Archive for April, 2009

30 apr

Changing into a Risky Career

Hello everyone, my name is Olimpia. I have been a substitute teacher for 10 yrs and I’m so burned out of this. I attended several colleges and in seven years received an M.S. in Educational Counseling but never had the luck to work in this profession on a permanent basis. I have always had a fear in change and taking a risk in doing what I have always loved and that is to be a professonal vocalist. I have always had a passion to sing and I do it well. Being a professional singer has always been my dream job. I have always thought a singing career would be impossible to achieve since the odds in being successful are so rare. I am 43 yrs. old and thought that this dream job would be too late to accomplish. Recently, I have been changing my negative thought process. In addition, trusting in my higher power about my deepest desires to sing has been totally inspirational. The last few weeks I have been going out and socializing. The results have been positive because I have been meeting people related in the music industry. The complexity of this career change is that this type of field is a very risky one.
If anyone (including you, Ariane)can help me with any positive advice about my career change, please let me know.

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Posted by First 30 Days on April 30th, 2009 in Personal Stories | No comments

30 apr

Thank You

I was not sure how to say thank you one on one, so I want to thank both JaneWolff2 and tapping bear for their comments.

It is wonderful to hear how other people handle the changes in their lives; it really helps. Also, JaneWolff2, your comments couldn’t have come at a better time. I was feeling a little down today while out looking for a job, but your comments reminded me just Who has my life in His hands.

Thank you both so much.

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Posted by First 30 Days on April 30th, 2009 in Personal Stories | No comments

29 apr

Moving?

I am planning on moving to a different state with my boyfriend where we will have the opportunity to purchase our own home instead of living in apt as I have most of my adult life. My worry or concern is my family doesnt want me to go because I have a seven year old son and they feel I wont have the family support for him like we do in our current state. I know my boyfriend will help me with my son in any way he can but my familys concerns are making me doubt whether our not I should move? Please help.

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Posted by First 30 Days on April 29th, 2009 in Personal Stories | No comments

29 apr

Tips for Teens

I recently spoke to a group of teenagers about everything from being happier, to feeling more confident, to answering their questions about love, sex and being less stressed and overwhelmed. The conversation free-flowed. I hadn’t really planned what I was going to say….but I had a friend take some notes on some of the nuggets I did share with them. When you’re in flow, you don’t remember what you even said! So, below are some tips you may want to give your teen or pass onto a friend. What was interesting to me was how relevant they were to me, at the ripe age of 36. Perhaps we all need the same reminders.

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Posted by Ariane de Bonvoisin on April 29th, 2009 in Teens | No comments Read related posts in

27 apr

Alone and Depressed

hi, i am a retired 53 year old female. my 65 year old husband died in 2005, then my 45 year old boyfriend died in 2008, both to cancer. i was the caregiver. i am drained and depressed. i don’t sleep much and have to take medication to help me sleep which does not work very well. i have gone to support groups, etc. i need to find something that will give me a purpose in life. i also have been taking medication for panic attacks, anxiety since i was in high school. i would like to volunteer or help others but am scared and having a hard time even thinking about getting started. taking the first step is hard but i have to do something. i live in a retirement community in florida that has alot of activities and volunteer organizations but the thought of going out there and interacting with a bunch of strangers makes me nervous, so i have to take more medication which i don’t like. any suggestions? please don’t suggest anything to do with cancer as i have too many bad memories and still can’t focus on the good times. thank you.

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Posted by First 30 Days on April 27th, 2009 in Personal Stories | 5 comments

23 apr

After 11 Years . . .

I’m 29 years old, have two wonderful children and have been married for almost 11 years.

I can’t say it’s all been bad, but there is a lot of hurt and resentment that I think I have sat on. A few years ago, I had the suspicion that my husband was cheating. At the time I told him, just be honest with me. We can deal with it and move on. Of course that was after the anger.

It took him over 6 years to finally fess up to me that he had cheated. When he told me, the reaction I had was one I didn’t expect. It flared a bit of anger, but after a few minutes…it was gone, like I didn’t even care.

I’ve caught him putting personal ads up on the internet, he denied it and tried to say it was a ‘friends’.

All the while, we’ve talked about it and I’ve in a since turned my head and taken his word that he isn’t doing anything physical.

Last week after going to the beach for a couple days with our children, I noticed a charge in the bank account, so I looked into it further. Again, I caught him putting ads up. He says his biggest complaint is not getting enough sex. I told him maybe if you gave me what I want, all of the other non sex stuff, you might get more of what you want.

I just find it hard to believe that more sex will settle anything. I’ve decided that I am done. I am not scared anymore, I am not worried about being ok without him. I am just ready to breathe. To be me.

But what is holding me back is, we’ve agreed he will keep the house. I don’t want it. But I pay a majority of the bills and without my help, he will have to either find some roommates or find a different job to pay for his bills. It was my idea for him to change jobs over a year ago so he could be home more. Now I want out and feel responsible that he can’t pay for his part of the bills.

I’m angry with him, and hurt, but not so much so that I want to ’stick’ it to him. I just don’t know what to do. I just know that I no longer envision my life and his together.

