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25 jan

Coming Out of Survival: A Conversation with God

WaniManley13. A Conversation With God

Since walking this path of Enlightenment, Self-Discovery, Personal Development or whatever you want to call it, what fascinates me the most is the very thing that pisses me off the most; that is, having to unlearn everything you’ve ever been taught or believed about life and God, bust through all of your collective conditioning (from this lifetime and past) and to develop new set of beliefs, all while in war with your closest friend the Ego. What’s more, this thing or person we call God, which we fight, kill and discriminate against each other, is really just energy emanating from a sound, of which its pure essence is just Love. Moreover, contrary to popular belief, the only point of a human life is to realize this and to return back to the Source. Until you realize this you keep coming back again and again going through the endless cycle of birth and rebirth. Fascinating. And to think the journey here all began with me wanting just to get rid of chest pains.

As the plot thickens along this path, I am just in awe as with each passing day, more and more truth is revealed. What keeps me shaking my head in disbelief is how religion has shaped and continues to shape our civilization in such error and horror; yet is the worst legalized Ponzi scheme ever orchestrated and perpetuated on humanity. If you think I’ve completely lost it, or am on something, I have three words for you: the Catholic Church. Not to get off script, but since taking this journey, the new core beliefs taking center stage in my life and in the lives of many others that are choosing to wake up, include but are not limited to beliefs at the core of creation including are that you are the Creator, that there is no force bigger than you or outside of you and you are creating all of all your experiences through your thoughts and beliefs have been the biggest pill for me to swallow. Why? We’re talking radical transcendence of the essence of one’s foundation and inner core and beliefs. Like most people, I was taught the God was this larger than life entity that no one ever saw, except through his white-robed long-haired representative Jesus, living high up in the sky somewhere that creates the haves and the have-nots according to whether you are a good or bad.

Over the holidays, I went to Texas to visit my mother and experienced firsthand the meaning of the phrase “if you think you are Enlightened, go home and visit your family”. Truer words were never spoken. This trip also marked the first time of me returning back to church services ever since I started walking the path of Enlightenment. I spent seven days in Texas in which I was in church five out of those seven with my mother and aunt. I was uncomfortable beyond words. Night after night, I sat and listened to all of the rhetoric, the dogma juxtapose to the truth I had come across in the past year silently shaking my head. As my mother’s church is a Nigerian -Liberian church, the sermons spoken by a fiery and gifted female pastor, all hit home on issues affecting our West African community. That is, issues including but not limited to tribal differences, lack, poverty, stagnation, immigration, schooling, economic hardship, and of course, playing medicine or witchcraft. Night after night as I listened to Pastor Esther, a fiery woman of God reminiscent of my Grandmother preach with prophetic words and heal people, I felt an inner rage come alive inside me at this thing or person called God. I also realized that any anger I felt with my mother had been misplaced and whom I was really angry at was God. Each night, I got progressively angrier and angrier until I would eventually one night blow a fuse.

One particular night, as I was sitting in the back of the church, the blueprint of my life’s purpose revealed itself more so than that it had before. I further realized that this journey I now take was not just for me to transcend but instead for the culture I was born into. I realized that my life was marked as a humanitarian in it of the sort to contribute to an awakened civilization with particularly emphasis on the people of Africa. In this moment, I realized the message and significance of one of the first visions I had had when I first started meditating, a vision of me leading and speaking to a stadium-sized number of fellow Africans. I sat in brief astonishment and tuned out the electric preaching by the Pastor only to tune back in moments later when I heard her talking about lack, the consciousness of survival and suffering, topics that seemed to generationally plague our people.

I got angry inside again and thought why and how is it that people of color, and in general, those are the most believers of God and the most religious, are the poorest, the sickest, the most stagnate, and most impoverished and are so generation after generation? I thought hard about the continent of Africa, Black Americans, and impoverished underdeveloped nations all over. I thought about Haiti and at this point, I was fuming inside. I thought how much more can that nation alone sustain and take. I was royally pissed off, and anted answers from God as to insurmountable suffering endured in the world by all people, his people. Energetically, I felt enormously heavy and dense, as if to say I was suddenly carrying the weight of the entire region of Africa, including the weight of my ancestors whom had passed before me and paved the way. In essence, I felt the heavy karma of oppression, slavery and entrapment. I felt the pains of shackles of mental slavery, of which I wanted emancipation.

