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Question:I'm really confused with my break up situation with my ex boyfriend. I really need help. thankyou.

Hello,
I have been reading your daily advice on how to get my ex back. But I am very confused with my condition now with my ex boyfriend. He broke up with me a month ago (27 July) after we had been together for 2.5 years together. reason being I was drunk that night and he don't like girls to go clubbing or drunk. He said, after he know i was drunk, that got him think twice about us. He said we had different personalities that both of us liked different things. he said we are totally opposite of each other. but i said that is why i am attracted to him bcos i dont want find a guy that is totally same character as me. he said he had been giving too much in this relationship that to the extent said he is very tired and totally gave up with our relationship. he said he changed himself during our relationship so he can accomodate to my wants, that he said he completely lost his real self now. he want to find back himself and too tired in the relationship that he dont want to continue anymore. I dragged the breakup a few days and called him up to talk. Finally 3 days ltr he meet me up and tell that we should breakup and stuffs. I asked her if he had another girl, he confidently replied said, No. I believed him, because he is not that kind of guy to me and all of my friends also know that he seems like couldnt live without me.

Two weeks after we broke up, rumours are spreading that he is together with this new girl (J). He and J had alot of common, be it interest or character. Just one week after we broke up, J also broke up with her boyfriend. Both of them doing almost everything together now. Many of my friends had saw the both of them together and got touchy which is definitely beyond what normal friends will do. He said he wouldnt find any girlfriend until he had a stable job, but he is seeing another girl right now. I really don't know what else could I do. May I know what are the chances of us getting back together? And Please let me know what can i do to win him back. I really feeling very helpless right now. Thankyou for reading.

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