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NatalieB

Question:How do we tell our 4 yrs old that he is adopted?

His birth mother dropped him off at the emergency room; hours after he was born. Of course at 4 yrs. old we do not plan to give him all of these details. But when he becomes an adult there are no records available for him to eventually find her.

For the time being how do we start to conversation with him?
Thanks!

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