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Question:How do you get past the loneliness of losing parents? I lost my mother when I was very young and never grieved the loss, now I have lost my father and I feel lost and overwhelmed with the pain and sadness. I know I am not alone, but how do you learn to n

Asked by Anonymous on 10/9/09 2 Answers»
Spritz

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I lost my father three weeks ago today. Best I can say is just put one foot in front of another and just walk when you have to. Other times I close and lock my door, turn off the phones, get on the sofa with my two Chihuhua's and just stay there under covers watching old reruns of Law and Order...which I normally do not watch. I have did that for the past two weeks on week-ends and on Thanksgiving. That might sound depressing in itself yet I feel like I need the rest, the being away from people. The hardest part of me is working. My job is a marketing rep for a property management company in Virginia for 9 properties. Well, to market...you must meet folks and be cheery and interested in them...its the last thing I want to do right now...is be cheery and intereact with folks on that level. I am trying to take care of myself though with plenty of rest as I usually do not do that. It's a hard process to have to go through. Then I hear about a friend who's Dad just passed and then another one on the same day whose mom was killed tragically by a tanker truck crossing the interstate and rocketing off the side rail right into his parents. His mother was crushed and his father is in the hospital. He feels responsible as he couldn't get their vehicle out of the way fast enough. So, its true. You can always find someone facing a more difficult situation than yours. However, that does not remove the spaciness you feel nor the does the feeling of loss or grief alleviate. I am trying to learn to celebrate his life as well as grief for the loss.

Answered by: Spritz on 12/7/09
elsaodette

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I don't know how you get past it. I think you just learn to live with it, day by day. I am sorry about your loss. I too, lost my mother but just recently (5 months) - I wasn't ready for it, I don't think no one is. I almost lost my dad in a car accident last month. At this time, I am kinda numb and I guess in a way, numb is good. It allows me to continue functioning as I need to do it in order to provide for my family.

The biggest thing I had to deal with before this happened was my divorce - and what helped me then was prayer and forgiveness. So I am going to try that. Another thing that has helped me in the past has been immersing myself in positive things - reading, listening - and also getting rid of the toxic people in my life, the clingy ones that just want to suck the life out of you. Best of luck to you :)

Answered by: elsaodette on 11/29/09
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