That night as my mother and I made the long drive home after service, we were listening to a gospel hymn in our tribal dialect about Jesus Christ and all the anger built up inside of me finally spewed out and I started to sob uncontrollably. The tears poured like a tidal wave without any control other than to release something inside me. I literally could not stop crying. I had never cried in such heaviness before and couldn’t explain it. When I finally stopped, it was as if my inner spirit and heart had been cleansed. Something inside me was happening energetically, a re-wiring and cleansing of some sort. I fell asleep in this state and woke up in mass confusion. I was confused over whether the path of religion was the way or the path of truth. My conditioning was taking over and I began to embrace my Christian beliefs, but I was still angry at God. For about a day or so, I refused to pray, bless my food, meditate, set intentions or do anything that connects me to God. I remained defiant and for about a day or so and then I decided it was time to have a conversation with God.

I prayed to God expressing my anger and rage. I had a whole list of laundry items I was fuming about, wanted answers and solutions. I told him that I felt he had not kept up with his end of the bargain as to my life and the lives of so many others and how that was whole game called creation was just not funny in the least bit. I expressed that for lifetimes, we’re taught one thing and circumstances shows up in one’s life leading them to the truth about God and God says to you, “Now you know this is one big game, let’s really play. Whatever is happening out there for you, you are creating it, all of it, including the wars, the diseases, the hunger, and the lack, all of it. It all starts and ends with you. You are the Alpha and the Omega. Oh, and by the way, you have to unlearn everything you’ve ever learned….in every lifetime while battling the noose in your head call the Ego.” I also expressed anger to God of how even since walking this path, my life in this new space of the unknown seemingly as taken a nose-dive in the last several months; yet, I’m suppose to be convincing others to walk this journey along with me.

To say the least, I felt as if the Earth had moved from underneath me. Eventually, I would speak to my Life Mastery Coach and Trainer also walking this journey whose committed to an awakened and enlightened civilization. My Coach, a medical doctor and humanitarian herself in her own right who for years served alongside Mother Theresa would eventually help me sort some out of my misaligned beliefs about God, religion, and the path. As the days passed, all the emotional energy would pass through and I eventually I told my mother, I had had enough church; and was going back to my own version of church in stillness and meditation. Remembering the awareness of my life’s purpose as it had clearly been laid out before me, I began to write about my experience, re-write my life’s mission and coming to peace with God, in turn myself. I still struggle to come into complete acceptance of the truth of what God is and find myself repeatedly setting the intention several times a day that I am the Creator and I am creating all of my experiences. With this intention, I put my attention on becoming aligned with this belief because you will never be able to take command of your life and create a beautiful life so long as you have misaligned beliefs within you. With this said, I sojourn on to gain mastery over my life and command my consciousness to deliberately create the life I prefer and to let go and stop creating the things that I do not prefer in my life.

Wani Iris Manly

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25 jan

The Importance of Flexibility

MikeRobbinsNewHow flexible are you? For me, it depends – on my mood, how much fear or resistance I have about something, how attached I am to a particular outcome, and various other factors.

However, as I look throughout my life (now and in the past), I realize that the situations, relationships, and experiences that cause me the greatest stress and frustration, are almost always the ones where I’m not being flexible. And, on the flip side, the more flexible I am – the more peace, ease, and fulfillment become available.

Today, more than ever, we are challenged to be flexible – in our work, our relationships, and in every other important aspect of our lives. However, due to our own fear, arrogance, resistance, stress, and obsession with being right, we often end up being inflexible to our own detriment and to the frustration of those around us (or so I’ve been told).

Being flexible is not about being weak or passive. Flexibility is a conscious choice, a powerful skill, and a valuable approach to the ever-changing, always-evolving world we live in. We can be firm in our convictions, passionate about our beliefs, and clear about our intentions, and at the same time be flexible enough to make significant changes and be open to new ideas along the way.

Here are some key elements to expanding your own capacity for flexibility in your life -which will lead you to greater peace, joy, and fulfillment:

1) Let Go of Your Attachment – Whenever we get attached to something – a specific outcome, a particular way of doing things, a rigid opinion, etc. – we are, by definition, inflexible. Letting go of our attachment to something doesn’t mean we negate our desire or intention, it simply means we let go of controlling every aspect of it, forcing the action, and our fixation on it being exactly the way we think it should be. This is a process of conscious “non-attachment” (letting go), as opposed to detachment (not caring).

