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Question:How can I stop being so impatient!?

Whenever I meet a new guy that I like, I always jump the gun and text them first! Every time I do it, I always beat myself up for not letting him be the one to make the first move. In the moment I think, "hey, I'm just being myself, and I'd like to see this person." And then I get all bummed out if I don't hear back from them. I feel like its always a battle between playing "the game" and taking a risk every now and then. Does anyone have any thoughts or strategies?

Asked by alegria on 12/9/08 1 Answer»
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I know what you mean.. I have the same problem!! If a guy I like wants to meet for a drink and gives me those 'signals' that he is interested, I always get my hopes up and get way too excited and always, eventualy, get disapointed.. I hate the way that it always feels like your playing some kind of game, that you just don't know the rules to.. Anyways, I'm reading a book at the moment that basically says that, if a guy is into you, he will find a time and a way in his busy schedule to let you know he is thinking of you. I kinda think of it this way, if a guy likes you, he will let you know that and find a way to see you/talk to you. So maybe just try and wait before you text your guy, you'll find out if he's thinking of you enough to text you!! And if he doesn't? His loss!!

Answered by: Fashionista on 10/2/09
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