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MJ Acharya

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Author, blogger and healer of broken hearts

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Co-author of How To Heal A Broken Heart In 30 Days

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Author of the young adult novel The Breakup Bible
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An impending break up isn't always easy to see. When Sara’s boyfriend of five months gave her the “It’s not you, it’s me” spiel, initially she was devastated. “I had no idea he was thinking of leaving me, though looking back I should have seen some signs,” she says. “The last few weeks, Ted kept finding excuses not to get together and when he did come over there always seemed to be a reason he couldn’t stay over.”

After a “lost weekend” where she didn’t emerge from her apartment except to walk the dog, Sara poured herself into a long-neglected hobby: song-writing.

“At first the songs were all ‘He done me wrong, poor, poor pitiful me’—super wallowing numbers,” she recalls. Gradually her work moved away from broken hearts and crushed roses to embrace more idiosyncratic topics like lazy summer days at the beach, how much she hates cell phones and rush-hour traffic. “I got so caught up in doing something I loved. There were longer and longer periods when I forgot I’d lost someone I loved.”

Finding something that sparked her passion and gave her a reason to get up in the morning helped her realize she was a lot more than a person who suffered a breakup.

Find out how other break-up survivors found inspiration in our feature, "Breaking Up Is Hard to Do."

Posted: 1/8/09
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MY FRONT ROOM HAS BEEN REPOSITIONED SO I DON'T HAVE TO WALK INTO THE HOUSE AND SEE WHERE HE USED TO SIT. I ACTUALLY LIKE IT BETTER THIS WAY! DON'T KNOW WHY I DIDN'T THINK OF IT BEFORE.

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