Change Your Beliefs, Change Your Life
If you find yourself stuck in the middle of a change, work on changing any beliefs that might be holding you back. Just as you created your current beliefs, you can replace them with new ones.
1. Write down any negative beliefs about the current change—for example, I'll never get well, I don’t have what it takes to succeed and so on.
2. Imagine that you're sitting with the most optimistic person you know, ready to choose better beliefs about this change. What would they be? Write these down—for example, I'm strong enough to get well, I have what it takes, etc.
3. Put these ideas someplace visible and read them once or twice a day.
Don't be discouraged if your mind resists initially. Research has shown that it takes between 21 and 28 days for something to become a habit. Stick with it, and these new beliefs will eventually become a part of you.
Read more advice on getting through change in my book, The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Making Any Change Easier.