2) Be Willing to Be Wrong – Most of us love to be right and will do and say just about anything to avoid being wrong. Our obsession with “rightness” and fear of “wrongness” often gets in the way of going for what we want, saying what’s on our mind, and letting go of our fixed ideas about how things are supposed to be. When we’re willing to be wrong (not necessarily interested in or intending to be wrong), we free ourselves up and give ourselves permission to take risks, try new things, and approach things (even really important things) with a creative, innovative, and flexible perspective.

3) Don’t Take Yourself Too Seriously – Taking ourselves too seriously (something which I know a thing or two about), creates unnecessary stress, pressure, and worry. When we’re able to laugh at ourselves (in a kind way), keep things in perspective, and remember that most of what we deal with on a daily basis in life is not life or death – we can take ourselves less seriously and thus have a more balanced, peaceful, and creative way of relating to things.

4) Go with the Flow – If we pay attention to life, there is a natural flow that exists (although it may not always look like it or feel like it). The more we’re able to tap into the natural flow of life, trust ourselves and others, and believe that things will work out – the more likely we are to allow things to roll off our backs and manifest with ease. As Esther Hicks says, “Most people are rowing against the current of life. Instead of turning the boat around, all they need to do it let go of the oars.”

5) Get Support and Feedback From Others – The support and feedback of others is invaluable in so many aspects of our life and growth, especially as it relates to us being more flexible. We can learn from and model others who are more flexible than we are. We can also give people in our life permission to remind us (with kindness) when we get rigid, uptight, over-attached, and start taking ourselves too seriously.

Being flexible is something that’s often easier said than done for many of us. However, just as with our physical bodies, the more attention we place on expanding our flexibility the more likely we are to do it. As we enhance our ability to be flexible, our life can and will expand exponentially.

Mike Robbins is a sought-after motivational keynote speaker, coach, and the bestselling author of Focus on the Good Stuff (Wiley) and Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken (Wiley). More info – www.Mike-Robbins.com

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17 jan

The Challenge of Intimate Bonding

MotiRonitResearch shows that more than 80% of life’s satisfactions that contribute to one’s happiness derive from a meaningful and intimately close relationship with loved ones. Still, a question remains. If one’s most important aspirations in life are to bond, love and be loved, why are so many of us not attempting to make our relationships all they can be? What is holding most of humanity from fulfilling what seems to be the single most important purpose of our being? Ironically, in reality many people in intimate relationships experience the opposite pulling forces of a wish and fear of a relationship. It causes them to delay experiencing true intimacy with their present mates, by either giving up or passively awaiting a miracle that would rejuvenate their stale or combative relationship. Too many people live a lonely and loveless existence. Many dream of finding their destined soul mate, but in reality their love is delayed or fails to show up.

We rationalize and tell ourselves that as soon as we finish the pressing tasks that consume us, we will devote more time to our intimate relationships whether with our mate, our parents, our children or other significant others. We tell our mate that we will be more passionate and romantic when things slow down. We promise ourselves that at some point in the future, as soon as we find more time, we will listen from the heart, be more mindful and accepting, compassionate and intimate with our relationships. We convince ourselves that our true love will emerge if we wait for it long enough or if we don’t rock the shaky boat of our present relationship. We tell ourselves that soon we will find an opportunity to express love to our partner, our parents or our children but we never do it or it rarely happens.

We postpone intimate closeness, when deep within we know that there will never be a better time to take a leap and risk being vulnerable enough to make that long awaited positive change. We experience an uphill challenge just thinking of the shift we could make in our dysfunctional ways of relating, and become more truthful to ourselves and loving from a heartfelt place. We are reluctant to reach out to the most precious, most delicate and most painfully deprived area in our being that of intimate love. Though we wish and crave love, we paradoxically hesitate to take the step to embrace love because fear of rejection, humiliation and hurt continue to dominate our emotions even if we know that tomorrow may never come.

When we postpone intimate love, days slip into weeks, weeks slip into months and months slip into years. Before we know it, we realize that we spend many precious years of our life avoiding the chance to claim the dearest of our birth right gifts-love! The love bond we give birth to in our dreams transcends us to a higher ground as beings, connecting us to our highest potential. But we tend to fear love’s magnitude since in the process of intimate bonding, our mate becomes our mirror. The joy of our deepening intimate love relationship brings us face to face with our human shadows and imperfections. Thus, even though we wish to fulfill love’s magical promise and re-ignite our present intimate relationship, we remain stagnated, fearing love.