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Posted by First 30 Days on April 23rd, 2009 in Personal Stories | 1 comment

20 apr

Family First

Hello. My name is Linda. I left my high paying job in the cities mostly to care for my parents, but also left to reclaim my health and sanity as well. I now live in a rural area and just recently was laid off from the first job I could find up here. It took me 8 months to find that job, and now I am into another 6 months of finding a new one. I fell into my high paying job right out of high school and stayed there for 21 years. I regret I did not take the time to go to school, especially now when so many employers require you have a degree whether you can do the job or not. Hard to get your foot in the door. Have been meeting with a career counselor, but it is a little discouraging right now. Trying to do alot of studying so I can pass a pre-entrance exam to a tech school; problem is, I still don’t know what I want to be when I “grow up.” Somewhere along the line, I lost a part of me that knew what I wanted. A lot of jobs are in the cities, but I will not abandon what I started out to do in regards to my parents. All in all, just trying to keep a positive attitude. I don’t have a huge support system, but thought this website would help. I feel God has a plan for me; I’m just a little impatient trying to figure out what that plan is; maybe that is what He is trying to teach me:)

Thanks for listening.

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Posted by First 30 Days on April 20th, 2009 in Personal Stories | 2 comments

19 apr

I Need Ismail Kibirige’s Contact Info

I’m a client of Ismail’s but his number seems not to be connected at his Manhattan clinic. Do you have it? Or could you forward my message on to Dr. Kibirige?

Thanks so much.

Kathleen Turco-Lyon
917-771-0107
clearock@mindspring.com

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Posted by First 30 Days on April 19th, 2009 in Personal Stories | No comments

19 apr

Spirituality for Kids

I’ve had a few parents ask me recently how to help their kids develop their spiritual essence. I love this question. Kids are naturally spiritual. They live in the present moment. They love unconditionally. They don’t believe their minds. They don’t compare themselves and think they are unique. They overflow with joy.

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Posted by Ariane de Bonvoisin on April 19th, 2009 in Family | No comments Read related posts in

16 apr

Never Satisfied

Whoa, I really don’t know where to start with sharing my crazy life with all you viewers, but let me start off by saying that, even sometimes your inner gut can be wrong. And the key to getting by is just by accepting things for the way they fall- – even though it’s what you thought you might want.

A few years ago, I broke up with my bf of almost 7 years. We were dating since I was a Junior in high School and our relationship had its ups and downs like every other one, but as the years went on, I started to realize that there was so much in life that I had missed out on. Almost all my friends went away for college and I stayed back home. We did EVERYTHING together and what made it hard was it was like that from the beginning. It was like routine for us and I didn’t mind at all, but one day out of the blue I decided to break up with him. Talk about a total shocker on his part. He thought I was joking around, but I wasn’t.

I felt free and happy to be single…..well almost single. Let’s rewind a little. What led to the break up was this guy at work who had confessed he had a crush on me. It led me to think that there was so much I had been missing out on.

Anyways, I kinda started hanging out with this guy outside of work and it was like that for I would say about 8 months. It was UGLY, a huge mistake and till this day, I HATE this co-worker. He drove me up the wall, while at work, when we got out of work and it just made me livid!! Not to mention, I let him borrow $3000…and that was DUMB. Yeah, it took him almost 2 years to pay me back – and it wasn’t pretty.

Soon after all that drama, I met this other guy who I thought was the cutest thing ever. He was very different from the rest. My sisters didn’t agree with my choice, but I would say I gave my all. He never did ask me to be his girlfriend, but after maybe 4 months of dating, he told me that he didn’t wanna see me anymore. ???? Like did I miss something? Whatevers!

I have to add that right before the coworker drama had ended, my ex of almost 7 years had started to come around again and I felt we were close to the point where we could just talk about the current relationships we were in.

Soon after this guy didn’t wanna see me anymore, the nicest guy walked into my life. All I had to say about him, was he is just soooo nice. But hold up!!! There’s a catch…I want to move. I made that clear from the beginning because at this point in my life, I wasn’t about to let anyone get in my way.

I would say we were dating for not even a month b4 he asked me to be his girlfiend, and I couldn’t have been more stoked. We took a trip for the weekend, and it was sooo fun! Months went by and it started to irritate me how he was so gaga over me. I made fun of him all the time and I have to admit, that I was also rude to him. He really did give me his 110% and I really have to admit that I was scared. I held myself back from admitting how much I really cared about him and we started to always argue about the whole moving thing. It was me that started all the arguements because a HUGE part of me felt guilty that he was sooo in love with me that if I did decide to move, I would have wasted his time while we were together.

So one day, I decided the best thing to do was to
break up with him. I was sooo sure that it was what i wanted and he just kinda said okay. I mean he double and triple asked me if I was soo sure, and all I had to say was yes. We were still talking a few weeks after the break up, but then I decided that it would be easier for him if we didn’t talk at all (stupid). In the mean time, I guess he had called this girl and they have been hanging out ever since.

So then I decided that I wanted him back. No budge on his part. I practically begged for him back and explained through a few conversations, voicemails and a letter how much I made a mistake and I was willing to do the whole thing with him (because he wants to settle down already). Well, weeks have passed and he could care less to hear how depressed I am. Because you know why, I BROKE UP WITH HIM. I did….and like I had told him, that it’s just something that I’m going to have to live with for the rest of my life.

While I was going through this depression stage, I had called on my ex (for about 7 years). Although he couldn’t really help me, he did have to say that he was still in love with me and he also gave me an ultimatum. Now my ex is in a relationship, but we always had this thing where we could be so open with each other…..so

I’m so sorry, but how can I make that kind of decision when I’m trying to get over my most current relationship.

And now that I’m actually single, maybe I should move away, but there’s so much more to it. The recession. Scary thoughts! I have a really good job, but I am just still so torn with the whole Mr. Nice guy thing and I don’t know what to do..

Any advice?

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Posted by First 30 Days on April 16th, 2009 in Personal Stories | No comments