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Be Good to Yourself
Breaking up should give you the opportunity to focus on yourself. Now is the time for self-nurturing. Do something you want to do today and make your own mental and physical health your personal priority.
Too often people going through breakups neglect their health. Instead, eat well, exercise [even just a walk around the block] and get a good night’s sleep. Indulge in pastimes you enjoy, whether walking on the beach with your dog to listening to music. Visit a museum and look at some masterworks to remind yourself that beauty exists. Do whatever it takes to focus on you and stave away the desire to sulk alone until 5 a.m.
It may be helpful to keep a journal. Whenever you’re feeling blue, write down how you’re feeling. Include affirmations like, “It’s his/her loss. I am a beautiful, amazing person who is totally deserving of love, and this breakup is putting me on the road to finding my soul mate.”
Keep a written record of vows: “The next time I meet someone who seems to value me for my money, I will run for the hills.”
DID YOU KNOW? Cocoa contains anandamide, a natural chemical that helps produce a slightly euphoric feeling. So go ahead and have a piece of chocolate, but keep it to just one piece.
Hello hamsa2010, hope your doing okay today. I wanted to let you know that I share a lot of your pain and all I keep telling myself is this too shall pass. My partner moved out in July and a lot her stuff is still in the house too. It's not that I look at it all time because this is not the first time she's moved out. She's been back and forth for about 2 years and never really had a reason for leaving or for coming back other than I thought about it and I love you and I want to work on it and a week later she's back to being down. What I want to say to you and saying to myself as well is the quicker his stuff is out, the quicker you will exhale. Exhale means you have day you set aside that you get rid of everything that belongs to him and focus on the end result. What you want for your life? Why your relationship ended? Write those things down and bury it away. Closure is so needed and I didn't even do that yet because a part of me is still fighting and the thing is I don't know what I'm fighting to keep. Really look deep within yourself and ask if he was really the one for you and is he worth your precious time. Life is really too short, look how long I spent going back and forth and wondering; it could have been time spent with getting to know me and bringing me back to 100% so when the next 100% comes along I will be ready because a relationship is not 50/50 it's 100/100 which makes you a pair. I am sure you are a wonderful person and I feel your pain so much I want to give you a hug because I know it will do both of us good. Please don't stop reaching out, reading and journalling is so good for your soul. I pray that we both get to a wonderful place where we will look back at this time and say wow how small that was and look at me now. Your Loved!
I'd sure love to "get a good night's sleep" but that doesn't seem to be in the works. It's been a little over a month since the end of my 3-year relationship (although his stuff is still in the apartment, so it still feels raw and i spend a lot of anxious time anticipating how it will feel when he has completely moved out). I'm going to try to resolve to create a healthier, more relaxing night-time routine so that I don't stress myself out reading old emails or online apt hunting when I get home. Any concrete suggestions would be helpful.