The Sweetest Stranger

There comes a moment in the first few days when you realize that this is it—you’re the mom and it’s up to you. This is exhilarating and terrifying at the same time!

It’s common to feel like you know nothing, especially if this is your first child. You have a lot to learn. Keep in mind that there is no one way to be a good mom. Everyone’s definition of what’s right can look different. What’s important is to give yourself plenty of space and permission to learn, make mistakes and enjoy the process.

Here are a few actions to take right now to help you tackle the learning curve in the first few weeks:

• Make a sign or note that says “I have permission to be a learner!” and tape it to your bathroom mirror as a reminder that you need time and space to master your new job.
• Use all the resources available, just as if you were learning any new job. Find the books, DVDs, classes, support groups, web sites, magazines and mentors that work for you.
• Notice where you are learning and drop the self-criticism. Emphasize the positive, just like you will with your children as they learn and grow.