Archive for October, 2012

26 oct

Protecting Your Privacy Online

JennaSmithIn the early days of the Internet, scientists used it and scholars to exchange information back, and forth to one another. As its use expanded, however, privacy started becoming an issue. Now, more people use the Internet to do all their business, from buying and selling, transferring money and sending sensitive documents.

What You Should Be Concerned About

Online information can open you to identity theft attacks from hackers, but there is more that you have to be concerned about. Everything that you post online, every site that you go to, even briefly, even your chat conversations can become part of your reputation. Like it or not, your online footprint can help determine who you are in the eyes of strangers. If you plan to apply for school and school loans, a new job or run for public office, you might need some information about reputation management

Finding Out What is Out There Already

The more important that the position that you are applying or running for is, the more likely your competition will think nothing of sinking to the lowest common denominator slander to climb over you. In the past, private investigators were hired to dig for dirt in your past but now, that is just a matter of pulling your online records. Every time you post a photo on Facebook or send out a tweet on Twitter, it is right there for the whole world to see. You can’t claim to be a moral, upstanding person, if the average person, can pull up a dozen obscene photos of you in various states , typically holding a cup, mug, or bottle in one hand, and making a rude gesture with the other.

.Preventing Future Mistakes From Being Made

Next up, the management team will handle anything you might possibly post or tweet. When celebrities prove that they are unable to tweet on their own, they turn over the account to their management team to prevent any further damage. That is also commonly done by less famous people as well. Which prevents them from making more online errors, that could cost them the job they want, enter into the school they want, or the ability to be elected into public office. It is a service that could be valuable beyond its price. The job of an online management team would be, find, identify, and then deal with anything that is already in existence online.

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Posted by Jenna Smith on October 26th, 2012 in Career, Technology | No comments

18 oct

Setting and Achieving Goals: 5 Big Ways a Calendar Can Help

RobertCordrayCalendars. We all use them—to mark the change of seasons, to keep track of important events, and in the case of the ancient Mayan people, to predict the end of the world. A more upbeat benefit of calendars is that, if used correctly, they can be very effective tools in helping us turn our dreams into realities. So if you plan on being around after Dec. 21, 2012, and you’ve got some lofty aspirations, here’s a look at 5 ways a calendar can help you to set and achieve your goals.

1. Calendars turn wishes into goals

There is great power in putting our hopes and aspirations down in written form. As a wise person once said, “A goal not written is only a wish.” Writing goals on wall calendars take them a step further than writing them down in journals or on slips of paper to post in prominent places. Calendaring your goals right along with other events that will surely come to pass puts them in the realm of what is real and possible in your life.

2. Calendars give goals timeframes

“A goal is a dream with a deadline,” said Napolean Hill. And as noble as your intentions may be, unless you assign your goals a reasonable deadline by which to achieve them, they are doomed to remain in the dream stage forever. Goals with timeframes become impending events, providing the all-important motivation needed to act upon them and make them happen.

3. Calendars help you plan for success

Goals that help you to change and improve your life are big by design. But the task of achieving a major goal in a specified period of time can seem daunting, making it difficult to know where to even start, let alone devise a plan. Calendaring your goal allows you to visualize and strategize a path to success—a path paved with smaller, more manageable goals, each with its own doable timeframe. As each smaller goal is achieved those mini-successes will help to spur you on with greater drive and determination, until the larger goal is accomplished.

4. Calendars help to track progress

With large goals divided into smaller ones, your calendar becomes a great tool to help you visually track and measure both your successes and shortcomings. Being that all roads to a worthwhile goal will have their share of roadblocks, having your goal planned out step by step on the calendar will help you to see and hopefully avoid any pitfalls that may lie ahead. And when setbacks occur, and they often do, being able to track the progress you have made will help you to strategize a new plan for success.

5. Calendars go with you everywhere

Not long ago a calendar was something that hung on your wall, along with your goals, to be viewed and reviewed once or twice a day. With today’s advances in technology—namely smartphones, laptops and tablet computers—calendars are with you everywhere we go. Now, with a mouse click or the touch of a screen, your goals and game plans for achieving them can be called up, evaluated and orchestrated virtually anywhere and at any time. You can also receive alerts to instantly remind you of the goals you’ve set, and spur you on to success. And since success calls for celebration, you’ll want to schedule an appropriate time to do just that—on your calendar.