The practice of “Ego to Heart” (ETH), a couple’s weekend workshop that we conduct globally, is literally a simple heartfelt communication practice. It centers on helping couples and the individual partners in the relationship transform their bond through authentic listening, making a shift from ego centered “me,” to a heartfelt “we.” According to Zimmerman & McCandless, when partners risk going beyond self-involvement and are able to authentically see, hear and feel each other and the relationship with heightened intuitive awareness, they enter a state of “Third Presence” (the voice of the relationship). It is an entity, a pure witness that allows a more soulful, spontaneous communication between the two. It helps partners become increasingly aware of their infinite capacity to love beyond ordinary secular connectedness. Thus, intimate bonding increasingly deepens as it opens the couple to the mystery of wholeness and the divine. It is then, in a safer and increasingly supportive intimate bond, that partners can break away from past dysfunctional patterns and overcome their fears. It is through this experience that they have the opportunity to transform their shadows into lights that shade a healthier, more in the moment way of being.

Dr. Moti Peleg

For more information on Dr. Moti and Ronit Peleg, Ego to Heart workshops, their Oprah Show appearance and their upcoming book, Destined Encounter, go to www.ego2heart.org.

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13 jan

New Year, Be You

MikeRobbinsNewWith the New Year still in its first few weeks, the annual “new year, new you” phenomenon is all around us – in the worlds of advertising, media, self-help and more. And while this time of year can be a great catalyst for positive change in our lives, what if we made a commitment to live our lives in 2011 focused on who we are, and not so much on what we do, what we accomplish, what we look like, what we’re striving for, and more? One of best things we can do in this New Year is to focus on who we really are, instead of who we think we’re supposed to be.

Who would we be without our accomplishments (or failures), our degrees (or lack thereof), our bank accounts, our experiences, our title, our home, our status, and more? As simple of a concept as this is for us to think about and discuss, at least on the surface, it’s actually quite difficult for many of us, myself included, to genuinely separate who we are from what we do (or have done or not done). These past two years have taught many of us, in some cases quite painfully, how quickly the external circumstances of our lives can change dramatically and things can be taken away.

The deeper question for us to ponder here is really one of the big philosophical questions of life, “What makes me a valuable person?” While this is something we have all thought about to some degree, most of us don’t really engage in this inquiry on a regular basis. And, when we do, we often think that if we just got more done, lost some weight, made more money, took a vacation, accomplished a goal, had more meaningful work, made it to retirement, or whatever, then we’d be “happier” or feel more “valuable.” Sadly, as we’ve all experienced, this is not usually the case and is also one of the main reasons why most of our New Year’s “resolutions” don’t really last.

What if, in addition to having important goals, we could also expand our capacity for appreciating ourselves and being who we really are this year – having nothing to do with our external circumstances? What if just being ourselves, the way we are right now, is good enough?

Being ourselves fully, takes courage, commitment, and faith. It’s a process of letting go of many false beliefs we’ve picked up from the collective consciousness – that we have to look good, be smart, know the right people, say the right things, have the proper experience, make a certain amount of money, and more, in order to be happy and successful in life. Being ourselves can be scary and counter intuitive, difficult and even off-putting, and, at times, lonely.

However, being our authentic self is liberating, exciting, and fulfilling. When we have the courage to just be who we are, without apology or pretence, so much of our suffering, stress, and worry in life simply goes away.

Here are a few things to consider and practice as you deepen your awareness of and capacity for being who you truly are in this New Year:

1) Tell the truth to yourself. Think about and own how much of your self-worth is based on what you do, how you look, who you know, what you’ve accomplished, etc. (i.e. the external stuff). The more we let go of being defined by the external, the more freedom, peace, and power we can experience. And, as we really get honest with ourselves, we may realize that outside of these external things, we don’t really know who we are. As scary as this may seem on the surface, it’s actually great news and can give us access to a deeper and more meaningful experience of who we are.

2) Appreciate who you really are. What do you appreciate about yourself that has nothing to do with anything external? In other words, what personal qualities (of being, not doing) do you value about yourself? The more we’re able to tap into what we appreciate about who we are (not what we do), the more capacity we have for real confidence, peace, and self love.

3) Practice just being you. As silly as it may sound, we all need to “practice” being ourselves. We have a great deal of experience being phony or being how we think we’re supposed to be. It actually takes conscious practice for us to be able to just show up and be who we are. We can practice alone, with people we know, and with total strangers. This is all about awareness – paying attention to how we feel, what we’re thinking, what we say, and how we show up. It’s not about getting it right or doing anything specific, it’s about letting go of our erroneous notions of how we think we’re supposed to be, and just allowing ourselves to be who and how we are in the moment.

