You're Gonna Love Me!
You will go out with that gorgeous guy/girl. Whatever it takes—new clothes, better jokes, new attitude—you will succeed. The facade doesn't matter, as long as you find romance with the partner of your dreams.
Hold on there, Stalky McStalkerson. Let's take a big step back for a second and think about this. Even if you manage to “win your prize,” you can’t keep up the charade forever. Inevitably, the relationship will fall apart because you’re not who you said you were. Relationships endure when two people love each other for exactly who they are.
The same holds true at work or in parent-child relationships. Trying to meet other people’s needs by sacrificing who you are is exhausting, to say the least. And if you really think about any past relationship and why it was strained or broken, chances are you'll find inauthenticity as the culprit.
Today, start letting go of trying to be someone else and focus on who you want to be. Not only will you feel a huge relief at being able to be yourself, but you’ll have the healthiest and most fulfilling relationships possible. And isn't that what we all want?