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Why can't I let go?
The divorce is finally final. The property has been divided. He cut off my cell phone on Saturday and somehow that felt so personal--the final cut that cut all ties.
We were married 27 years (half my life) and a year ago he told me he was involved with another woman. He moved out, moved in with her, moved back home, left again, moved back in with her, came back home, and finally they are together and we are not. During the in and out, we attended a Passionate Life Beyond Affairs seminar in Dallas, counseling, did work on Harvel Hendricks' couples training, yadayada.
He left me with so few answers and no logical explanation. I've always thought we'd grow old together and this has been devastating.
I am so tired of the grief and sorrow, the anger and the pain. I'm in counseling and reading every book written on marriage, letting go, relationship addictions, etc. Meditating, praying, eft, Sodona method, but the tears won't stop. Maybe I'm trying to do too much. I just want the pain to stop... to hurry along the grief.
I have read that healing takes 1 year for every 5 years of the relationship. At that rate, I feel like I'm looking at a 5 year prison sentence. Will I ever be happy again? Or even just okay? Everything and everybody says I will, but it sure doesn't feel like that can be true.Shared by: bettychange on 3/15/10