Have fun with this, talk to others about it, and have a lot of compassion with yourself as you practice – this is big stuff for most of us. This year, instead of trying to be a “new” you, just be yourself and see what happens.

Mike Robbins is a sought-after motivational keynote speaker, coach, and the bestselling author of Focus on the Good Stuff (Wiley) and Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken (Wiley). More info – www.Mike-Robbins.com

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09 jan

Create What You Truly Want in 2011

MikeRobbinsNewAs we embark on another new year of life, I find myself experiencing a mixture of emotions about 2011. I’m excited about the possibilities of this New Year and inspired by the energy of creation that exists at this special time. Similar to last week, there is a magical quality to this first week of the New Year – lots of hope and positive anticipation.

At the same time, especially given the nature of 2010 and all the twists and turns last year took for me personally, so many people around me, and in the world, I find myself feeling a sense of trepidation about setting new goals and jumping right back into the mix of life and work.

As it relates to New Year’s “resolutions,” most people I know and have worked with over the years, including myself, have a somewhat funny or disempowered relationship to goal-setting for the New Year. Whether you spend lots of time and energy creating your New Year’s intentions or you decided years ago that you wouldn’t bother (since in years past by mid-January most of them have gone off the rails or out of your mind anyway); I don’t know too many people who are genuinely inspired, motivated, or empowered by their New Year’s resolutions in a sustainable and real way. How about you?

Here are some of the main reasons I think we aren’t authentically inspired by our goals or truly empowered to manifest them:

- Our “goals” are often about fixing what we think is wrong with us

- Once we set them, we feel a sense of pressure to make them happen

- We worry that we won’t accomplish or achieve what we want, and then we’ll feel like failures

- We don’t get the kind of support we really want and need

- We forget that our intentions are designed to support us, not stress us out

- We get too focused on the outcome and forget about the experience

- We allow competition and scarcity take over

- We get all excited about them at the beginning of the year, and then forget about them

For these and other reasons many us either don’t set powerful intentions for the New Year or we do so out of fear in a way that creates more stress in our lives. One of the best things we can do to shift our perspective about this and create an empowering relationship to our process of setting goals for 2011 is to understand some key distinctions – intentions, goals, and actions.

Intentions – Our intentions are states of being and authentic desires. In other words, we may have an intention to be peaceful, grateful, joyous, loving, successful, healthy, wealthy, or more. Our intentions are our high ideals and are usually at the root of our motivation for any of our specific goals (i.e. “why” we want to do, accomplish, or experience something). Most of us don’t really want goals like a new relationship, more money, or a fit body simply for the sake of those things themselves – we want them (or others) because of what we believe we will experience by having them in our life. By starting with our intentions, we get right to the source of what we truly want. Intentions are the core and the magic of all of our goals and desires.

Goals – Effective and powerful goals are ones that are specific and measurable. We want to be able to track our progress and know for sure if we are reaching our goals or not. This doesn’t have to be a competition (with others or ourselves) and doesn’t have to be filled with stress, pressure, shame, or guilt (which is sadly how we often relate to our results). Having our goals as specific and measurable just makes them clear and more likely to manifest. And, the paradox we have to always remember when setting and working on our goals is that we can’t be attached to the outcome – which will make us crazy and can take us off course with our real intentions. Our goals simply take our intentions and focus them on tangible outcomes in the world.

Actions – Creating action-oriented practices that support us in manifesting our goals and intentions is an essential daily, weekly, and monthly process of our success and fulfillment. Coming up with action plans that inspire us, connect to the goals we’re working on, and fulfill our intentions is vital to all of this. This is where the rubber meets the road, and is often the place where things break down for us. The breakdown with actions usually has more to do with a lack of support and accountability (which then allows us to let circumstances take over and causes us to lose focus) than it does with any “failure” or “weakness” on our part. Having practices that support us and help us take the baby steps needed to manifest our goals and intentions is such an important piece of puzzle.

Here is an example of how this could look in a specific area of life. Let’s say you have a desire to make more money (which is a very common one that many of us have, especially these days). Start with your intention. For example, “My intention is to experience a real sense of abundance, peace, and freedom with money and to easily manifest income.” Then create a specific measurable result-oriented goal. “I will generate $100,000 by 12/31/2011.” The next step is to come up with a few related actions/practices. “I will read three or more books this year on manifesting money. I will set up two or more meetings per month to talk to people about new money-making ideas. I will make a plan each month for specific things I can do to increase my income.”

