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MrTuley

Question:I'm not sure if I should let go and move on or if I should hold on and see where it might go knowing that I might be more hurt down the line?

I've been in a relationship for six months and I've fallen in love but she hasn't. She is much more experienced than me in relationships so her emotions haven't moved at the same pace as mine. She has been married and divorced and has had many more partners than me. We have been intimate and even lived together but now she says there's an attraction issue and she is accustomed to being with black guys and I'm white. She likes bad boys and I'm a nice guy so I don't turn her on to the level that she is accustomed to. She says she wants to back off because she realized she's not ready for a committed relationship and she needs to be alone (this coming after we have discussed engagement, marriage and kids). At times it seems like she is trying to drive me away.She says she wants to build a friendship to see where it could take us. Should I continue to hold on and try to step back and be friends knowing the whole time because I'm in love with her I'll just be hoping that we get back together or should I just cut everything off to heal and move on and go my seperate way?

Asked by MrTuley on 11/14/12 1 Answer»
RTLJR77

Answer:

Ok listen. I am not going to sugar coat this so hang on to your seat. She doesn' love you!!! You sound like a real nice guy and you are getting messed with. If you love someone who doesn't love you it wont work. There is smeone else out there for you. Have some balls and walk away from her. She will regret it ut too bad. Do yourself the favor brother. RUN!!!

Answered by: RTLJR77 on 11/14/12
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