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Does one ever find out if the other person involved cheated? What should be asked? Should you follow your personal feelings about what happened?
Shared by: elliemae on 8/13/09
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Dear lovinglife,
If I knew the truth I would be leaving this relationship. I had gut feelings something was going on. I questioned it and of course it was denied. Around christmas time I found out he bought her a Victoria Secret gift card(that I'm certain of I have the receipt)he also bought other items that I don't know what. She called our house on Christmas day to wish HIM a Merry X-mas and to see what he received for x-mas. He lied to my face, when I asked about everything. I just cann't seem to get past this. He still seems disinterested in the relationship. We have 3 children together and right now I'm trying to make it work. It's hard. I totally do not trust what he says to me. Both sides of the family are involved. Not a good thing.
Dear elliemae (?),
mmmh you are asking an interesting question.
So let me ask you a question (or more :-))?
What would change if you would knew the truth?
How do you got into this place of uncertainty? Is it "just" a feeling (and I am a big believer in my "gut feeling" also called intuition) or do you have facts?
What happened that you guys are feeling uncertain in the relationship in the first place? How could YOU reestablish the trust,faith, love, etc.?
I have been in a relationship were my partner cheated on me. I forgave him. but the reason for that was, that we rekindled our "intimacy" and I dont mean on the sexual level (only). We are all looking for connection, but many of us are too afraid to allow ourselves to really go to the place of real intimacy. Because of fear of getting hurt.
I dont know if that helped you at all! If you need more "ideas", I would love to continue talking to you - which would also require for you to share more on what this feeling is based. with loads of respect Do