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Breaking Up is Hard To Do
When one says, “I do,” no one believes that it will result in divorce down the road. However, this is a reality for many married couples.
Divorce is a very personal—and often traumatic—life change. It’s important to come to terms with your breakup and do everything in your power to make the best of the situation. You can begin by setting short- and long-term goals for yourself. The First 30 Days is here to guide you through the process—to virtually hold your hand, so to speak. In the next month, you can expect to:
- Handle your emotional ups and downs.
- Deal with the financial and legal aspects of a divorce.
- Explain the divorce to your children, family and friends.
- Come to terms with the reasons for the divorce.
- Start a new life without your spouse.
DID YOU KNOW? The per-capita divorce rate in the United States is currently at its lowest level since 1970? These statistics are misleading, however: Researchers attribute the drop to the increase in the number of couples who live together without marrying.







i was married for 20 years / have 6 kids / am divorced a year now. My ex said that he was unhappy and he wanted a fresh start. Ends up he had met someone 17 years younger than himself and also married. They both divorced and did not end up together. She got engaged last week and he is on girlfriend # 9. I cannot understand how he was able to let go after so many years and so many shared experiences. I cannot let go. I was in the role of wife for so long. I have spent the year organizing and creating stability for my kids. I redid the kids' rooms and explored my creative side - something i was never able to do in my marriage. I find myself sad alot - blaming myself and wondering why i cannot let go and move on?