are four of the more popular relationship questions and how you can rephrase them to get your message across.

DON’T ASK: Can you not slobber on me when you kiss me?
INSTEAD, SAY: I've been dreaming about you kissing me right there/like this. Want to reenact my dream?
WHY? Sex expert Ian Kerner, Ph.D., says that talking about sex and romance should be sexy, creative, fun and naughty, not instructional or critical.  

DON'T ASK: Why would you back out of a party if you promised we'd go?
INSTEAD, SAY: I thought we were planning on doing this, like we talked about.  
WHY? Saying "I" makes your communication clear, says author Jackie Black, Ph.D., as guys have a tendency to be distracted.

DON’T ASK: Would it kill you to take me out some place nice for a change?
INSTEAD, SAY: I really love our weekly burger and beers night and I think it would be fun to add something a little different to the mix, too. How about we try that new wine bar on 39th street?
WHY? Acknowledging first what you like softens a request for something different, says relationship expert Wendy Atterberry from The Frisky. Also, being careful to use the word "and" instead of "but" lets men know you don't want to completely change what he's doing, you just want to add to what he's doing.

DON’T ASK: You're not still dating other people, are you?
INSTEAD SAY: I'm really happy with how things are going between us and I'm ready to make things more exclusive. How would you feel about that?
WHY? Not only is the second question non-accusatory, it assertively and succinctly expresses how you're feeling and creates an opening for honest communication about your relationship, Atterberry explains.

Have you changed your communicatio style to accomodate your partner? How has it worked?

Posted: 1/8/09
Debbi03

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  • By Debbi03
  • on 9/16/16 5:57 PM EST
Debbi03

This has really worked and I am proud to testify of it. I saw a post on how a lady got her man back by Dr. Trust who helped her to get her Ex Husband back. My relationship was crashed down for 3 good years and some months. Although I never believed in spiritual work I reluctantly tried him because I was desperate but to my greatest surprise Dr. Trust helped me to bring back my man and now my relationship is now perfect just as he promised. Getting your ex back permanently spell does not only bring back someone you love back,but it will also re-ignite your lovers feelings for you to be as happy with that person as possible. My man now treats me like a queen and always say he love me all the time. If you are passing through difficulties in your relationship Email him for urgent help.

Ultimatespellcast@yahoo.com or Ultimatespellcast@gmail.com
websit: Link
Call +2348156885231

  • By Debbi03
  • on 9/16/16 5:57 PM EST
WendyBaron

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WendyBaron

I was hurt and heart broken by my husband,but i am so happy to have my husband back in my life again.!My name Wendy Baron, i live in Manchester, United Kingdom. A very big problem occurred in my marriage seven months ago, between me and my husband . so terrible that he took the case to court for a divorce. he said that he never wanted to stay with me again,and that he didn't love me anymore.So he packed out of the house and made me and my children passed through severe pain. I tried all my possible means to get him back,after much begging,but all to no avail.and he confirmed it that he has made his decision,and he never wanted to see me again. So on one evening,as i was coming back from work,i met an old friend of mine who asked of my husband .So i explained every thing to him,so he told me that the only way i can get my husband back,is to visit a spell caster,because it has really worked for him too.So i never believed in spell,but i had no other choice,than to follow his advice. Then he gave me the email address of the spell caster whom he visited. TEMPLEOFLOVEANDPROSPERITY@GMAIL.COM. So the next morning,i sent a mail to the address he gave to me,and the spell caster assured me that i will get my husband back the next day. What an amazing statement!! I never believed,so he spoke with me, and told me everything that i need to do. Then the next morning, So surprisingly, my husband who didn't call me for the past 7 months, gave me a call to inform me that he was coming back. So Amazing!! So that was how he came back that same day,with lots of love and joy,and he apologized for his mistake,and for the pain he caused me and my children. Then from that day,our relationship was now stronger than how it were before,by the help of a spell caster. So, i will advice you out there if you have any problem contact Dr Frank Ojo, i give you 100% guarantee that he will help you.. Email him at: Templeofloveandprosperity@gmail.com ,or visit his Web site to know more about him: Link .

VAL3214

Thank you Dr.Agbazara for helping me to unite my relationship just within the period of 48 hours. I can still remember those period when i was having problems with my lover but today through the help of Dr.Agbazara i am having joy in my relationship. And if you are having problems in your relationship the right place to get it solved is at: agbazara@gmail.com OR you can give him a call on +2348104102662. By his help all your problems will be solved within 48 hours

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sarahcoko

After reading rave reviews on blogs, I found testimonies about Dr. Wakina so interesting. I emailed Doc. on October 15, begging him to piece back together my shattered heart, I have been in somewhat of an emotional crisis over a man I love so much for 2 years now. I met him 4 years ago at my workplace, it was love at first sight, I couldn’t take my eyes off him, and I have always felt there was a strong connection between us before we started dating.

We have always had our miscommunication mishaps along the way which have not helped the romantic side develop, but I have always felt there was something holding him back when he started acting wired, before we broke up. I tried moving on and forget about my feelings for him, but I can’t, deep inside, I know I care and love him.

Story short; Dr. Wakina cast the spell that brought us back again and made our love to last forever, we have been deep in love since then. Am so happy to also share my testimony and to recommend Dr. Wakina via his email dr.wakinalovetemple@gmail.com

thankslove

My Name is Christopher am from canada, am here to share this wonderful testimony for what Dr ogogodu has done for me and my family,i have been in a relationship with my lover for more than 3 years until she told me she is no longer interested in this relationship it was like i was dreaming because i never expected it from her because we both where really in love she made me to realise that true love exist,i tried my possible best to get her back but i never found a solution until this Godsent came called Dr ogogodu i got to know about Dr ogogodu when i was listen to the radio when people where giving testimonies on how Dr ogogodu has helped them in bring back there lover within 18 ,24 hours i was so happy that this was my hour of solution i got Dr ogogodu contact i contacted him and told him he laughed and said i should not worry that he assures me that within 18 hours will have my lover back, really as the 18 hours was completed was a call from my lover begging me that she never knew what came over her i was so happy and i accepted her back and i promise to share this testimonies as well because people might not have time to listen to the radio so i had to try and drop this on the internet where people can simple read this my good news am so happy today that my lover laura is back with the help of Dr ogogodu you can contact Dr ogogodu on ogogodutempleofsolution@gmail.com or cell number +2348078999655

NewLeaf

Although it's sometimes hard to remember to say things in a loving, supportive, non-accusatory way when all I really want to do is stamp my feet and bite my husbands head off, it does work! I just have to remember to take a long, deep breath and think before I speak. The result often amazes me. And, the more often I do it, the easier it gets, like creating any new habit. Thanks for the reminder.

  • By NewLeaf
  • on 1/29/09 11:34 AM EST
prowlinpassion

DON'T ASK: Why don't you look at me when I am talking to you?
INSTEAD KNOW: Through studies its been proven that men are listening without looking, so don't feel ignored when we don't 'look' while listening.