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Letting bygones be gone
Getting a divorce can be a stressful event, filled with emotions, questions and doubts.
The best thing we can do for our healing and growth is to let go of anger or regret. Try not to focus on the negative. Our thoughts can rob us of our energy and keep us from moving forward. Focus on life in the moment and the thrill of what lies ahead.
Share your story of letting bygones be bygones. How have you been able to move forward after divorce?
Shared by VictoriaB on 3/8/08
Forgiveness was the key in the process of my divorce. I decided to forgive him every time I got frustrated with him and his decisions. I focused on our child knowing that whatever I was experiencing would trickle down to him (my kid) and he deserves better. Sometimes I had to forgive through clenched teeth and many tears but forgiveness, like love, is not a feeling, it's a decision.
It's been 3 years since my divorce. We share the joy of raising a happy kid, what more can I ask for?
Every time I begin to feel sadness or regret -- which is just opposite the concepts of 'Being Happier' -- your suggestions pop into my mind, & so far I've been able to let those feelings go, right after they appear.
Thank you for being here & sharing your wisdom!