The final piece of the process is creating some kind of regular accountability and support structure for this. You can hire a coach, join a mastermind group, create a success/ accountability partnership with a friend, and more. Having someone or a group of people you make commitments to and whom you empower to hold you accountable will make all the difference in the world.

Have fun with this. Don’t take it or yourself too seriously…it’s just life, you’re allowed to make mistakes, screw things up, and fall down (which we all do and always will). Be kind to yourself in this process and in this New Year. And, when we remember that our intentions (those states of being and authentic desires) are what we are truly after (not the specific outcomes or actions), it can allow us to take the pressure off of ourselves, have more fun, and trust that things will manifest as they are meant to – especially if we open up and let them show up!

Mike Robbins is a sought-after motivational keynote speaker, coach, and the bestselling author of Focus on the Good Stuff (Wiley) and Be Yourself, Everyone Else is Already Taken (Wiley). More info – www.Mike-Robbins.com

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05 jan

The Top Ten Tips for Living in Love in 2011

Marci-ShimoffWhat’s the one thing that would make 2011 your best year ever? More money? A better job? Losing 20 pounds? As great as those might be, there’s something else that I guarantee will create a magical year: love. Not Hollywood or Hallmark-card kind of love, but love as a state of being: the kind of love I call Love for No Reason.

Is it possible to live in a state of unconditional love all of the time? That’s the question I set out to answer in my latest book, Love for No Reason.

After interviewing more than 150 people I call “Love Luminaries,” including scientists, psychologists, spiritual teachers, and people whose lives were rich in the qualities of the heart, I found that they all share certain qualities that anyone can develop to experience more unconditional love.

Here are 10 tips from my new book to get your New Year off to an unconditionally loving start:

1.    Anchor Yourself in Safety. Feeling stressed, unsupported, or fearful takes love off-line. To quickly switch out of stress mode, take a few deep breaths and consciously relax your pelvic floor, located at the base of your body. This kick-starts your parasympathetic system and activates the physiology of unconditional love.

2.    Sense Your Support. Choose to believe that this is a friendly universe. When you find yourself facing a challenging situation, look for the ways that the situation is ultimately serving you. Ask yourself, Is this for my enjoyment, growth, or both?

3.    Feel Your Feelings. Research shows that stifling your emotions or expressing them excessively is equally damaging to your capacity to experience love. Luckily, there’s a third option: feeling your feelings. Practice experiencing your feelings directly and completely by observing them as they move through your mind and body—and then letting them go.

4.    Practice Self-Compassion. Try a simple self-love technique that brings you into your heart and reminds you to treat yourself with care. Throughout the day, ask yourself What’s the most loving thing I can do for myself right now? or What’s the most loving way I can be with myself right now? And then pay attention to the answer.

5.    Unleash the Power of Forgiveness. Use the ancient Hawaiian kahuna forgiveness technique of Ho’oponopono to clear your blocks to love. Based on the principle of taking total responsibility for everything that happens to you, the technique consists of sitting quietly and mentally repeating, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you,” over and over.

6.    Let Love In. Research shows that when you receive, your levels of serotonin – the neurotransmitter of well-being and happiness – rise just as much as when you give. The next time someone offers you a gift – a present, a compliment, or some assistance – smile and say thank you, while consciously feeling appreciation in your heart.

7.    Live with a Grateful Heart. Start your own gratitude practice by consciously registering and savoring all that you’re receiving right now. Gratitude is the fast track to love. List five things you are grateful for at the end of each day. It turned my life around and it will do the same for yours.

8.    Wish Others Well. Try “beaming love” to people—your friends and family, as well as strangers you pass in the street. It fills your own heart in the process.

9.    Listen for the Subtitles. Create a safe space for others to communicate with you by being sensitive to the unspoken feelings and needs that underlie people’s words.  When you listen from your heart, your body’s fear system shuts off, culturing more compassion and love.

10.    Plug into a Larger Heart. Love thrives when we feel at peace inside. Recharge your spiritual batteries through silence, meditation, or prayer.  Tapping into this inner wellspring of spirit will boost your capacity to experience Love for No Reason by a factor of infinity.

