Sparking Up a New Romance

Enjoy the Process

During the first 30 days, you may find a relationship, and you may not. But no matter what, each day brings you one step closer to your goal—and maybe a few steps closer to being the kind of mate someone else is looking for, as well.

Throughout the 30 days, try to have fun, enjoy the new conversations you have and get to know other people and yourself,” says Slotnick. “As you get to know yourself better, you may end up rethinking your ideal person and ‘trading up.’ You may start to aim even higher!

And remember, no one said finding love was easy—or speedy. Even when the journey seems impossibly long, remember that there is much fun to be had along the way. “There’s no time limit on this,” says Schwartz. “Over the next 30 days, you may meet a bunch of frogs—that’s just luck of the draw, and it doesn’t forecast the next 30 days. Don’t give up. Keep in mind that when you do find a new relationship, all this time spent ‘in training’ will absolutely be worth it.