dear joe1964,

as painful as it is try and look at the pink as a symbol of how much you meant to each other and that she is with you and yours always ,I have hated mothers dayz for so long that when i finally let this day go , i also let go my anger and started to let people in just that little bit.I lost my dad @24 and my mum emotionally @ 14,in life at 34 ...somtimes we have to be kind to ourselves...

Your mother is your best friend and mother. For all the varing times good and difficult to down right hard, it is harder when you are both adults and can see each other as adults and can appriciate all that is about that person. When the time comes when either they go home to God or you move away, and not close enough to go over and visit daily. You just have sometimes just take things one step and sometimes one 5minutes at a time. I will someday be in that situation. Mom and I got closer as adults and in the past 3 years I saw my sister and 2 of my brothers die from ALS. I saw my mom at 85 years old deal with this. She has shown such courage and stamana I just can't believe it. One of my brothers was killed.
That is the hardest one to deal with, and this Christmas is going to be the first without him.
you just wake up in the morning and say God what do you want me to do today? and ask his help in helping you to deal with this. There is no way around this, you just have to go through it and know that somehow you and God will make it through together and you will be better and stronger for having gone through this time in your life.

These days I'm thinking of the people I have lost in my life as being on my remote team. My dad was a great driver, never had an accident, so he watches over me when I'm driving. My grandma keeps me safe in the kitchen. My friend Irene is making sure my heart doesn't get stomped on.

We never really lose someone we love as long as we keep them in our hearts. Instead of thinking of the loss as a negative, take comfort knowing they are always with you.

I know it is diffuclt to carry on with our life, when someone we love so dearly has left this physical world. I understand because I am 52yrs. old and I have lost both my parents. There were days that I felt so angry, lost and hopeless. I still grieve for my parents sometimes and its ok, but I had to get myself together not just for myself but for the people who loved and depended on me. My healing came through GOD, grief counseling, and the support of my family. Believe me as time goes on the pain will get lighter and less frequent. I'm sure your mother would not want to see you basically give up on your life. You can always talk to GOD because he knows your pain, and it may now be time to start the healing process. You will have good days and not so good days, but this is life and we must realize that death is as much a part of life as living is. It will always be hard to say goodbye to those we love. Remember all the wonderful things about your mother that defined her life and you will find joy. Don't give up or give in you will survive. I Promise. Debra