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Question:how do you get through the hurt when there was another woman that caused the divorce?

Asked by Lenaole on 8/28/09 1 Answer»
elsaodette

Answer:

Forgiving him AND her. Praying for them. It may sound crazy, it sure did to me at that time ... but holding on to the hurt and the anger, only messed me up, not them.

Of course they didn't know and they will never know - unless they join this site, lol - 'cause this was my process, my way of dealing with things ... 3 years later she is the one driving by my house trying to find out where he is ... she got what she wanted and I got my life and my self back.

Answered by: elsaodette on 11/29/09
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