About the Author

Robert Cordray is a former entrepreneur and business consultant with over 20 years of experience. He is a freelance writer for multiple organizations. He is currently exploring the coaching realm, and trying to help people through his experiences. If he’s not sipping an ice cold margarita on the beach, he’s most likely living life with his wife and three kids.You can also find him on twitter.

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Posted by Robert Cordray on October 18th, 2012 in General, New Directions | No comments

15 oct

Harvest Time

ZulmaCarbajal Autumn is the time of clearing the old that no longer works in order to plant new seeds for the life that you desire. If you have been wanting to improve your life this is the season in which many things from the past are going to be brought to the surface for you to look at in order for you to see what is keeping you stuck in your old life that no longer serves you.

When a negative situation comes up, try not to get upset. Know that what is happenning in your life is resurfacing in order to give you the option to choose healing and growth to prepare the way for what you now want in your life. It is possible that you may not even know what you want on a conscious level because you are so caught up in the drama of life. However, your soul knows and will share that knowledge with you if you are willing to listen.

Often we don’t want to listen. We are so focused on blaming others for our circumstances instead reminding ourselves that there are no accidents and everything happens for a reason. Our ego wants us to hold on to old pain and beliefs because once you start listening to your soul you will gain mastery over your ego.

This is also a time when the energy of transformation is the most powerful. If you begin to plant the seeds now, by Spring they will grow and bloom. This means that you would need to take aware action right away.

You do not nessarily have to take physical action. What you may need to do in order to create the most positive outcome could be changing old beliefs or thoughts. Or it could mean getting rid of negative reactions.

Sometimes what is required of you is to let go of a dysfunctional relationship or heal the one you are in. Perhaps you need to seek out like minded friends to support you with your new endeavors. It may be time for you to get out of your comfort zone and instead of listening to what others want you begin to listen to your heart.

It is possible that events have presented an opportunity for you to heal and let go of childhood wounds even if they are deep. Or you will need to unlearn the false information that your primary caretakers, society, peers and family have programmed into to you.

You might have to stop the busy work and workaholism so that you can focus on what really matters (to you) and for once begin taking at least small steps towards your dreams. Probably you will have to learn to take better care of yourself in order to have the energy to accomplish your goals.

We are all unique individuals with different experiences so what I will need to do is different than what you may need. However, if you listen to your soul, it will tell your precisely what is required to let go of or to do in order to leave space for the circumstances and people that you want to fill your life with.

If you would like more information please contact me at carbajalzulma@gmail.com or you can view my blog for related articles quantumlifechanges.blogspot.com.

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Posted by Zulma Carbajal on October 15th, 2012 in Health, New Directions, Uncategorized | No comments

13 oct

Parenting Kids Through Times of Change

happier_confidenceWe live in transitional times. Each of us is affected by change, whether it be a job change, a relationship change, a financial change or even a health-related change.

Kids feel these changes, too. They witness them closely. For example, often they are involved in the case of a divorce, a death or a move.

I’ve found a few insights that can really make a difference when parenting children during these types of life events. Plus, my personal belief is that teaching them about change is one of the most fundamental life skills to impart to them to be prepared for the years when they’re growing up.

Parents need to get comfortable with change, then your children will be comfortable, too. Kids are a lot less fragile through change than their parents are. Kids often simply reflect how you are feeling, so if they are acting out, it’s because you may have some emotions that aren’t being expressed. If they are anxious, it’s because you are, too, at some level. Think about it, at any moment, you are either being a warning or an example for your kids, how you eat, how you communicate, how you behave, everything you do. They see and feel everything. So regarding the change you’re going through, are you coming from a place of trust and faith or one of fear? Are you coming from your heart and a loving space or from your head and responsibilities? Be an example for how to navigate change. Be positive, accept the change once it’s happened and stop comparing things to what was. Believe in something greater going on, ask for help so your kids see that there are always people ready to help and they/you are never alone. Take some action. Take care of yourself during times of change so your kids see that just because something has changed doesn’t mean your whole life and especially your health will be affected.

