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15 jan

Pension Is Relaxation?

I am going to turn 55 years of age this year. My goal is to retire early and focus on many new aspects in life. Financially, I think it can happen; at least my financial planners say so.
A strong desire I have is to write my autobiography- a plain old boy raised in a steel-town in the suburbs of Pittsburgh. I also would like to spend more time with my father who is very lonely in the assisted living home due to Alzheimers disease. Sadly, dad does not know that we had to sell the house because mom could not live there due to her illness. If he ever found out,it would literally kill him. He often asks us what is new up on Grant Street. I am getting tired of making up stories. I told my mom that someday and somehow it might slip out. There are many things I see that could be done- via different programs to make people happier in nursing homes. It is very frustrating to see people sitting in a room with no one there to talk to them. My goal is to remember his smile and not his frown. I still am glade that at least he recognizes who I am. My prayer is that he doesn’t progress to far in the advance stage, because even now it is hard to watch him. He just sits there and barely talks. He really doesn’t carry on a conversation. Since he retired at 55, I would like to do the same thing in honor of him. My wife doesn’t like this idea but I told her that it is my decision. I physically know when my body will be ready to go into relaxation mode. Plus, I want to do it while I am healthy. I have watched two of my best friends pass away in their thirties. I had a nephew just die in his early twenties. So, there are no guarantees I will be allowed to spend all of that pension money, because only God knows when my last breath will occur.

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Posted by First 30 Days on January 15th, 2009 in Personal Stories | 1 comments

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  • apatrizi, it sounds like there is more than one thing going on in your life. My grandmother had Alzheimer’s too. My grandfather’s plan was to stay with her until the end but she escaped and was almost hit by a car! That is when the family made the decision to put her in a home. My grandfather fell ill shortly after that and the care of both of them fell onto my mom. This was a tremendous weight on my mom as well as the rest of the family. I think you are working out your relationship with your father and his illness as well as your own mortality. In the end however this is a financial decision that should include your wife. Even if you are not “allowed to spend all of that pension money” due to an untimely death (although the average life expectancy in the U.S. is 77.8 years) I’m sure you would want your wife to be provided for comfortably.

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