Use these tips to create magic in your life this year. When you’re open-hearted and loving, you attract the good, because you’re radiating the good. What could be more magical than that?

Adapted from Love for No Reason: 7 Steps to Creating a Life of Unconditional Love (Free Press, December 2010). Love for No Reason offers a breakthrough approach to experiencing a lasting state of unconditional love—the kind of love that doesn’t depend on another person, situation, or romantic partner, and that you can access at any time and in any circumstance. This is the key to lasting joy and fulfillment in life. Order Love for No Reason now and receive the Love for No Reason Bonus Gift Package free at www.TheLoveBook.com Follow Marci on Twitter @Marci_Shimoff.

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04 jan

What You Mean to Me

JayForteI am in a relationship unlike any other – ever. My partner and I are different – in the way we support each other, care for each other, respect each other and love each other. We fit. We go together.

So to say, “I love you” isn’t large enough for all that we are to each other. It needs something more – something different and something more personal. And as the holidays were on us, I was looking for an exceptional way to appreciate the gift of this relationship.

I found some inspiration on a plaque I saw in the the airline SkyMall Magazine (company name is “Signals”) on one of my recent speaking trips. I borrowed a few of their lines, then added more. The result is a great list of new ways to say how much someone means to you. The life ones start the list – the emotional ones end the list. My favorite two – the ones that mean the most to me – are highlighted.

You are the cheese to my macaroni.

You are the horizon to my sky.

You are the bacon to my eggs.

You are the laces to my sneakers.

You are the jelly to my peanut butter.

You are the smile to my face.

You are the gravy to my mashed potatoes.

You are marshmallow to my hot chocolate.

You are the bubbles to my bath.

You are the milk to my cookie.

You are the ink to my pen.

You are the ketchup to my french fries.

You are the water to my ocean.

You are the icing on my cupcake.

You are the salt to my pepper.

You are the mustard to my pastrami.

You are the toner to my printer.

You are the charger to my phone.

You are the caramel drizzle to my macchiato.

You are star to my Christmas tree.

You are the key to my home.

You are the BBQ sauce to my ribs.

You are the cornbread to my greens.

You are the dressing to my salad.

You are the lens to my glasses.

You are the moon to my stars.

You are schmear to my bagel.

You are the noodles to my pad thai.

You are the tequila to my margarita.

You are the flower to my plant.

You are the first thought to my day.

You are the cocktail sauce to my shrimp.

You are the pesto to my pasta.

You are the quiet to my night.

You are the wind to my kite.

You are the strength to my fear.

You are the spotlight to my painting.

You are the curtains to my windows.

You are the art to my walls.

You are the flame to my candle.

You are the lemon to my hummus.

You are the toothpaste to my toothbrush.

You are the honey to my tea.

You are the key to my car.

You are the GPS to my road trip.

You are the garage to my house.

You are the tea to my hot water.

You are the butter to my bread.

You are the cover to my pan.

You are the olives to my pantry.

You are the caramel to my apples.

You are the sun to my summer.

You are the star to my sky.

You are the green light to my intersection.

You are the ring to my phone.

You are the wasabi to my sushi.

You are cash to my bank account.

You are the letters to my words.

You are the keyboard to my computer.

You are the images to my photos.

You are the Armani label to my ties.

You are the winner to my race.

You are the comfort to my sorrow.

You are the breath to my lungs.

You are the inspiration to my mind.

You are the passion to my soul.

You are the hero to my life’s story.

You are the beat to my heart.

Create your own – use the the things that have great meaning for you and who you are sharing it with. Never miss an opportunity to share how you feel. Never wait; never impose any limits on how personal and clever you can be. Loving someone and being loved in return is the greatest gift in life.

And though I know what “I love you” means, I get a much stronger feeling when I hear “you are the hero to my life’s story…” And by the way, don’t wait for holidays to use these. May they become the way you constantly share what special people mean to you.

Jay Forte is a greatness coach and motivational speaker. He is the author of The Greatness Zone – Know Yourself, Find Your Fit, Transform the World and Fire Up! Your Employees and Smoke Your Competition. He coaches and inspires people to access their personal and professional greatness, to bring their best to their world. More information at www.TheGreatnessZone.com and www.LiveFiredUp.com.