The most important thing your kids want is for you to be happy! This is what your kids are yearning for. They aren’t yearning for their old school after a while, or how things were. They want to be in a home that is filled with laughter and love. Get out of the serious box. Yes, a change may be serious, but it’s not so serious that you want to teach your kids that all change is hard, tough, and worth getting concerned about. So yes, if getting happy and doing what you want involves going away for the weekend, going to the gym, taking a new class, going back to work, do it. Your kids will unconsciously and consciously relax when they know you are OK and doing things you love and enjoy. They’d rather you were happy than at home all the time. They’d rather you be happy alone than unhappily married.

Parents need to wake up and place their trust in their children’s inner-guidance system. So many parents tend to over-parent their kids, do everything for them, show them, help them. This is underestimating their innate ability that the same life force that is flowing through you is flowing through them. Wake up their intuition, their instincts. Believe they can figure things out. Ask them how something feels. It’s easier for you as parents to worry about your kids, when the truth is that you yourself are the one that’s worried. Kids aren’t that worried at their core since they are in the present moment, while we adults feel fear and nervousness when thinking about the past and future effect of a change. Teach your kids that they have access to answers on the inside of them at all times–even more answers than Mom or Dad can provide. Their bodies are always sending them signals about what’s the right thing to do.

Teach them that they have a “change muscle.” Kids love knowing this. That there is a specific muscle to be able to handle changes, that they can flex it, use it and it gets stronger with every change they experience–that the body is made for change and that the best of who they are is going to come out during times of change, that life is always giving them an opportunity to grow, to learn something, to acquire a new set of emotions, such as courage, faith or patience when change comes their way.
Teach them “The Change Guarantee.” Write down the following phrase for them, somewhere visible. “From this situation, something good will come.” Start showing them that good things come from change. Go through previous changes that have happened and the good that eventually came. Teach them that life is on their side, that it’s always coming up with new ways to bring something into their lives.

Allow kids to be human and express their emotions. Teach them that its perfectly OK to be sad, to cry, to be angry, to be anything they are feeling. Make their feelings seem right, not wrong. Don’t impose any deadlines on when they should stop feeling something. The same goes for you. It’s good for your kids to see you have feelings. Do not only be in supermom or superdad mode. When they see you are human, sad, scared for a little while, then they feel much safer being the same. Do not try to change what they are feeling. If they are feeling something, reward it.

For more information on the 9 Principles of Change, be sure to pick up a copy of my book, The First 30 Days: Your Guide to Making Any Change Easier. The change principles equally apply for children of any age.

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Posted by Ariane de Bonvoisin on October 13th, 2012 in Ariane, First30Days Book, General, New Directions, Spirituality, Things We Love | No comments

12 oct

Staff Certifications that Get Results

JennaSmithAttracting and retaining top talent is a challenge for any organization. Companies spend huge chunks of their budget on retention programs that keep the best employees satisfied and loyal to the company. The first step in enjoying a stable staff is to place employees in positions where they will be most effective. In a standard interview, candidates often say what they think the interviewer wants to hear. By administering aptitude tests, you can be sure that your staff are matched with the positions that best fit their skills.

For current employees, periodic certifications give them the knowledge they need to excel in their jobs. When they feel confident in their abilities, they will be more likely to stay with the company and put forth their best effort. Maximize the return on your human capital by offering certifications that will help your staff stay motivated to add to the company’s bottom line.

Aptitude tests are great tools to use in your recruitment efforts. Use these tests to assess your candidate’s knowledge of software applications, office procedures and soft skills. By using these tests you can be assured that you are effectively matching your candidates with the jobs that best match their skills. Mismatched skills and positions are some of the major reasons for employee turnover. Prevent this turnover by placing your staff where they are most useful.

In-house certifications are an excellent tool for enjoying a more educated staff. Certifications like these promote teamwork and cooperation while teaching your staff principles of reducing waste and cutting costs. Your staff will enjoy earning their black, white and green belts, and you will enjoy a more motivated staff. These certifications will also make your staff look more credible to your outside clients and vendors, earning even more money and profits for your business. Cut back on turnover expenses by investing in your current employees and giving them more reasons to stay with the company.

