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I am the person that attracts any LOSER with in a 50 mile radius. I have gone for years at a time of not being with anyone personally. After raising my daughter and her getting married, I kinda started looking for real. Figured the only person that, if it happen again, would be hurt. While I was out walking the dog in town a guys I have known for 20 years stopped and asked if I would want to go ut sometime. I always liked him and figured that I knew him well enough and said yes. He was great, we had so much incommon it was funny and the first few dates where pretty good. Boy was I wrong. After a few weeks I started seeing the drinking side come out. I knew he drank but I had no idea how much. I have tried to break up with him, and told him it was because of the drinking. He has cut back alot but there have been so many other things that I don't think I can live with. Thank goodness we have our own places. I feel that I must be, I don't know how to say it, but loser,and desperate both come to mind. I have mand up my mind to break up with him. And I will listen to my intuition from now on. Not to say there won't be anymore losers but won't put up with it this long.
Thank you. I don't see to much that pertains to me personally but there have been a few that were right on the money. Thank you again and keep up the good work.
Shared by: memaw1001 on 11/10/09
Dear, dear Memaw1001,
You are not a loser! And if "desperate" and "loser" comes to mind, it's time to change that negative thought form into a positive one, like I am a optimistic, loving, caring person who deserves loving, caring relationships, or something positive in your own words. Have you heard the phrase -- you attract what you think? Time to change those negatives.
Just what is it that you are looking for in another person? Can you make a "grocery" list of what you want in a relationship?
What is lacking within yourself that you seek outside of yourself? Find that out, start giving yourself whatever that is.
Be thankful for all that IS in your life -- your daughter, successfully rearing her, your talents, gifts and abilities --all the things in your life.
Read Ariane's book. There's a lot helpful information which may trigger some ideas.
Check out the changes in this website and find the ones which speak to you, and follow them, one at a time, daily for the 30 days. See if it dosen't make a difference!
And keep us posted!
You take care and nurture you!
Hi. You are in the right direction. Just keep listening to that inner voice...raise your self respect.
Also, stop telling yourself you attract losers as you will keep getting what you focus on. Watch that inner critic that has decided on your 'story'. Its not the real you.
The real you wants some amazing man who can deeply love you.
Why dont you sign up for our First30Days of Romance emails.....let us help you focus on the right things when attracting a great relationship.
If your inner world is negative or toxic, you will attract that on the outside. Make a commitment to yourself to be gentle, loving and kind to yourself no matter what. Let yourself be human. Each relationship teaches you something so good for you for jumping in and raising your standard enough to get out.
Remember, the time before a decision is so much harder than the decision itself, so go for it.
Blessings and may the right man find you quickly
Ariane