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Breaking up should give you the opportunity to focus on yourself. Now is the time for self-nurturing. Do something you want to do today and make your own mental and physical health your personal priority.

Too often people going through breakups neglect their health. Instead, eat well, exercise [even just a walk around the block] and get a good night’s sleep. Indulge in pastimes you enjoy, whether walking on the beach with your dog to listening to music. Visit a museum and look at some masterworks to remind yourself that beauty exists. Do whatever it takes to focus on you and stave away the desire to sulk alone until 5 a.m.

It may be helpful to keep a journal. Whenever you’re feeling blue, write down how you’re feeling. Include affirmations like, “It’s his/her loss. I am a beautiful, amazing person who is totally deserving of love, and this breakup is putting me on the road to finding my soul mate.”

Keep a written record of vows: “The next time I meet someone who seems to value me for my money, I will run for the hills.”

DID YOU KNOW? Cocoa contains anandamide, a natural chemical that helps produce a slightly euphoric feeling. So go ahead and have a piece of chocolate, but keep it to just one piece.

Posted: 11/21/09