While many employers offer these courses in-house, others save money by outsourcing company training to other companies. Organizations such as The College Network pair learners with courses, degree programs and certifications that will help them succeed in the workforce. Partner with a company that will deliver coursework to your staff that complements your training program. Certifications such as Lean Six Sigma can be completed in a few short sessions, making it easy for your staff to start using their new skills right away.

Overcome job dissatisfaction by using HR testing tools that work. By creating and delivering customized aptitude tests, certifications and continuing education courses, you will be able to give your staff the tools they need to excel at their jobs. Studies have shown that employees perform best when they are given intangible rewards such as a different title, award or accolade on the job. By creating a work environment where your staff are rewarded for their efforts and given opportunities for advancement, you will enjoy better overall satisfaction and lower turnover rates. Start your training program today.

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Posted by Jenna Smith on October 12th, 2012 in Career | No comments

09 oct

High-Interest, High Reward

JennaSmithOften in life you’ll find yourself with more money than you know what to do with. That isn’t to say you’re wealthy or have an overwhelming large surplus, simply that we all often have more money in our savings account we don’t really need to be there.

After bills, rent, groceries and so forth your bank account will often be well above zero when your next paycheck comes in. Which is great of course, we all need a healthy buffer of money. But it’s not really doing any work just sitting there.

Having multiple bank accounts is nothing new, but often people don’t think about the potential involved with different types of accounts. Though having identical accounts to separate rent from groceries and so forth is a good step towards good financial management, it is just a step. Your real goal should be opening up a savings account with a high-interest rate to deposit any money that you don’t need right this very second.

It’s simply wasteful to have your entire savings in your main account that gets billed rather than have interest due to the nature of how you use it. Don’t be afraid to have your account with a totally different bank either, so long as the fees cost less than the extra interest you would make. Profit is the main goal with any high-interest account after all, however you choose to spend it down the line.

Walter Wisniewski of Paragon Capital has been known to compare commerce with music. Numerous notes and breaks come together to form a glorious piece of music. If we were to follow this example a little further, having a high-interest paying account is a little bit like having an exotic instrument in your orchestra, or writing a solo for a certain instrument or player.

Certainly, you can’t use it all the time, and you shouldn’t. With high-interest paying accounts many banks reward you the less you use it, and so using it constantly is counter productive. But when the time is right it can raise a performance to new heights, and make it truly memorable.

The grand finale so to speak is that you shouldn’t put all your money in one place when you don’t need it all to be. High-interest savings account are a completely risk free investment that are guaranteed to pay off, and we should all be using them.

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Posted by Jenna Smith on October 9th, 2012 in Finances | No comments

09 oct

Pushing Through the Obstacles: Three Tips in a Tough Job Market

RobertCordrayThe economy is rough. Job prospects might seem few and far between. Being unemployed or feeling forced to take a job that you are ill suited for can be devastating so it can be easy in those times of transition to feel like things couldn’t get any worse. That is exactly the mentality you will need to change.

It is important not to minimize the difficulty of unemployment (or other unfavorable work circumstances). You need income to cover expenses and in this day and age everyone has expenses. The situation can be especially difficult if you have people dependent on you financially. It is a serious situation. That being said, however, it is also crucial that you maintain a healthy perspective that considers possibilities rationally and with a healthy optimism. It may not feel like it right now but you do have options and there are opportunities. Here are a few things to keep in mind that will help you make it through this rough time

Count Your Blessings

Don’t overlook this advice just because it has become something of a cliché. There is actually a lot of science to back it up. Several studies show that putting a focus on the good things in your life can dramatically improve your ability to cope with difficulty. So if you’re in a position in which it seems like you’ve hit rock bottom, take some time to realize that you do have blessings in your life and be grateful for them.

