A Little Help From My Friends

During the first 30 days, you may find that the grieving process takes over everything else. There might be countless tasks that need to be done, whether it’s around the house or at work. And despite the growing list, you just can’t bring yourself to do them all—or any, for that matter.

It’s OK to ask for help. There will be a lot of people surrounding you at this time. In fact, the number of people calling, writing and coming by may astound you and fill you with gratitude. Take advantage of the love, influence and respect that you share with others. It’s OK to use of the help and support of friends and family at this time. In fact, they will feel empowered and relieved when you ask them to pitch in.

When you’re alone, make a list of all the things that need to be done—especially things you can’t seem to accomplish on your own. Then ask a trusted friend to help you figure out who can help. It will make you feel better to know that these things are getting done and it will give your friends and family an opportunity to show their support during this time.