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25 jan

Does Your Paramour Have All 5 Out of 5 of These Essentials for Love?

Whenever I coach people in improving their love life, I always start by asking folks what they are looking for in a longterm partner. Everyone gives me kinda the same list. They want someone

sexy, smart, funny, charismatic, successful, rich

I say it’s okay to want these things – but there are 5 essentials which must come first — and if your partner doesn’t have these 5 essentials, then it doesn’t matter how sexy, smart, funny, charismatic, successful, rich he/she might be — they will not make a good partner!

The following is a FREE EXCERPT from my OPRAH-loved book, Prince Harming Syndrome. (By the way guys, this empowering love advice also applies to making sure you avoid PRINCESS HARMINGS.) Voila! The FREE EXCERPT:

Prince Charming/Princess Charming Trait #1: Does he/she want to be in a committed relationship? (Basically, does he embrace character values that match with your values for a committed happily ever after future? Are there “value deal breakers” when it comes to marriage, monogamy,kids, religion, etc.)

Prince Charming/Princess Charming Trait #2: Does he/she value growing as a person? (Basically, does he embrace character values that show he has an open and growing soul—values self-responsibility and seeking insights?)

Prince Charming/Princess Charming Trait #3: Does he/she understand that a relationship serves two functions. It’s not solely a “den of pleasure”—it’s also a soul’s “laboratory for growth.” (Basically, does he embrace character values that show he absolutely wants a “relationship of shared virtue”?)

Prince Charming/Princess Charming Trait #4: Does he/she make you feel “safe” in the relationship to reach your fullest potential? (Surprise: The top feeling a relationship should inspire is “safety.” Without safety, you will never arrive at feeling love—because you won’t allow yourself to be vulnerable enough for true intimacy. If your man embraces high-integrity character values, then you will trust him enough to reveal your truest self!)

Prince Charming/Princess Charming Trait #5: Is your paramour happy? (Surprise: If you want to live happily ever after, your paramour has to be happy! If he/she’s unhappy all the time, he/she will view you through non-rosy, dark-lensed life glasses! You need to find a man who embraces character values that help him be emotionally stable, eventempered, addiction-free and full of high self-esteem.)

For more empowering love advice, check out my OPRAH-loved book, Prince Harming Syndrome.

Posted by Karen Salmansohn on January 25th, 2010 in Relationships | 2 comments Read related posts in , , ,

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  • LOVE these insights!!

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