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Kiki76

We always talk about sending signals out into the universe that we want to find something...but when it comes to romance, many of us (myself included!) are reluctant to be set up!

Why do you think the notion of a blind date is so unappealing to us? Is it bad past experiences? Are we worried about looking desperate, or having a bad time?

I've begun to see setups as an opportunity to simply meet someone new. When you remove the expectation of sparks and fireworks, you can relax and simply enjoy being out. Who knows? Even if your date isn't someone you'd want to go out with again, their best friend, brother or roommate could be someone you hit it off with.

Keep putting yourself out there, and good things will come!

Shared by Kiki76 on 12/9/08
alegria

I think we're worried to see what our friends really think of us. It seems like whomever they set us up with will be a direct reflection of their opinion of us. If they send us out with a total nerd, what does that mean? But that is totally silly. There could be anything that sparks your friend's interest and makes them believe you'd be a good match. You might be surprised by who you end up falling for.

  • By alegria
  • on 12/30/08 5:30 PM EST