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Big Move, Big Regret.
First off, let me just say that I hate complaining and feeling sorry for myself... especially when there are so many people out there who have it so much worse off than I do. Right now I just feel so helpless and full of regret. I wish I could turn off these feelings, but I can't.
First, a little background... I'm in my late 20's, married to my husband for a little over 2 years and no kids. We are originally from upstate New York and relocated to Charlotte, NC in late September this past fall.
Ever since we graduated from college my now husband has been wanting to leave the area to explore a bigger job market. We were both fortunate enough to land jobs right out of college and mine was one that I happened to be pretty proud of, so I had no intentions of going anywhere. Fast forward 5 years later when I am in the same position, small annual raises and seemed to have hit the glass ceiling. I started to become frustrated and washed out. Finally, I decided to "let" my husband have a go at other job markets and explore what else is out there. He had absolutely no issues and found himself with multiple job offers right off the bat. Me? Not so lucky. Fortunately, we were in a position where it was ok for me to follow without a job secured and that is what we did. 5 months later and I am still without a job and really just regretting this move all together.
It's not just me though, my husband is regretting the move as well. We both have openly talked about how we have experienced first hand that the grass is not always greener and just can't wait to get the heck out of here! We are stuck at least until September because of his job terms but I am afraid that it will take much longer than that to secure employment back in NY. I try to look at the bright side, that at least we are both on the same page but it's tough to stay motivated and not worry when I am unemployed in a city where I know basically no one. I don't even really have the job hunt to keep me busy at this point because what would be the point if we are leaving in 7 months? I just feel so lonely and really just helpless.
Any tips you could provide on focusing on the positive and possibly making the time go by a bit faster would be great. Again, I hate that I am letting something like the tear me apart. I just really feel like moving here was the biggest mistake ever. :(
Shared by: KT2011 on 2/20/12
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It's sounds to me like you have the perfect opportunity to explore your strengths, true desires and build upon them. Time is a rare commodity. If it's there, treasure it and guard it.
Warm regards.
I can really empathize with you here. I'm so sorry. The first thing that occurs to me is something that might provide some quick relief. I'd consider volunteering at an arts organization, such as, a museum or gallery. Even elementary schools take volunteer readers. I suggest this, because the selection process for volunteering is so much shorter -- potentially -- than the hiring process for a job. Plus, volunteering is easier to leave when it comes time to move. Day-to-day, though, you get to interact with people.