Important ... don't be ashamed!
I have fought with clinical depression for years. Not being a particularly strong person, I feel depression was supported by all those around me. Not to excuse myself, but I did not have the witheral to grow as I should. After a 35yr marriage failed, I finally sought help from the VA and talked different counselors. Still have problems but it is not as bad as before. Met a very nice person in the hospital and we have become good friends. That helps and he listens to me, as I do him. Nothing more than friends. A friend that listens is very important.