Lean on Your Support

The support of family and friends is an essential factor in helping you get through your challenging time. If those close to you are being overly critical you should let them know that you are working to overcome the situation and their support will help more than their criticism. And when they are being supportive, don’t take it for granted. In addition to your immediate support group you may also consider seeking the help of professionals with experience in finding jobs or adapting to new ones. Life coaches and career coaches can be extremely helpful if you find the right fit for you. If you haven’t considered this option it is probably worth the time to at least see what coaching options are out there for you.

Persistence

In speaking of obstacles, the poet Robert Frost once observed, “The best way out is always through.” If your situation is truly difficult then chances are good that it will not change all at once. You need to move forward, doing the best that you can every day. And the truth is that on most days it will seem like you are not making any progress. You will find, however, that day after day with seemingly no progression is somehow exactly what it takes to put you in position to take advantage of the days when change does come. It has been observed that you are either getting better or you are getting worse, there is not a third direction. Even if the effects of your everyday determination cannot always be seen, you can trust in the fact that persistence is a necessary ingredient in any sort of success.

About the Author
Robert Cordray is a former entrepreneur and business consultant with over 20 years of experience. He is a freelance writer for multiple organizations. He is currently exploring the coaching realm, and trying to help people through his experiences. If he’s not sipping an ice cold margarita on the beach, he’s most likely living life with his wife and three kids.You can also find him on twitter.

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Posted by Robert Cordray on October 9th, 2012 in Career, New Directions | No comments

07 oct

Emotional Health

ZulmaCarbajal When I first took a real look at my life a few years ago, I was filled with regret, remorse, and sadness. For one, it finally hit me how many years I wasted making the same mistakes, being in the same situations, dating the same kind of people, being friends with people who were so unlike me, and so on.

While I finally came to the realization that I no longer wanted to live that way, I had no idea how to proceed with changing my life. I was so overwhelmed by everything I needed to work on. Every area in my life was a disaster; my emotional health, financial situation, dysfunctional relationships, physical health, and even problems with my son. You name the problem I had it.

As a single mom, with all of the other obligations I had as well, I felt I did not have enough time for working on all of the areas that required my attention. However, I told myself that if I did not start changing my life it would only get worse and I would be forced to change my patterns. Already I was diagnosed with high blood pressure at the age of thirty and put on medication.

What transformed my life was taking baby steps. First on my list was healing my emotions; the deep sadness that would never leave me, severe anxiety and suppressed rage. I recognized that I was avoiding them by being a workaholic and an excessive exerciser. Later on I used food to numb my emotions, which only made my health problems worse. The healing did not come all at once, but by taking small steps, little by little, things started shifting for me.

I recommend that if there is something in your life that you wish to change, and you are serious and committed to it, start off by taking baby steps. A lot of times when we look at the people who seem to have it all together, we tend to believe that they magically became who they are overnight. But we do not know the daily things they did in order to get to where they are now.

Another thing I learned during the change process is that if your emotions are not balanced, it is very difficult to change your outer circumstances. I will give you an example from my own life. My relationship with my son was a mess. I was trying to fix it because I knew that once he entered his teens, it would be more difficult. But I was not emotionally healthy so I did not have the energy to repair things between us. In fact, my emotional issues were making me impatient and mean. Not until I finally took the time to center myself and learned to release my negative emotions was I able to focus on improving my relationship with him.

Prior to this, I felt I had no time to be dealing with emotions because I had way too many things going on at the same time that required my attention. However, things weren’t getting resolved in other areas challenging me because of my emotional imbalance. So actually I couldn’t afford not to make time for my emotions.

In our society we are taught to ignore our feelings or that emotions are only for silly women. But the truth is, that one of the major reasons that there are addictions is because people try hard to suppress emotions. Some of the emotions people carry since their childhood.

If you would like some assistance releasing emotions please contact me via email, carbajalzulma@gmail.com, or you can also see related articles in my personal blog quantumlifechanges.blogspot.com

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Posted by Zulma Carbajal on October 7th, 2012 in Health, New Directions, Relationships | No comments

05 oct

Easy Lunch Ideas for Those On-the-Go

JennaSmithMany people would like to eat healthy meals everyday but find that they end up eating incorrectly for a variety of reasons. From lack of time to lack of motivation or even lack of ideas, preparing and eating healthy meals becomes a difficult challenge. One way to overcome this challenge is by compiling a list of easy lunch ideas and recipes that can returned to over and over again. Choosing new, healthy eating habits is a major change in lifestyle and a list like this can truly support this change.

