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Question:I need some tips for when I cant get her out of my mind.

We have a child together he is 7. We have been split for almost 4 months. I still see her on the days that we drop off our son to each other. We live in a small community seeing elsewhere is not unusual. I have been to counseling and am trying to follow the advise of the counsellor. I can see why they advise not to get involved with anyone after such a break- up . The only thing that seems to comfort me is spending time with my son, however I also tends to make ne miss that last part of the equation which is her. 3 months after we have split she has occupied her self with being busy with friends. Some of those friend relationships have turned into situations where my counsellor has told me to stay away from. I really don't approve of some of the things that she is doing behind our son's back I realize that I have no control but it hurts like hell . I see a cry for help in what she is doing, .... Is it a cry for help or me wishing she was back as a part of my life ... Both I would assume .... Let it run it's course ....it is hurtIng me in the mean time. Help please

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