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18 jul

I Need a Change

I decided from reading your book that I was going to “put my story away” I no longer want it to define me. I will give you a quick synopsis so you know where I come from. I brought a condo 60-65 miles upstate from where I lived in Bronx NY. I was a divorced single parent to a 11 year old girl. 2 months after buying the condo I became pregnant from my boyfriend who did not live with me. At first I didn’t think it was such a huge deal because we had been dating for 2 years and were serious but in no real rush he had a 5 year old daughter. Her mother was deceased. When I was 8 weeks pregnant I found he had been unfaithful for our whole relationship. I thought if aborting the baby. I kept him he is now 8 years old. The whole time of my pregnancy I behaved in ways I am now not so proud of I begged and pleaded and believed my boyfriend when he feed me garbage. Long and short when my son turned 3 yrs old I sold my condo and bought a house with him 2 months after moving in I found out he had been unfaithful with another woman for I year. I stayed 18 months until my daughter graduated high school. I then moved back to the Bronx rented an apartment filed chap 13. He still lives in the house and has wanted me to keep a relationship with him. I’ve been done with that for 2 years. I want to move to North Carolina but I need his permission although nothing is in the court system regarding custody I want to do it as painless as possible he’s really not that involved with my son in and out all the time just constant phone calls, I want him to just let me go with my son I want him to sign over custody to me I will still make it possible for him to see his son if he wants to

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Posted by First 30 Days on July 18th, 2009 in Personal Stories | 1 comments

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  • Nurse 6626,
    Thanks for sharing pieces of your life. This might seem like an unexpected response to your post, but CONGRATULATIONS to you! You’ve made the most important decision of your life, and you have no idea how it will impact your life moving forward. You decided to “put away your story” as Ariane writes about. In other words, you’ve stepped over your EXCUSES. You stepped over the excuses of divorce, an unfaithful boyfriend, behavior and decisions you admit you aren’t proud of, and even bankruptcy and you’re not allowing those experiences to define you. Do you realize how many people would use those experiences as excuses for why they can’t change or move forward in their lives?!? Instead, you are hopefully learning from them and using them to develop you into a stronger woman and mother. I applaud you for taking hold of your change, and trust that as you continue to grow, your life will be an inspiration to many women. All the best to you!

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