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Welcome to the world of online dating. Kudos to you for putting yourself out there and embracing the latest resource in your search for true love.
It’s common to experience a mix of emotions—excitement, anxiety, anticipation and uncertainty—during your first 30 days of dating online, but here you’ll find the support, knowledge and encouragement of relationship experts and other people who have already found love on the internet.
In the next 30 days you will:
- post an online dating profile;
- become more comfortable connecting through the internet;
- and learn a lot about what you do (and don’t) want in the process.
Think of this as the beginning of an adventure where you’ll meet new people, learn about yourself and have some fun doing it. Just one click of the mouse can help you “click” with that special someone.
DID YOU KNOW? Online Dating Magazine estimates that more than 120,000 couples get married each year as a result of online dating. And, who knows, you could be a future success story.
I have been on most of the sites and I am very honest in my pictures, profiles, etc. I am almost 50 and I find guys at my age are either uber selective and do not want someone 50 OR you need to look 20! Or, the fact that I am self supporting and looking for someone equal to spend time with seems to throw them. I am very active, in excellent health and very good shape but I do not get matched with the right guys. The most frustrating part is the perception I am a cougar and all the 20 somethings that approach! I tell them thank you but go away and tsp calling me dude!!
When I was not really looking, or thought I was not, a new person popped up on the site. We began chatting. it felt charged somehow. I took it off that site and into regular emails and from there it grew and gathered energy, moving into phone calls. Between emails and nightly phone calls, it grew and felt very comfy and intriguing. Still, he never firmed up a date to come meet me and then turned down my offer to visit him, as his work schedule was more intense than mine.
That stung, but I felt he might have some buttons that I didn't want to push and ruin the goodness that seemed to be growing.
A few more months of this, and a "friend" from the site on which we met, interfered driving a wedge that could not be repaired. It ended ugly with a final letter accusing me of missing his signals, and some other accusations.
He continued to keep in touch with the "friend". Being stung by one loss. Being betrayed by an interloper is still an amazingly painful experience. Felt like 7th grade all over again.
I see he is now on this site. I wish I could contact him just to ask how he is, but I know it isnot wise.
I would love to have that "future success story". I am not giving up on love. I want my prince. I want someone to love me for all the right reason. Like my grandmother said, I must go through some frogs before I can get to my prince.