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Posted by Jay Forte on January 4th, 2011 in Family, New Directions, Personal Stories, Relationships, Spirituality, Things We Love | No comments

01 jan

2011: Gateway of the One

SkySheridanA decade of the 21st century come and gone, and what science and spirit both predicted and prophesized have come true. Looking back at the turn of the millennium it is hard to believe we didn’t see the worst financial global crisis coming, a killer Hurricane Katrina, devastating tsunami or astronomical earthquake in Haiti that would wipe out hundreds of thousands of lives in an instant. We didn’t have Youtube, Wikipedia, iPhones, Facebook or Twitter and Google, our search engine lifeline, was just getting started. Y2K, the technological media myth, wasn’t the end, and we finally got to party like it was 1999.

After 9/11 (a code that we dial in for help and that contains the powerful number 11) the words “Terror” and “War” constantly struck fear into our hearts and worry into our minds. We were so consumed by giving our personal and collective power over to outer authority and outside sources that 2012 was only a blip on the temporal map and was only seen as some Mayan tale of the end of time. It felt separation would rule us all.

Here and now, eleven years later, time seems to have ended as everything became instantaneous. We have screens and technological devices wherever we go, miniaturized, plugged into our ears, tapped into our touch, connecting us all at speeds quicker than light through our thoughts. The world is literally at our fingertips and in our hands now.

We are starting to see, we are the power. The first African American president was elected because we decided we are ready for “Change” and that “Yes We Can”. A global financial crisis has pulled the veil over our eyes and the truth has been revealed about a monetary system that controls our world governments and seeks to make profit even at the expense of people and the planet, so that the few can have so much, and so that the many have nothing because of it.

Everything has been amplified, exponentially accelerated, including our consciousness and connection to each other. We have gone beyond the information age, and into the age of awareness. 2012 is just a year away now, and happens to be one of the most talked about and researched dates of our time. Depending on which side of the 2012 coin we focus on, is the one we will empower. One side is descending into destruction while the other is ascending in creation. It is our choice.

Even with as much destruction and chaos occurring all around and within us as the whole system feels like it is imploding, many are taking their power back and are starting to be creative, new and sustainable, not just for ourselves, but for the hope, integrity and joy of our posterity. Truly, we now know, that we are the ones we have been waiting for. No one is going to save us, or give us the power we don’t already have ourselves. 2011 is our time to become, to step out of the perception of what we’re not, and see what we already are.

Lets focus a second on the number 11. It is going to come up a lot this year. It is considered a master number, which just means that its purpose is to raise spiritual (inner) awareness for higher conscious. It is a number that drives us to serve altruistically. So this is the year that companies and consumers have an opportunity to make people and the planet the product that profits. 11 is known as the number of transformation. Like a butterflies wings on either side, it is our call to start to fly.

Eleven is also contains two number 1s, representing the two sides of duality, you and me, us and them, right and wrong, black and white. It is the end and the beginning, the Alpha and the Omega. The significance of two sides, or souls, standing together in unity, represents our inherent oneness and the path to our greater good. That no matter how separate we continue to try to be, the truth is we are all connected.

Graphically, 11 looks like a gateway, or a doorway. 2011 is a portal year that we are passing through, and it is calling us to recognize our unity, and to come together to restore power to the people. It is time to invoke the yogi’s “Namaste” and see yourself in every other, and in the world, like a constant mirror reflecting back to you your inner state of awareness and power.

The number 11 shows us that we must come together to create a consciousness that extends beyond the limitations of self, and to embrace our interconnection and interdependence. These are the keys to our thriving future, one that knows no limitations of inequality, poverty, hunger, war, dis-ease, and the endless destruction of our home and resources, Planet Earth.

Together, we have an great opportunity this year to use all the technology, all the connection, and the new business opportunities to shift into a creative paradigm that honors that place within you, that is also within me, which is perfect, powerful and divine. It is time to walk through the gateway of our oneness and unleash our human potential that has been kept from us through our own choice of fear, separation and limitation. This is the year to believe in possibility, to bring love to every part of our lives, yes, even into the marketplace, where the love of power is being replaced by the power of love.

The great cosmic cycle is almost complete. Our sun is aligning with the galactic center of our Milky Way. New energies are flowing through us, and all around us. It is now time to allow the number 11 to activate our hearts as one, creating a gateway where we will pass through, leaving behind our fears and all of our small, myopic beliefs, to emerge on the other side of 2012 with love as the predominant vibration on Earth. Love is the only energy, or currency, that is worth our time, and priceless in value. 2011 is our invitation to transform our lives into conscious gateways, for ourselves, and for the world. It is time to be here and now, and to wake up to the truth that we are the ONE.

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