Salads are easy to make and incredibly healthy. They also allow for great variety, depending on the ingredients used to put the salad together, and because so many food items can be added to salads, they are very versatile, ensuring lunch will not get boring even if salads are eaten every day. Ingredients to use in salads are not limited to vegetables. They include pasta, all types of fruits, beans, popcorn and lean protein such as chicken breast, turkey and grilled salmon. A light vinaigrette of olive oil, salt and vinegar is a nice complement to any salad and will not be heavy and fattening like the cream dressings.

Sandwiches can be healthy too. Forget peanut butter and jelly or the regular mayonnaise, ham and cheese sandwich. The healthier alternatives are much tastier and much richer in vitamins. Use French bread, wraps or Panini bread. A buffalo chicken wrap with tomato and lettuce is a great, healthy, easy-to-make sandwich. Grill some eggplant, red bell pepper, onion and tomatoes and add some Swiss cheese to Panini bread. Another sandwich alternative is grilled salmon and avocado on a whole-wheat roll.

Chili, soups and rice and beans can be prepared during the weekend and saved to use as lunch during the week. These meals are easy to make and store well. Additionally, they are packed with good stuff. All these meals freeze well, so they can be frozen in individual portions that can be grabbed from the fridge to take to work and reheat. Some of these can also be used at the base for additional meals just by adding a few more ingredients, such as shredded cheese, celery sticks, carrots or pepper strips.

Eating healthy is easy to do by planning ahead and by learning some time-saving tricks. Once the habit of eating healthy takes hold, the go-to list will continue to grow, and planning and preparing these meals will become second nature.

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Posted by Jenna Smith on October 5th, 2012 in Diet and Fitness, Health | No comments

02 oct

How to Make the First 30 Days with that Special Someone the Best Ever

JennaSmithThe first 30 days in a romantic relationship are important in setting the tone for the duration of the connection as well as establishing whether the relationship is actually going to even exist. Some people never get past those significant first 30 days because they try to rush things, and that can be the surest way to make certain that a relationship doesn’t develop. Nobody likes to feel as if they are being pressured into an involvement before they are ready, and on some level, everyone knows this.

However, some people just can’t seem to stop themselves from trying to create a relationship quickly even when they know they are likely to drive the other person away. Learning how to relax and let things happen naturally is a key element of developing a successful long-term romantic partnership.

The first 30 days are a time when the couple is getting to know one another by exploring various activities. Dining out is one of the most popular dating activities for fledgling couples, but too many romantic dinners in a row can begin to feel like pressure. It’s better to find fun things to do and vary activities by surprising a date with a picnic in a meadow, Bon Iver tickets or a nature excursion such as rafting in your local area rather than just making reservations at another restaurant for another candlelit dinner.

Participating in activities during dates will help those who tend to try to rush things to slow down and enjoy the process of getting to know another person. By being engaged in something such as listening to music, sailing or attending an art show, the couple will not be concentrating solely on one another.

Everyone has seen those couples in restaurants who clearly do not know each other well that appear to be uncomfortable. That is because they are each struggling to figure out topics of conversation. If they had attended a concert, gone on a bicycle riding event or other activity before the dinner, the couple would have plenty to discuss.

When two people first begin dating, it’s a good idea for them to cultivate a sense of anticipation by not seeing too much of one another. Although it might be tempting to see each other as often as possible, particularly if a strong physical attraction exists, doing so will probably ensure that the connection will quickly fizzle. One party usually feels pressured in these situations. Keeping the first few dates activity-based will ensure that the neither person feels that they’ve got to struggle to hold up their end of the conversation or flounder through dates feeling awkward and uncertain.

Couples that make it past the 30-day mark at the start of their relationships often begin to settle into a routine at that time. They’re more comfortable in each other’s presence and have gaiined a good sense of who the other person is. It’s still important during this time to not overwhelm the other person with demands on their time.

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Posted by Jenna Smith on October 2nd, 2012 in Uncategorized | No comments