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Question:Anyone married to an alcoholic...

and thinking about getting divorced? How do you compete with the high of drugs and alcohol..and an angry man?

Asked by dzahns3 on 5/21/08 2 Answers»
lettinggo

Answer:

My husband is an alcoholic and gambling addict (among other things). I have finally come to the point where I can't take anymore. I'm exhausted just trying to stay afloat and make everything okay. Thank God we don't have kids, although he does have 3 from previous marriages. I don't know how to break the news to them or to any of his family. I'm the stability they all rely on. But like abnormal_chick said, I can't save him. I have to save myself.

Answered by: lettinggo on 9/24/08
abnormal_chick

Answer:

I'm so sorry you have to deal with this. I just got my divorce final 3 days ago and it was because my husband was always out drinking. I guess I can be grateful he wasn't here drinking in front of the kids, but he was literally never home.

As the years wore on (six years total together, two dealing with alcohol issues), I knew I couldn't take it anymore. It was killing me and my kids. It was hard because I still love him so much and wish I could save him, yet I know I can't...so I must save us instead. Good luck!

Answered by: abnormal_chick on 7/27/08
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